August 11, 2009 4:40am CST
what if your partner wants to make love and you're not in the mood, what do you do? Do you just let it happen or do you say to your partner that you're not in the mood. And if you do, how do you feel afterwards even if you let your partner get his/her way?
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11 Aug 09
If I just let my partner have his way , I will feel used. I won't feel well afterwards. So, I normally tell him no. When I don't want it , I don't want it. He agrees with me and told me, he does not want me to think I have to do it for him. Then he would rather wait until I want it. He claims it to be more fun when I want it too. I appreciate that. Maybe because we are older, we think different than younger people.
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14 Aug 09
Honestly for me it depends on how my husband is going about it. If he is trying to be romantic and gentle then I will let him but make him work a little bit harder to get me in the mood. But if he is being a perv and just groping me then I will tell him that I am not in the mood and he will back right off till some time in the middle of the night which is when he will be romantic about it then I will let him.
6 Sep 09
No I don't force him, but sometomes I do because he want and likes to be pampered and he enjoys if I ask him and pleases him to do it. That's only suring fun times. So far we didn't had such experience of not in a mood, when ever we meet we do it with full energy and pleasure.
31 Mar 12
I think there is no big deal if I am in the mood or not? The important was to give what my partner asking for to avoid any misunderstanding...that is an obligation that each partner must responsible and obligated to make it happen to satisfy our partner
21 Apr 10
communication is very important between partners. Likewise, understanding and listening plays important roles in a relationship. i believe that you can always talk about it and try to understand each others' feelings.