Friends I've deleted....Please don't get me wrong.....

@tdemex (3540)
United States
August 4, 2009 11:24am CST
Friends I've deleted, I don't want to offend anyone! On my home page I have discussions my friends have started, and as I increase my friends that section becomes diluted with topics I don't really care for, the newbies start posts that are not discussions but yes or no questions! I like discussions, therefore I have a selected group of friends that post good food for thought discussions, so I go thru my list and purge friends that just post to post like 10 posts in 10 minutes that are mostly a waste of time for my personnel taste. What is your opinion on this why do you accept any friends request? Do you check the profile first? What about newbies that have no history how do you decide weather to accept them or not? I like to help the newbies I just don't want to be their friends until they get a few posts under their belt! tdemex
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@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
5 Aug 09
Hi tdemex, I don't like to offend people either by deleting them but I do, as there are the mass posters out there who bombard with ten topics at a time, none of which are my interests and make me lose the will to Mylot. If these are relatively new users, say under 200 posts but all fired off in a couple of weeks I presume they won't even notice they've been deleted as they seem to have thousands of friends already. I prefer quality friends with similar interests and that's coming right now. The most annoying thing ever though is every time I open the friends page the pending friends come up first and there are three there now which are impossibe to get rid of, the second one hits delete they bounce right back and just won't take no for an answer. They must have it rigged somehow to be back there so quickly, especially as they are the ones with thousands of friends but very little posts. I cringe when I see them on the lists of my friends as at some point they are most likely to be hit by something nasty.
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
6 Aug 09
@tdemex (3540)
• United States
5 Aug 09
LOL! I'm with you, funny, but ya gota lov it!!! Tdemex
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
6 Aug 09
Many thanks for the best response tdemex; it was much nicer though to receive your friend request generated I presume from this discussion about deleting friends, good irony there.
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Hello my friend Awww , lol I understand what you mean, from the day I started here i was lucky I connected to some really good people, although I am a newbie I do check out profiles for people that request my friendship, I check their discussions to get an idea where their head is at, I have really good friends thus far, would love to keep it that way. I do have friends that don't respond to my discussions, yet I respond to theirs, how should I handle this? I know the friends that are here and the ones that are not online for some reason or the other. I guess time will tell right, if some people continue to not respond why are they my friends?
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
26 Aug 09
I tweaked my home page to show discussions my friends started, it only shows about 8 posts! If there's a friend there that's taling over the page with trash posts, he or she is history no questions asked! LOL!A s far as friends not responding I'd give em a chance, it may be the post! I don't do many posts and when I do I get a good response! My earlier posts don't reflect that as I didn't have that many friends. As I got closer to 1000 I refined myself here! LOL! T----
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Hello my friend Hey you have to do what works for you, and I will give them a chance lol I love to respond to discussions it easier for me then thinking of something to talk about, every now and then when somethings comes to me I will post it, other than that other posters seem to have the same ideas I have they just thought of it first so they post lol
@mysdianait (66011)
• Italy
4 Aug 09
Hi there! I have to have a clean out regularly too usually in the first days of the month. Unless there is a specific reason, those users that have had no activity for six months will go from my list as will some of the newer users that I added three or more months ago who never seem to see anything of mine but are happy when I land on theirs. I add many new users as soon as they request and only if they are only here to promote their money sites I refuse them. Then some drop out and don't post and it is a necessity to clean out once in a while. I do it every month because I have so many pages now. If I left it longer it would take a week to get through them all Thanks for keeping me among yours
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
4 Aug 09
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• Spain
6 Aug 09
I have a spring clean every month as well; actually, I think it was you who put me onto it! When I first came here, I thought the 'friends' feature was a waste of space, frankly, but now I've worked out my system for accepting, requesting and keeping friends, I find I have a greater range of discussions to respond to - which is basically the backbone of Mylot. The few cents we earn is just an added extra, not the reason for being here.
