Can we learn from Conflict?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
August 13, 2009 8:52am CST
It seems that we cannot avoid conflict in our lives as we are all so different, but surely we can learn from it. For starters, judgement and blame must be cast aside and replaced by mutual respect. Remembering that we should never want to control another is a good start, even if that person is our spouse or adult son or daughter. We can only change ourselves and interfering in the lives of other adults will only cause more conflict and increase the tension between us. Instead of always blaming our spouse,boss or co-worker, why not ask ourselves why we always clash with that person and see if there isn't something that we can do to help resolve the conflict. This is a great way to learn and grow because almost always, there is, if we keep an open mind coupled with open eyes and ears. If we are patient,compassionate and tolerant as well as willing to compromise, we will often find the other person is ready to do the same. We may discover a stubbornness within ourselves or that all of the negative thoughts we've been harbouring have clouded our vision. What are your thought?
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
14 Aug 09
Hello Pose. It is absolutely true that we can always learn something from any confict by analyzing why it happens, the cause of it. We ought to learn and judge what is the right thing to do during the conflict to avoid any conflict for a peaceful life. If all of us could do this, life would be more harmonious and comfortable. I appreciate your thought a lot, my dear friend.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Confrontation is very much to me like intervention ,and it should be used only when other methods have failed. It's very essential for every
human being to learn to properly communicate their feelings to
others and learn to compromise because we cannot take people for granted.
Everyone is important and our way is not always the right way for everybody since
we all have a differnt perspective about what is right and wrong.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
As far as I know, everything that happens has a purpose. It is up to us to find out what it is or what are those. If conflicts arises, I know I need to learn some thing from it. So conflicts do teaches me lessons.
