How many children do you have?
@polo_princess (803)
August 7, 2009 11:18am CST
Prompted by a comment in Lambs discussion about OPK's ... how many children do you have and what are their ages? If you have more than one how do you find the age gap between them?
I have a daughter who is coming up for 8 months old now, i would love for her to have a brother or sister to play with but id like an age gap of at least 2 or 3 years, i dont think i could handle two small children in one go :)
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@polo_princess (803)
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8 Aug 09
So you could have a child or children out there that you dont know about? Does that not bother you in anyway? 
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
I have 2 kids. Elder is daughter, is gong to turn 3 in 2 more weeks. My younger child is a boy, he is 18 months old now. They both are just different about 15 months. I am very busy with my 2 babies everyday. It is not easy to handle two small children in one go. But as time flies and they will grow elder and I have get use of it. It is amazing to see 2 kids grow up together. Hope you can have your No 2 soon!
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
Hi again. I know what you are worrying. Parents will always want to give the best to the children. You are a great mother. I admit sometimes I felt sorry to my elder as I need to give more attention to the younger child as he is smaller especially when he was still a baby. That is why hubs play an important role in the family too. When I was busy with my younger child, my hubs will be the one help me to look after the elder. So now my elder is more closer to her daddy. And both of my kids are at toddler age now, it is more easy for me to set daily routine for them. I let them have the same meal time, nap time, playing time and learning time...
I think your no 2 will come some where 2 years later then it is perfect time for you. As your elder already near to 3 years old at that time. Different of 3 years is not a big gap , it is just nice...
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@polo_princess (803)
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7 Aug 09
Thank you 
That is my only worry about having two so close together is that it will be so hard and they will keep me so busy that i wont be able to give each one a good amount of attention. I just cant seem to make my mind up.
That is my only worry about having two so close together is that it will be so hard and they will keep me so busy that i wont be able to give each one a good amount of attention. I just cant seem to make my mind up.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 09
I have a son aged 12, a son aged 2 and a daughter age 6 weeks. I thought the age gap of two years and one month would be perfect. However my toddler son is jealous of my baby daughter. The age gap twelve years is not one I recommend. The two boys have totally different interests. A teenager can find a toddler annoying sometimes. When children are school age an age gap of two or three years is excellent. A gap of just one year when they are very young is tiring. One of my friends had a baby girl in May 2007 and a baby boy in May 2008. She found that demanding but will be delighted when one is 5 and the other is 6.
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@polo_princess (803)
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7 Aug 09
If you dont mind me asking what made you decide to leave a 10 year age gap between your oldest two children? I can imagine that a 12 year old and a 2 year old can sometimes grate on eachothers nerves .. terrible twos and terrible teens :)
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
8 Aug 09
I have two children, My son is 21yrs old and my daughter is 16. As you have mentioned there should be a gap of atleast 4-5 yrs between the siblings so that the elder one does accept the second one and does not feel neglected. At the same time rearing is not difficult because the first child will be ready to go to school and you can focus your time wholly on the second one, but the first should never feel neglected at all.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I have two children. My daughter is 6.5 and my son is 2.5. There is a 46 month age gap between the two of them, and I love this difference in their ages. When my son was born my daughter wasn't nearly as needy as she'd been even just a year before her brother was born. She was my biggest helper with her baby brother. She would play with him from the day we brought him home from the hospital. She wanted to feed him and help me change him. She really wanted him to be her baby.
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@polo_princess (803)
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7 Aug 09
I think thats a lovely age gap as you say she is old enough to help you out a little with her brother, im sure she loves it. I know most children of that age are keen to help out with brothers and sisters. Id like to say i would be able to wait that long for another child but babies make me too broody :)
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
hello i have 3 children, my son the eldest is 19 years old and my daughter is 18 the youngest one is 5 years old. the gap is 1 year old for the 2 and the youngest is 13 years.
Now the two are teens, but they love very much the youngest one she is the apple of the eye of all the family members in here.
