Some ladies are not able to get pregnant

@maximax8 (30060)
United Kingdom
August 14, 2009 3:44am CST
They have tried unsuccessfully to get pregnant for years. The doctors have said their only possibility is IVF treatment. The lady must be under 39 years old and she is allowed one free of cost IVF treatment in my local area. In some other areas ladies are allowed to have up to three free IVF treatments. They call it the postcode lottery. Some ladies that can't get pregnant prefer to adopt a baby or a child that is unwanted. What do you think? If you couldn't have children naturally would you want to try IVF? Would you prefer to adopt a baby or a child instead?
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@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
14 Aug 09
All I can say Maximax is that your postcode area is very generous. I don't know how they can call it a 'National' health service when different postcodes implement different rules, the whole thing is a complete nonsense.
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14 Aug 09
Totally agree with you, it should be one rule for all or not at all, since everyone pairs their shares of taxes equally
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@maximax8 (30060)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 09
Postcode areas can be so different and it should indeed be the same health service for all. It is so silly that medical care varies depending on which location a British person lives in.
@AmbiePam (51159)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Around here IVF would not be free, although I'm not familiar with all of the requirements for the procedure. Unless I'm in the situation I don't know exactly what I would do. However, I think I would adopt a child rather than do IVF. Both are rather expensive. But I think it would make me feel better to know I'm taking care of a child that had no home, if I could not get pregnant myself.
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@maximax8 (30060)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 09
It would be so lovely to adopt a child that needed a loving home. I like your idea of thinking that adopting would be best. Taking care of a needy child would be really rewarding I think my friend Ambie Pam.
14 Aug 09
If came down to it and i needed to IVF would be my first option, i would consider adoption but would try other things first. I think the postcode lottery is ridiculous, we all pay our fair and equal share of your taxes so i dont see why some people should get preferntial treatment just because of where they live. Imagine how devastating that is to people who have been trying for a baby for many years to find out they live in the "wrong are"
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@maximax8 (30060)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 09
I think it must be really upsetting for a couple that live in a 'wrong area'. It is expensive to have IVF treatment if it is not on the National Health Service. Privately it costs about four thousand pounds.
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
i have no idea what is IVF but if the women can't conceive, i suggest to adopt a baby... because there are lots of side effects and should not be pressure for some women who cannot conceive... just accept what happens and it will go away... sometimes some IVF treatments really harm not only for women but also the newborn babies...
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@maximax8 (30060)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 09
I think that medical treatment to have a baby can result in a multiple pregnancy. I know a lady that got pregnant with triplets. The doctors asked if she wanted a reduction but she didn't. Her boys were tiny at birth and each went into an incubator.
@Poison_Girl (4163)
• United States
15 Aug 09
I don't even know what IVF is and I've never heard of it. I know I'd never want it, though. I don't even want kids and consider those that are "unable" to have them very lucky. I'd love to get myself sterilized to decrease my chances of getting pregnant. If it were up to me, I'd just have my ovaries removed. They're pretty useless anyway, right? Plus, they only cause me pain and trouble.
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• United States
18 Aug 09
What is the IVF treatment? Is that a fertility thing where the sperm is like injected into the woman or whatever? Or whatever John & Kate Plus 8 had? Im trying to understand here. I cant even imagine how these women feel, being unable to have children, because I am fertile mertyle over here, so I guess I am very fortunate. FREE TREATMENTS??? If its what I am thinking of, that's nuts! I cant even imagine it being free, I thought it cost thousands of dollars to do, and a lot of the times it doesnt even work!!! I guess if I couldnt get pregnant, I would try the treatment because I would want something of my own (if its the treatment Im thinking of), otherwise I would adopt. (I am adopted, but because I am adopted Ive always craved a child of my own flesh and blood)
• China
17 Aug 09
I am afraid I could not get pregnant. The doctor inform me there are is about 10% I could not get pregnant. If we could not get pregnant in several years. I think we would try for IVF treatments.It is very cost in my country,not any free chance.It is about 4500 USD ~ 5500 USD.And It would last for a very long time.One friend said it is very very painful.I am not sure my body could contain the painful or not.And the worst it is hard to get pregnant in one time. Most people should try for second,third.... I would like adopt a baby,but I am afraid he / her would try to find their parent one day.
• Canada
15 Aug 09
IVF treatment is worth a try, successful fertility treatments usually end up in producing multiple births!Having your own child avoids you going through drama later when having to inform them of their adoption, though adopting can be a wonderful idea when you considering you are in a way saving a life.
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
15 Aug 09
My husband and I have actually had this conversation years ago, before I had become pregnant with our oldest child. It had taken us years...a little over 4 years to be more precise, to conceive our first child. We never did bother to go to the doctors though as I assumed my reproductive system was pretty much screwed up from when I was deathly sick back when I was little, so our baby was conceived the old fashioned way. However, had we not been able to get pregnant we talked about the possibility of adopting a baby/young child as we liked the idea of having a child to call our own (even if it did come from someone else). I never knew the first IVF treatment is free in some areas. I wonder if it is this way in the US? I always thought it was a costly process for a couple. Happy mylotting!
• China
15 Aug 09
I now haven't the thought of adopting a kid,so my wife has got pregnant for more two months.I only want to how to take good care of my wife and our future baby.perhaps in the future I would adop a child after my economy become a little better.
• China
15 Aug 09
If a woman is not pregnant,it is troubling things.But now the medicine can be used as possible so that they can pregnancy.If they can not really pregnant.Then to adopt a child the same.Children are the same.You love him(her)custody,he(she),then you will get and the natural son of the same family.He(she) will have you as their own pro-mother.
@dbabcook (389)
• United States
15 Aug 09
I myself did have trouble getting pregnant. I wanted a baby so badly that I reverted to Fertility Treatments which I had always told myself that I would never do. It took 2 months of treatments but I finally got pregnant and had the most beautiful baby girl 9 months later. It is a personal choice but it is always important to outweigh all of the pros and cons involved.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Aug 09
maximax8 hj hatley here. I think if you hAve lots of money and cant get pregnant the ordinary its okay tohave IVF. As for me I couldnt afford it and anyway i got socked with a necessary historectomy after mysecond child so adoption was the only way and my husband refused to Adopt a child.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
14 Aug 09
I might give in vitro a try. Hopefully it would work, but adoption would always be a good choice for me. There are many children in need of good parents and love. Maybe I'm biased because I was adopted, but I see no difference in being raised by birth parents or adoptive parents that love us as much. Actually even though I have my own children, if my life changed a bit and I could commit myself financially I would still like to adopt. Personally I think it doesn't really matter all that much if we carried that child inside us or not, we can love both equally.