Person making the call asks me, "who are you?' Grrrr...

@cbeee3 (2063)
India
August 6, 2009 8:49am CST
I am sure its not just me who has had this issue. So here I am minding my own business and I receive a call. I answer the call on my phone and say "Hello". The guy on the other end of the line asks me "Who is this?" Now,I think to myself, should I yell at him or talk some sense into him. I then ask him, "You made the call, should you not know whom you are looking for?".He says OK and hangs up.Im like..waaaaaaa???... Weird!! LOL Its not once or twice that it has happened to me. Various people calling me doing the same thing. Happens to mum too.Only difference, at times she yells at them when they call at strange hours. lol I want to hear your stories too.
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28 responses
@schulzie (4064)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I find it extremely aggravating when a caller asks me this very question. I don't know why in the world they would think that I would tell them who I am when they are the one placing the call to me. They should know who I am to begin with. I think most of the time these callers are either telemarketers or they are bill collectors. I don't blame you one bit whether you turn it around on them verbally like you do or just hang up on them. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
I know! schulzie, you rock! :) Its one of the lamest questions you can ask.I mean, they call and they ,who you are?What is that all about. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend! :)
• Canada
7 Aug 09
I've never had a situation like that happen to me. But I have had a telemarketer hang up on me which was a new experience. but I can tell you I'd be annoyed too if someone called me and asked who it was on the line with them. I'd probably wonder what they were smoking or drinking.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
I agree. I normally think they just don't have the manners. But when people do it repetedly, I don't know what to think. Thanks for your response!
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• Philippines
7 Aug 09
I Have experienced the same and I personally think this is very rude. That person made the call and s/he should have a pretty good idea of whom the number is for them to be making such stupid questions! Hehe
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
Exactly! Its like they are just ill mannered. I get really aggitated if I get the call too many times over.Then there is no stopping my mouth LOL
@Elaine77 (315)
• China
7 Aug 09
hi there, I do sometime encountered this situations, I think those people want to know who is this on their cellphone. If I want to check someone's phone number, I would first say my name and ask he(or she) if he knows me. Have a nice day!
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
Oh me too! I think that is the way to be. First introduce ourselves and then ask the other person what we need to. Else its just so strange
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Aug 09
hi the strangest call I ever got was from the front pedestrian gate in the gated apartment complex I lived in before I was evicted. Hello mom I cannt get in, let me in p ush the 9 key mom? I knew it was someyoungster in our complex who had forgotten his gate key. so I kindly' said I am not your mom, but honey do you know your apartment number, he said yes, then I said I am pressing the nine key just open the gate and get home,your mom is probably worried about you. I couldnt get mad at that little scared voice even if I didnt know who he was,he needed an adults help for sure.
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
Awww..That is sweet of you. I would definitely have done the same thing too.. He was just a nice boy needing help who had gotten your number by mistake. I am sure. But these strangers who call on the cell phone asking odd questions, that can get funny and even irritating at times.
• United States
7 Aug 09
When ever someone asks me who is this and I dont know the number I ALWAYS ask who they are first. I really dont play around and that issue. It be some telemarketer trying to get ur info so they can call u a billiob times. 1 time I picked up the phone someone say hey b*tch I cocked an attitude and said "whatcha just call me f**k face" and they were like is this MiMi I siad no Drew Carey this is the wrong number. And they were like oo sorry my bad. LMFAO!!
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
ROFL.. Awesome.Now that is how we do it.LOL Gosh some of these people who make the calls are just horrid. I would have been and if some one spoke to me like that. You go girl! LOL
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
6 Aug 09
It is so annoying when people do that. I always tell them it depends on who they're looking for. Sometimes I let people use my phone and the person they called didn't answer, so they find my number on the caller id and call back. That's understandable, but I still think that they should mention that someone called them from the number instead of just asking who I am. I can't think of any specific examples at the moment though.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
7 Aug 09
I agree with you too. The person calling should at least clarify that someone called from the following number ( what ever it is), introduce themselves and then may be they can ask who it is on the other end of the line. It is so absurd,when they start the conversation with, "who is this?".