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@divkris (1156)
• India
5 Aug 09
LOL - Would you believe that after reading this post i actually went to your profile to see if you have deleted me from your friends list I generally add, most of members who respond to my discussion, as my friend. But i do visit their profile to see the kind of posts they respond to so that if i get a hint about any neative activity i don't relly send/accept a friends request. Everyone has the right to choose their friends and i appreciate your concerns in this regard. ANd i'm happy that you have also informed members about you action
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
5 Aug 09
My bad! I generally look at the number of posts people have done, and to me the star rating used to be important, but now that's out the window! So I wait to see the kind of posts they make! If it's all money, money, then I generally delete them. If they post something that looks like I can relate to and requires more than a yes or no response, they stay on my list! As I've said my home page contains posts from friends, but it is limited to 8 posts! So I want my best buddies there. Thanks tdemex
@jb78000 (15139)
6 Aug 09
started off by pretty much accepting any that had posted something, i don't now, if i'm not interested at all in what they say i don't accept. and i'm slowly having a clear out - mainly of those who seem to have left mylot.
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
6 Aug 09
That's a normal progression here! Keep the faith and hope the spammers and jerks find a new place to inhabit! T----
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
well, you can always turn off the notifications and check their profile instead. but if it's your choice then there's no one to stop you at least. if they post 10 discussion in the same interest it would certainly take more of your time and decrease your possible earnings..
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
5 Aug 09
See above! It's not about the money at all. I'm just looking for decent posts to respond to! Thanks! tdemex
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
I got your point my friend because like you I don't like also those nonsense topics just for the sake of posting it...what I did my friend was I turned off the notification of all my friends who are not really submitting interesting topics just like we had a weeks ago posting some (for) adults topics. Don't get me wrong also, anyway, you can view all those posted topics in your profile as long you have common interests... I hope I made myself understood...thanks my friend...
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I understood you. I have my notifications turned off, but as I said I've configured my home page here with discussion my friends have started, this is where the problem lies, I get posts I'm not really into, this is normal but some of these new friends post one after another may be 10 in ten minutes? They are mostly garbage, this is the point where I delete them! Thanks! tdemex
@sblossom (2168)
4 Aug 09
I understand your experience. Online we easy to make friends but becuse of the time limitation we can't keep touch with every one. Usually i accept any request to be my friend. Luckily i have not got so many requests and I still can hold on it. I accepted friends first and have a look at their profile. if i have time i also try to answer my friends discussions and have a look of their photos if they have. by visiting my friends on mylot website i feel a little more confident with my social skills and my life. at least i have friends here, even in my real life i don't have many friends especially in the UK. happy mylotting.
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I still accept friends, in fact I got 2 more within the last hour. I just reaccess my friends list as I go along, it's usually when I open my home page here and see what my friends have posted, then I take action as necessary. I just don't want people to get offended when I remove them, there's a different breed of Mylotters out there now! I don't want people to feel rejected! tdemex
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
6 Aug 09
I always check profiles before accepting. If a 16 year old kid whose only activity is in 'make extra money,' I know as soon as I accept I'll get spammed. I have nothing against making friends with younger (or older) members, but they need to have something in common with me. I mean, in the 'real world' you wouldn't become friends with someone unless you had mutual interests, so why should Mylot be any different? I've been here almost 4 months now, and I think it's only in the last 3 or 4 weeks that I've really worked out how to make the best of my friends and, hopefully, give something back to them. And it's certainly not about money - it's about shared interests and fellowship.
@tdemex (3540)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I agree, but the new people have no backgrounds to check on other than their interests! Thats one problem but I usually give them a chance, My main problem is my home page I've set it up pretty cool, (in my opinion) with all the areas of discussions including discussions my friends have started! So when I open Mylot all I have to do is scan the page, well the new friends sometimes post 10 discussions in 10 minutes! LOL! So I usually delete them ASAP! But I didn't want to hurt anyones feelings, thinking I'm some kinds Prude! Thanks! tdemex
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I have not been here at mylot for very long. I have approved a few friends being new I did not know who to approved so I did check out profile and choose ones that I thought had my same interest. I will have to check out my friend list and then decide which ones to keep and which one to delete.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 09
I do sometimes check profiles because I want to see on where they are coming from. I do not also look at my homepage but rather stay longer with discussions tab. I enjoy staying here at mylot and enjoy adding more friends that are willing to add me up. :D
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@tdemex (3540)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I try to check them out also but when they have no history and 300 interests it's hard to tell what they'll be like! Have fun and thanks! tdemex