They love each other and they are treating each other well as friends.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I had 4 children. They are now ages 32, 23, 22, & 15. A huge age gap between the first and the youngest, I know. Yes, it was pretty hectic when the two middle ones were born so close in age but you just do what you have to do. It wasn't as bad as you'd imagine.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
7 Aug 09
all together now.. ive got 4. ages 20, 10, 9, and 8. the 10 and 8 year old are newly.. umm.. acquired.. so i wasnt pregnant for three years in a row LOL but the 11 years between my blood two was a bit too much of a gap, and i really wish these other two had been mine since they were tiny. you really dont want a huge space between them if yer wanting them to be close siblings. those few years make a whole lotta difference in interests when they reach adolecence.. say having a 15 year old and a 10 year old, and they wont get along well at all because of it
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
8 Aug 09
I have a son who is 1.5 years of age.Keeping in mind the economic situation and financial condition,i will stick to one only and try to give him the best of everything.
@AmAllen (119)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I have a 7 year old (8 in NOV) and a 5 year old (6 at the end of this month)
They are 22 months apart. I wanted more time between them however I was very pleased after I had my son. The age difference allows them to always to have a friend and someone to play with. They don't always get along but they are very close and at the age they are now we aren't as hindered as we would be if there was even one more year between them, they can do about the same things, ride the same rides at a fair, go the same places.
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@klwheretogo (230)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
i am still single, no children yet. but if i am married, then i plan to have two child. one boy and one girl. i think the best age gap is 5 years old so that your eldest child can help to take care of the younger one. also when come to schooling, your not burden with the fees at the same period of time.
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@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
8 Aug 09
I have 3 child. All of they girls. My first child is twin, else sigle child. Gap of age betweean they, 1 year. So gap age not problem for me
@SViswan (12051)
• India
13 Mar 10
I have two boys...aged 9 and a half and 3. The age gap between them is a little more than 6 years. At first, I thought I wouldn't be able to manage two kids closer in age because I had no help at all. But now I realize that anyways, there's always a challenge. Even with this wider age gap, the challenges are many. Each child has his own different needs which I need to cater to and sometimes it is difficult to play the balancing act!
I don't plan to have any more kids except maybe adopt a little girl in a couple of years time if finances permit.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I have one son that is 3 years old. I would like to have another child but I think I want to wait until my son goes to school before I have another one. I would love to have a little girl so I could have one boy and one girl. I want to wait until he goes to school so I can have all this time with him and then while he's at school I can have special time with the new baby. I enjoy spending lots of time with my son right now and I'm just not ready to have another one quite yet.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I have one son who thirty months old. Basically 2 and a half. Before I had him I was wanting to space my children out by two or three years. NOw though we can't afford another one so it could be even longer. Which wouldn't be so bad, but I dont' want their age difference to be big.
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@kmaram (2533)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Hi there, well i have only one daughter she was 1 year and 9 months already. Have plan to have another one, a boy and after that stop already. At this time its hard to have many children with our economic problem for me 2 children will do. ANyway, hope i can make sense here, keep on mylotting.
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@hmfryklund (389)
• United States
16 Aug 09
I had my first daughter, Jordyn Janae F. when I was twenty years old and she is almost 19 months, and she is absolutely beautiful, daring, strong, and a loving big sister! She has the prettiest smile, and she is so gentle with other kids, even her sister, which is nuts! lol
I had my second daughter, Jayda Reyne F. when I was twenty-one years old and she is almost 7 months old, and she is a pistol! lol she is sitting up by herself, and standing up by herself while holding on to things, which is insane! lol she isn't crawling but she can scoot faster than ever! Also, she has the cutest cry you'll ever hear =)
@guanguansanren (53)
• China
8 Aug 09
oh,in china ,we should have one baby,but,I think one is lonely.
@guanguansanren (53)
• China
8 Aug 09
but,I hate the big population ,there are too many people in China ,you can always see many men everywhere.