@mommaj (22872)
• United States
6 Aug 09
LOL. That's funny. It happens all the time. I will get people calling and they ask who you are. Just like you. Who are you trying to call? I ask. I called so and so why are you answering their phone? If they get belligerent, I then tell them how blind they were not to dial the right number.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
-how blind they were not to dial the right number Nice one. haha. I am going to use this one too, when I get lol Thanks for responding!! :)
@magikrose (5433)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I had a guy call me one day telling me that someone called him from my number and asked him to call back. I tried to get him to tell me who it was and I would tell him if they were available because it wasn't me. Next thing I know he is trying to encourage me to help him "get off" I started yelling at him that he was a dirty pig and hung up the phone on him. That was the last i ever heard from him.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
Hi magikrose, ROFL..That was horrible girl! Such weirdos out there. Hon, that is what bugs me. There are some real whack jobs out there making such calls. If its a genuine mistake its one thing. Even then, they should introduce themselves first. This is just ridiculous. I am sure you used the right lingo to get rid of this one.LOL Thanks for sharing! :)
@jessi0887 (2792)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I have this happen. I really don't ever know how to react. I will say though its usually a case of when someone borrows my phone and calls someone in which that person calls back to find out who called. If I was the person calling someone who had called my number this is what I say,'I was returning a call to someone who called this number earlier.' Then I wait to see how they reply. Its a more descent approach in my opinion that way someone else doesn't get offended and get defensive.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
I think that is a good way to deal with the situation too.I mean, if we call someone and are not sure who it is at the other end of the line, we owe them an explanation, not the other way around. Thanks for responding! :)
@zazagugu (81)
• China
6 Aug 09
People often make the wrong answers so people often get wrong answers ,too. I have a friend . One day he recieved a ring. The man asked my friend who he was with a very angry voice. He said his wife's telephone had my friend's number. And my friends said i don't know you and your wife . The man said really with a lot of unbelievable and later hang up without saying sorry. This made my friend very confused . I feel very strang because they are from totally different place.
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
That was really bad! The person who called your friend should at least have had more etiquette and spoken. Its absurd. Too bad for your friend. Some people should go and learn about phone etiquette. Thanks for your response! God bless :)
@gerald_lian (2191)
• Australia
6 Aug 09
I have across many incidences like these too, although most of the time I just tell the caller who I am to avoid any unwanted conversations or shouting matches. I guess the main reason why someone would ask who you are is because they make a call expecting a familiar person to answer the phone (with a voice that they are familiar with/expecting), and the actual voice that comes across the phone isn't the person they are expecting. And they are hoping you would introduce yourself and they will then check if you know/are related to the person they are looking for. Another possible reason is that these people calling are salespeople, and they ask who you are because they don't know who they are calling in the first place, and once you introduce yourself they will proceed to address you and promote their product(s). But for me, it would probably be worth a try replying like you did to the next person who calls me and asks me who I am!
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
LOL. Try it out and let me know how it goes. I just find it so strange.I mean if I call someone, the least I would do is introduce myself, not just ask, "who are you?" Its so funny. Oh yes, call center guys or sales guys do make such calls.But so far when they have called me, they have not asked me who I am to start off the conversation with.They normally say, "I am calling from XYZ company". Else I would yell for sure. Thanks for your response and happy mylotting! :)
@vklancer (135)
• India
6 Aug 09
oh yes this has happened to me not once but quite a number of times. sometimes it happens when i am seriously doing some work,firstly i hesitate to take the call itself but since there is no one around i take the call and then after saying hello i hear someone saying who is this.i get so irritated and feel like yelling at the person or just put the phone down but then i need to know who the caller is bcoz it might be some important call. generally very old people have this tendency,also some people are habituated asking like that.we have to bear with them.
