Do you use the word 'baby'? if no, then what do you use?

@dex1007 (556)
Malaysia
August 5, 2009 11:17pm CST
When i was younger, i used to think calling our partner 'baby' was very cute and sweet. but now that everyone is using that it sounds cliche, everyone is using it. its not that special anymore, and some people use the word 'baby' even when addressing complete strangers or friends. so what endearing would you use to call a partner? something unique? I read somewhere that guys who call a girl with endearings more than using her name is a way of him saying i'm not interested in a long-term relationship. endearing here i mean for those couples who are already in a long-term relationship. So what do you call your partner? What does your partner call you? and sweet and unique endearings?
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Hi Dex. I still occasionally call my guy "baby," but we also call each other honey, sweetie, etc. Some of the more unusual endearments he uses: mama, dolly, sweet cheeks, or shortcake. These are just the things that seem to come natural to those who love one another. Even when it comes to those other than couples, fondness via nicknames is common and makes one feel special. My grandkids, for instance, call me nana or grammy, and I call them many names: punkin, booboo, baby doll, etc. Interesting conversation! Karen
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
by the time i was reading the end of your second sentence i was thinking.. she probably calls her guy 'stud muffin'. Sweet cheeks and shortcake???? hahaha. aww, that is cute. classic romantic names. thanks for sharing. :)
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• United States
7 Aug 09
LOL, I've yet to call him stud muffin, but hey, it's a thought lol.
@thokius (426)
• Austria
6 Aug 09
I call my girlfriend by her real name. It's because women like to hear there real names. I'm not sure why but it works. My explanation is that that makes them sound unique but it's just my opinion. So if you want to keep your partner (if a girl) I you have to keep saying her real name.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
its psychological, calling of names is deeper to females. but i guess a good nickname once in a while won't hurt either. its just makes it sweeter. thanks for sharing.
@thokius (426)
• Austria
7 Aug 09
No problem. I think your right. I wish I could spend more time with her. I haven't had the time lately though :(.
• India
6 Aug 09
Well I grew up in Cockney London, and the word babes is used by almost everyone there, regardless of age. Even people younger than me would use it on me ! Soooo funny, just another one of those bizarre Cockney ways. It's really used as an expression of affection by people there, and in a kind of family spirited way, like we are all eachothers babies, all going through the same problems of life and we all look out for eachother and the least we can do is pass on some affection to eachother to cushion the harsh realities of life, was really quite sweet actually. However, if someone uses it in a condescending way, then it's a different matter! Not living in the East End of London anymore, I don't really use it much now, but sometimes if I'm abit close to the person it just slips out. My husband from 13 years is not from London, but a more posh part of the U.K. and at first he resented it alittle, but now doesn't mind at all, as it's the spirit it's said in, rather than the word itself. You know words are just hollow, it really depends on the intention and vibe behind them when said. Like for example my husband calls me some of the most ridiculous names, that in no way, would I accept them from anybody else, but he says them with such love and humour, that it just makes me laugh and tickles me pink, and almost everyday he's got a new nickname for me, the list is endless,priceless and ridiculously funny. See, he sometimes goes into his inner child mode and then his imagination gets very innocently creative and so stupid that it's mind blowingly funny and cute......although they are just soooooo ridiculous, I can't help soak them up as they are said with such genuine love and affection. They range from 'Mighty Mouse, rockweiler, Hedge-alina, Baby, tinkerbell, and also names that have absolutely no relevance to me or him such as.... Dorothy, Humphrey, Daphney....!!!!I have no idea why he chooses them, neither does he! Being called Humphrey (seeing that I am female) is just mind blowing and it just doubles me over.......it's the way he says it.....arms fully stretched, eyes glistening.......just like a 4 year old, and one just can't take offence. He's being ridiculous on purpose, just to make me giggle and free flowing. My names for him range from, babes, old man, crock, Shamus, Leprechaun (he's of Irish decent)sweetpie and Orvil! Sharing this with all of you.....has really made me laugh, hope it makes you giggle too
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
lol. it has indeed. all i can say is you have a wonderful relationship. the sort that we read in books, where each day is not ordinary. And Mighty Mouse? really? hahaha. that IS funny. thanks you so much for sharing, really.
• India
7 Aug 09
Hey thank you so much! Yes we've been lucky, best of luck to you all. Take care
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
6 Aug 09
It's very common for older women and older folk in general to call younger people "baby" - I've noticed it particularly with those who are born/raised in the southern United States. When I was in my teens, I HATED people calling me that... but now that no one's called me that in a while.. I rather miss it. My boyfriend gets called by his name, I however always get called by nickname (the one that most people think is my real name) or by the acronym.. PITA :P
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
yeah.. i noticed that too. parents calling their kids 'baby'. but you don't have any secret names for your boyfriend? haha. like my rawbit. hahaha.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I wasn't talking about parents calling their kids baby. I meant the older generations in general, saying to that anyone that's about 15-20 years younger than themselves, regardless of their relationship to that person. And nope, no nicknames like that.
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• United States
6 Aug 09
yeah i live in the southern and i do see some people calling their lovers Baby and such but i do also see people calling them Honey,Sweetie, or a nick name or somesort or just by their real name, just what ever you wanna use is what you wanna use and what you feel warm inside with it's your choosing, and what you partner agrees with
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
I wonder how those southern who don't like nicknames cope with it? or they just generally accept it as something they can't change..
@Druid916 (36)
• United States
6 Aug 09
We call one of my roommates "Baby", short for Baby Face. He is 5'8'' and 330 pounds. Baby asks us to make him food, do his laundry, shave his face, and just about anything else he does not feel like doing. So we call him the "Baby".
