Does the outer you match the inner you? Are you as good inside as outside?

@dex1007 (556)
Malaysia
August 9, 2009 11:21pm CST
I read somewhere that "you are only as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside" but i quite disagree. there are some very beautiful people with very evil hearts. And a not so beautiful person could very well be the most beautiful person on the inside. I don't. I think I'm a way more interesting person if you get to know me then based on first impression of me. So every semester when i meet new people, i keep thinking that me and my classmates would be better friends if we just had more time together. But with assignments and exams, we don't. and it ends before i even notice. Last week i finished another semester, yet another sets of could-have-been friends. The question is in your opinion are you as interesting inside as you are on the outside? What about other people?
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• Philippines
10 Aug 09
Yes that is true saying "you are only as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside". You'd be a good person not only outside but also inside. But many people that is beautiful outoutside but evil heart. Becoz they think they were supperior and popular. But unknowingly they were agly to others becoz of their bad attitude. But what is beauty for if other see inside of you. NOTHING. I like person even though they were not beautiful outside but they have beautiful and good heart they were more beautiful that those popular with evil hearth person... I think other people my say the same...
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Hi Dex. I think most of us are far more interesting in personality or on the inside than just what shows in our outter looks. I do believe a kind or cheerful person has a certain look about their eyes and mouth, just as do sad or troubled people. But the really good stuff is always in the mind, the heart, and the spirit :)) Karen
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
right you are karen. the good stuff are mind heart and spirit. very wise.
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• United States
13 Aug 09
Thank you, Dex. It was an interesting question!
@thokius (426)
• Austria
10 Aug 09
Hello dex1007, I am completely different on the inside and outside. Since I would get overloaded if I don't separate my memories and those of others I created four different brain sectors- each with it's own purpose. I just switch from one to another. So it's practicly impossible to see what I'm thinking. In other words I have four personalities inside myself. Cheers! Thok
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
really? as in you consciously decided to divide your memories into four? wow.. to be honest I've never heard of that before. do mean like split personality? do you have that? but i'm sure that can sometimes create problematic situations..? this sounds very interesting.
@Hatley (164338)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug 09
hi dex hatley here I have been told I look very good for an 82year old woman, but I think I am much better on the inside,I a m kind,considerate, fun to be with, intelligent, and have a good listeners ear, I have empathy and sympathy while my outside is overweight, and my face has wrinkles so I am just another elderly woman until you get to know me.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
hey if i'm as good as you are when i am 82 i'd be happy. haha. you sound like a wonderful person hatley. :)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Unfortunately many people of this world are shallow and they judge people by first appearance. But at the same time, some people lack confidence in themselves and their insecurities show through, making it difficult for them to get out and make new friends. Your inner beauty will shine through when you can accept yourself for who you are. Have confidence in yourself, hold your head high, make eye contact with the people you meet. Let your personality show, don't hide and expect people to approach you. Sometimes you must make the first move.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
I won't say i lack confidence. but everyone could use a boast. thanks for those tips. :)
@ojones87 (14)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I know exactly what you mean. For me, many people judge me by my appearance, and assume that I'm dumb just because I have a disability. My outside is not as beautiful as my inside, but most people at the college i attend don't take the time to get to know the "real" me. Granted, some people genuinely don't have time to have a full-length conversation, or share their life stories with other people. However, little chats here and there would be appreciated, you know?
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
I know. college life is very packed. and all those movie that show kids with free time doing whatever they want is just not how it is. its frustrating sometimes, life has become an endless rat race. After collage finishes, we'll start working, and then too it will be hectic. I'm not looking forward to that much if you ask me.
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
one of indiana jones's movies tell of a not so good looking life saving cup,the bible also tells of a not so handsome guy who is savior of the world. i am smart but i don't look smart,i am kind but i look strict,i look naive but i am not.to others ,i look old, to some ,young.what matters most to me is the impact i make to the young hearts i mentor .with the smiles and the trust in their eyes ,my day is done.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
those are some deep words, vangie. I get what you mean, i look older than my own age, but as you said, what matters is the impact. thanks for sharing your deep thoughts.
@ysobelle (202)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
NO my friend, we have four windows in ourself : there are things that we know that other person knows it, there are things that we know and the other person does not know it,there are things that other person know and we do not know it, there are things that also that we both do not know. Maybe a bit of my outer self match with my inner self. Like for example,i can pretend to be happy but deep inside i am hurt. Some people describes me as strict one, but deep inside i'm not. You can not say that if she is beautiful outside she is also beautiful inside, or vise versa, if you can see an ugly person, you can not say that she is ugly inside. This question of yours reminds us the quote that goes like this : You cannot judge the book by it's own cover. Happy mylotting !
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
Hello ysobelle, as you can see, i said i disagree with the quote. i think you missed that part. but you are right, a person is way more than what he or she looks from the outside. the 4 windows part you mentioned is very interesting, i can't say i've heard that before. thanks for sharing. :)
• United States
10 Aug 09
This kind of falls into the category of "what you see is what you get", which I don't believe is true at all. I, myself, am a college graduate with a bachelor's degree in business administration with a good working history I have a 10-month-old son and some days I am just worn out and I might need to go to the store, so I pack the baby up and head to the store with baby food on my shirt, spit-up on my pants, face sticky from wet kisses, hair stringy from him pulling it, and just looking a hot mess. And some people might look at me and think, ugh. A lot of folks are quick to pass judgment on other people based on that first impression. You never know what a person's day could be like and what effect it could have on that person's appearance. This doesn't tell you anything about that person's intellect. People should be more considerate.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
aww... that's sounds cute. but i see what you mean. i think that's part of being a human. even though we don't want to judge others, we do. As i've said before, first impressions are unjust. Its not fair to that person being judge. I get it now, the next time i see a guy with a kid and baby food on his shirt, he isn't what he seems he is. hahaah. ;) happy mylotting.
• China
10 Aug 09
I agree. I am also a person whoes outer may not match inner. I look very mature and do not smile always. However, when I am with my friends, I will be an interesting person who will always find welcome topics to talk about. My friend then said that I don't match your age. Yes, I am a person wanting to hide myself in front of people, only when I face my familiars, I will show all myself.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
I think many of us reveal all of us when we are only comfortable with that person. Thats what makes us bond with friends so much better than others. Happy mylotting.
@arunmails (3012)
• India
11 Aug 09
I accept your point.. My inner man and outer man have not match at all... I show anger to all the people at outside.. but at the same time, I call them personally and help them for their needs... If anyone judge me that I am cruel on looking my outerman, I don't worry for it... because, people who know me, will not come to this point...
• Sri Lanka
10 Aug 09
Beauty is not just what we perceive as the perfect face and body. Yes,some superficially beautiful people are having evil hearts. But truly nice people are beautiful always.They may not be that much beautiful, but their inner beauty can be seen radiating out and lighting our hearts. Me;the first impression of me would not be that good. I am a quiet person but only with strangers. And they tend to think that I might be acting proud. But I am just nervous about other people, coz of my stutter I'm scared to interact with others.
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• China
10 Aug 09
i am a little introverted and shy. So i think outside is different with inside.Sometimes what i say to unfamiliar people doesnot match what i think.
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• India
10 Aug 09
Hi, What i think in my mind i do it.whether it is good or bad...i dont compare that i should act for sometime....no more changes for me inner side and outerside..... Any how we should belive on us....That should be done by us.....
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