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
I too don't yell at them the first time.But some people do it just for fun.They then start calling over and over.I once had to block a number like that. Otherwise, when people do it to irritate me, just as some game, I definitely yell at them. Thanks for your response! :)
@abanerji (1026)
• India
6 Aug 09
this invariably happens and people who do this don't even realise what they are asking. whenever this happens with me i ask the caller to tell me whom he/she wants tp talk to. if they don't name any person then it means that someone on the other end is trying to disturb me or the person is lacking phone ettiquetts.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
Oh yes, that is how it should be.It is so bizarre when they don't even know who they are looking for. Its like they just dialed a random number.I wonder what is up with people like these.LOL
@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
6 Aug 09
Hey they treating you bad on the phone? I've had that happen both on my cell and on the land-line. Sometimes I never know whether it's a genuine mistake or whether they ae trying tosee if I remember who THEY are When they ask me 'Who is speaking?' I usually say 'Obviously not who you expected' and take it from there. Then they might say 'Did I dial the wrong number?' and I will say 'What is wrong with my number - it isn't wrong! It's working pefectly lol'. Well once there was a time when we had a good laugh and it all led to something else... but that's topic for another discussion
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
The time when you had a good laugh, I think that should be kept within the family. Aunt D you are so funny."'What is wrong with my number - it isn't wrong!" I am going to use this one the next time.I hope its not considered plagiarism. You are too cool for an Aunt.
@ylrevhan (53)
• Australia
6 Aug 09
hahaha.. that happened to me before, and i was like, 'err.. excuse me... but who are you looking for?' and i cant believe my ears when my mom did that too the other time when she called someone!! oh well..
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
8 Aug 09
That was funny. Your mom did that too? Did you say anything to her? I wound definitely have gone, "Ma, what was that!!!" LOL
@yelrihs (299)
• Australia
6 Aug 09
lol. i have the same experience. exactly the same, a guy called me, when i picked up, he said 'whos this', he drove me mad and i replied back with attitude, 'who are you?!' then i started yelling at him as he was so rude. i dont understand some people sometimes. they are so out of it man..
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
6 Aug 09
Oh deff! My mum can't stand these calls.I normally make a joke out of it.LOL.If my guy is with me, he drives these people off, else I usually confuse them and then laugh like mad. Mum just answers normally the 1st time around.But if the person calls again, she yells like its nobody's business.
• Belgium
8 Sep 09
This is something you see happening on tv series a lot Lol
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
9 Sep 09
Yes that is true. I don't know if its art imitating life or life imitating art.
• Belgium
9 Sep 09
Most series are created from real life situations, unless is scifi but the call thing is probely something that can happen to everyone must be annoying :D
• Belgium
9 Sep 09
maybe its some guy who has a crush on you but does try to play it "COOL" Lol
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
16 Sep 09
Well that happened to me on many occasions. Some times a "bhaiya" (sorry no offense)calling me and asking in his typical accent "Kaaauun"? It freaks me out. I remember a call i got sometime back from a woman. She was insistent that I was Abdul or Ahmed o(r some name) presumably her son. She was somewhere near the racecourse and wanted to meet her son. There was a sense of urgency in her voice. Apparently her son had given the no. which was mine and she was very very insistent that I am not acknowledging her due to some reason. She was an aged lady that much I could make out from her voice. Initially I just said that you got the wrong number but she kept calling, and it took me some time, with patienceto explain that I am nowhere "related" to her or her son for that reason. She was getting hysterical. I felt bad for her but could I be of some assistance? Hmmmmm...
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
16 Sep 09
Awww... Poor you and poor her.. If its one of those vague calls it can get rather annoying. But I can understand you not getting super irritated with that lady. Neither would I , had I been in your place. Poor thing, she must have been worried and her son giving her a wrong number must have only put her off *To her son: Not nice Mr!!!.. Ughhh*
• India
11 Oct 09
Ummm.. No I don't think it was a prank call. She was desperate, it was evident from her voice. Her sobs were genuine as far as my intelligence suggests.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 09
I have similar experience before. There was once a friend who called my home phone and asked where was I. I asked back which phone did you call and he laughed off. But I did received missed calls. I called and asked the missed party that I was returning a missed call who called me earlier.This is common.
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@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
26 Oct 09
Yeah.. It is pretty common. But some of us have really funny stories to tell. If you go through some of the responses in this discussion, you will laugh your heart out.lol. Thanks for sharing James. Have a great week!