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
seriously? you shave his face? hehe. oh wow.. if you're a guy you're awfully nice not to kick him out, and if your a girl, 'KICK HIM OUT' what are you thinking? hahahaha. thanks for sharing.
• United States
6 Aug 09
Hello Dex, I am a youthful teenager, age 13, and I have a girlfriend that I love very much! I call her hun, and she calls me love. I really do like it when we also give each other pet names like BennyBoo or Bennitoo. I sometimes call her my babygirl or just my girl, sometimes even sweety or sweetheart.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
hi aznbeast. thanks for replying. really? 13 year old guy has a girlfriend? now i feel so old. haha. that is very cute. beenyboo? beennitoo, haha. that's nice. thanks for sharing, aznbeast. :)
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
me and my partner used to call each other Honey..then we added "tart", then added "sugar" then added "evol" or just "vol" (reading love backwards) then the last one is "OMA" (object of my affection)..we also dont like baby because like you, its really cliche. and everybody is using it. so we dont stick to the norms. we add new names to call each other.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
OMA.. that is creative. nice. good choice. haha. good thing you mentioned what evol and vol means. i can't say i've ever heard that one used. very cute. thanks for sharing.
@miller1978 (1104)
• United States
6 Aug 09
My nickname for my boyfriend would be "Sexy Baby" and he calls me "Sexy Momma" which is our way of getting the others attention. Most of the time we call each other by name or if I'm busy and need help I might holler out Honey instead. I think Baby is more often used out of endearing terms than any others out there.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
yeah, recent years baby has become like a second name. but before that sweetheart was more the flair. Sexy baby sounds hot. haha. thanks for sharing. :)
@dorannmwin (36656)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I call my husband babe the majority of the time. He calls me woman, which I think is absolutely hilarious because no one that he works with can believe that I will answer to it, but I do. I mean that is what I am. As far as baby. That's a term that I reserve for my kids and for their friends when they come down to play. I know someone else mentioned that it was particularly common in the southern states to use this term and I definitely have to agree. We are from the south as well.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
hahahaha. woman??? really? wait, i read a novel where the hero will call his partner woman when is frustrated with her behavior. it was so cuteee!!! lol. but the fact that you respond to it is even sweeter. :) thanks for sharing.
@yelrihs (299)
• Australia
6 Aug 09
i dont call my partner baby. simply because everyone is using it here. LOL. you might hear someone called his partner baby and a couple of heads will turn because it is too widely used. LOL. i call my partner in Korean, a word means darling. i reckon its unique because nobody i know so far use the same one.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
oo.. that is creative. good plan. haha. but the wide spread of the word 'baby' has made it not so cool anymore. i used to like it so much, now its just not. :) thanks for sharing.
• India
6 Aug 09
yes i do use the word " BABY "WHENEVER I SPEAK TO MY BOY FRIEND , as i love to call him baby because the word suits him as he is so sweet and cute as if like a baby and i love that thing ..
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
aww.. haha. that's cute. thanks for sharing.
• United States
6 Aug 09
I find this kinda werid but on my baseball team one of the coaches has a habit of calling me Baby when im up to bat.I usally dont call my GF baby or babe.She hates it and so do i
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
hahaha. really? if the coach is a guy that can be awkward.
• United States
6 Aug 09
My boyfriend calls me Babe, way more than he uses my name. He only calls me by my name if we're having a serious discussion. I call my son baby because he IS a baby - "What's the matter, baby?" or I tell him to stop being a baby when he cries. :) I usually call my boyfriend Babe, too, but sometimes I go with Hun instead. I call everybody Hun, or Hunny if I'm speaking to a girl. I'm one of those random strangers that uses nicknames with everyone!
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
oo.. that's sweet. hints of your a friendly person to a stranger when you use nicknames like that. thanks for sharing. :)
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
6 Aug 09
Yes, as we grow older, we call youngsters baby, just our way of using endearment. My husband, after 21 years of marriage calls me sweetheart occassionally. Otherwise its just my name, only its kety and he calls me ketu. If at all I call him baby, he does not like it at all. So Ive given it up. Its just plain names for us these days, not that our love is over. Cheers.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
awww... that is cute. your husband calling you sweetheart. haha. ketu??? wow.. that's unique. thanks for sharing. :)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I call him Lyoshka and he always calls me by the same nickname as my family, Ksyusha. he also calls me dear....I think that is a cultural thing because everyone I have ever known from India has called me dear at one point or time which is very endearing to us but I guess not for them...
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
6 Aug 09
my hubby and i call each other schatzie which in german means treasure. its a pretty common term of endearment in german i think, but its a little different than baby.
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@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
6 Aug 09
the word "Baby" is sweet of course... I still use it for my husband but most of the time we use another word in our language and it mean like "honey or baby, or sweet heart and it use for love partner only" and I love that way
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@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
6 Aug 09
My partner never called me baby, only once in a very rare while, he calls me baby just for fun. I think baby is a very intimate name and cute, I feel like I am like his little baby girl if he calls me that.
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• United States
6 Aug 09
Fot the longest time, i really hated being called babe or baby by someone who i was in a relationship with, or really, by anyone at all. I felt it was almost a derogatory term, like the person who was calling me that was insinuating that i was young, or immature, or naieve. If anyone i was with would call me that i would politely ask them not to, as i did not like it. Now i don't mind so much, my current boyfriend calls me babe or baby all the time and i guess i have gotten used to it, though at first, i really wasn't that impressed. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that before, when it did really bother me, i was concerned with coming off as more adult like and having people take me seriously. Now that i am older, i don't feel the need to "prove" to the world that i am an adult, as i know i am one.
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