Have you lost a loved one? How did it affect your life?

@jkatmaou (195)
Philippines
August 14, 2009 2:08am CST
A friend's mom passed away this week. And it made me remember how i felt in this same month last year when i lost my father. it is really difficult to lose a loved one, especially when you're really close to them. when my father passed away last year, i was so sad that i stayed aloof from people, even my mom and sister. it was very difficult for me to accept. it' only thanks to mylot that i have gotten used to being with people again. i was able to move on gradually. how about you? how did you move on after this blow in your life?
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4 responses
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
14 Aug 09
I lost my father when i was in high school. I thought it will took me forever to accept one of the biggest blow in my life. Well, we took it different though. You stayed aloof to people but i was the other way around. I thought i needed guidance and someone to talk to. I made the right choice because i learned that love not time heals all wounds. There are people around who loves us and it's unfair if you continue not to let go.
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
letting go is not easy, but it doesn't mean that you're shutting out the rest of the world. thanks for responding.
• Thailand
16 Aug 09
I understand that letting go is not easy and one of the hardest thing to do. I know where you're coming from because I've lost a loved one too. Sometimes accepting and letting go though difficult to do will make us to be ok. Happy mylotting.
• India
14 Aug 09
It doesnot happened with me yet that i lose someone i love and i cant even about that and i dont know how will i react coz my life is incomplete without them whenever i will get time to spend with my parents i enjoy each and every moment with them and if this is happened with someone then yes obviously it is hard to overcome their sorrorw but one has to move on in life .
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
it is true that everyone has to move on. but moving on should not be forced, everyone must have a time to grieve until the pain has mellowed enough. it's great that you've never lost a loved one yet, so i hope you cherish the time you have together always. enjoy your day!
• China
14 Aug 09
luckily, until now, i have not lost any very loved one. but i sometimes feel very afraid of it. cause i heard that some people in the same village had gone away. my parents are older and older, while i have less time to be together with them. so i dreamed them evening and evening. but still not ask for days off to visit them, just waiting the holidays coming, and then can come back to take care of them for a short days. i cant imagine if losing any of my loved ones. i'm afraid i'll become desperate and crazy. i'm crying now to be afraid of that. God bless everyone! i do hope u can be well as usual, and cherish ur another loved ones, and live happily!
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
i used to be the same, what with my busy schedule. i always take the time to go home on my days off so i can be with them even for only a short while. time flies by, so make the most of it and try to spend more time with your loved ones. happy mylotting!
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
15 Aug 09
I have lost both my parents, my dad 11 years ago this month and my mom 5 years ago in April. I miss them daily and often wish I could talk to them. I am the oldest sibling, and cousin of many and so now things fall on my shoulders as now I am the older generation left living. It is strange but I cope and deal with it and am thankful for the years and times and things my parents and grandparents taught me and the memories and photos left.