jumping to conclusions

@jb78000 (15163)
August 10, 2009 10:34am CST
how often do you get other mylotters misunderstanding your comments or discussions? had it a few times myself and i think there's a few reasons for it - the comment can be taken in different ways, the comment was unclear, they didn't bother to read all of it, they're dense. and some others.
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
10 Aug 09
So your conclusion is that the post was perfect to begin with? LOL! Sometimes the posts aren't clear or the English is poor! I try to figure what they are looking for, while not necessarily agreeing with them but sometimes I do. This is what makes the world go around! tdemex
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@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
didn't i say that - the first two reasons i gave were that the comment (or post or discussion) was unclear or could be taken in different ways...
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
10 Aug 09
See thats what I mean! LOL!
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@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
that was you not reading it properly tdemex, not me being unclear. so there.
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@erikmama (12929)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I try not to jump to conclusions. I try to think of everones perspective on the issue and give an answer based on that. I guess I have done it before, but I really try not to!
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@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
that's fair
@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
10 Aug 09
I don't jump to conclusions about ANYTHING on here and definately read all the topic and the responses before posting my own. I check profiles too as some males are not what they appear to be when they start talking about giving birth or having boyfriend trouble If very rarely a misunderstanding occurs I sort it out as soon as possible (as someone up there can confirm ). I had one who absolutely did not read my topic a couple of days ago.....
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@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
going to have a look at that.
@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
or not. you need to make sure that you only start a discussion (or response or comment, or post) once a week and that it isn't a popular one.
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@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
10 Aug 09
You had a look or not?
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
14 Aug 09
Hi jb, I actually expect to be misundersood some times as am well aware that when I post a topic it can be misleading, unless they read the full introduction. I expect some people to be baffeled by a four line comment on a four word response which they did in order to get their post numbers up. I expect my humour to be misunderstood. But I never look to deliberately offend anyone and avoid confrontation at all cost which is why I never stick my head into religion any more. I agree though that many on here appear to be dense.
@jb78000 (15163)
14 Aug 09
i started off by toning down the sarcasm and so on but then realised that some people were always going to misunderstand me even if i wrote in words of one syllable, with pictures (i mean native speakers by this, not having a go at anyone who has english as another language, that's different).
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
14 Aug 09
I find that my sarcasm goes over most peoples heads. I did something on pizza which gave me a real challenge to remain polite and unsarcastic and emphasises that an interest in your own topic is vital - I'm still waiting for a reward from Mike on that oneEach of the misundertandings I alluded to in my response must be on their some where. Of course I will never know if some of the sarcasm was realised as the majority were not, of course, interested.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
11 Aug 09
Language is so simple, and yet so complex! There are 'n' number of meanings to every combination of words, and believe you me, n could tend to infinity, considering the number of humans that are even currently in existence! The human mind can envisage any sent of words, understand and translate them to the meanings that are most obvious to that mind. What are the factors that effect that mind? - it's the environment and the circumstances, the experiences that that particular mind has undergone. What may seem to be an insult to you, could actually be a compliment from the givers perspective. Unless you are very specific in your discussion, its theme, your ideas and thoughts behind it, it's a free world and every word of yours could be interpreted and acted upon depending upon the reader's own thoughts. I personally think that this is good, sometimes, I get to see things in and from a perspective that I would never have thought of- and I mean this even when I get brickbats from some of the responders. Keep an open mind and even the dense person's take could be useful.
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
i've seen some interesting comments that came from a misunderstanding
@tarachand (3895)
• India
14 Aug 09
My point exactly!
• China
11 Aug 09
This phenomenon is normal.
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
seems to be
@skyhss (1142)
• United States
11 Aug 09
suprising as this may sound, i get misunderstood all the time. i think it's a combination of things. sometimes when i'm being very serious, people think i'm just being sarcastic, sometimes it's because they don't get my sense of humor and sometimes it's because someone didn't bother to read my entire post/discussion/comment/response and just assume they know what i'm talking about. sometimes it's also my fault because i ramble on about something and confuse people.
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
eh?
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Maybe some don't understand the senario. Maybe its bcoz it's unclear to them. Sometimes don't want to read the complete comment and try to analyz it before they comment on it and so on. Yes its true theres so many reason behind it.
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
absolutely right
@Theresaaiza (10539)
• Australia
11 Aug 09
Yes it has happened to me more than once and the biggest factor was the language. Although I could say that I can communicate well in English, I do have flaws. There are phrases or terms that I have misused thinking that it meant the same or it meant that way but to native English speakers it was erroneous so sometimes arguments arise because of it.
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
i'm a native speaker, not a really incoherant one either (i think, could be wrong ), and it's happened to me a few times too. language might be the reason for this kind of thing happening sometimes but there are several other reasons as well.
@34momma (13891)
• United States
11 Aug 09
i found it happens sometimes. i think it's because when you read something at times you can either read to much into a statement or not read it correctly at all. and sometimes people are just a$$holes who like to start trouble. LOL
@jb78000 (15163)
11 Aug 09
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug 09
a lot of times when I get misunderstood its because the person who responded only read the title and one or two sentences.other times I may not have worded it right, or maybe the person did not listen to the words. like when you take a complaint to the manager and he makes you repeat five times before he gets what you are saying. So p erhaps the person did not bother to really think it out. and sometimes if a person has a bias he will respond only on the title of your disussion,not bothering to read any of it.
@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
there's lots of reasons. beginning to realise that sometimes you need to be very clear here (got that from the br discussion i began before, which everyone misunderstood, think you were one of them), and there are also plenty of people that assume they know what you'll say without taking the 2 seconds it takes to actually read something.
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
hello, i think it is normal for people to jump in to conclusions from time to time. Especially in the online world, where you cannot really really put expressions into just typing and emoticons. Because some words or grammar have different meaning with the way you say it. And no two people are a like. So i think we could really be misunderstood from time to time. happy mylotting!
@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
yes, i think misunderstandings come up more often when you can see or hear a person
@icehut (508)
10 Aug 09
It really depends on the discussions you comment on. Some opinionated myLotters will always accuse you of siding with the devil if your opinions are not the same as theirs. I generally try to be brief and to the point, as to avoid confusion. However, there are those that misunderstand because they do not really read comments as they're more interested in just getting replies to their discussions and merely skim read. There have been the occasional "dense" replies - just ignore those. There's no need to get in to a flame war with the silly ones.
@jb78000 (15163)
10 Aug 09
try to. arguing with someone who has the debating skills of a 10 year old is exhausting. and pointless.
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