I Am Afraid and About my Mum

That is life, and if I may use an American Idiom "that's how the cookie breaks" Your mother growing old is inevitable and you have to take care of her. So what is there to be scared of. Please prepare for the situation in a positive way. You will face it in a good manner on the day it comes. Its O.K. to cry! it is the best in releasing the pent up feelings and bad thoughts. Best of luck for the future.

Hi, i live in another place far from my parent one half of a year, when i go back home, my mum often says to me that she hopes me get a girlfriend again, not too lazy for homework, i am a little afraid of her, certainly she get older and being more unreasonable, so i don't talk much with mum, just we go out to travel silently, i know everyone can't persuade each other. I wish my mum will have her happier life and not worry about my private affairs. (laugh) Enjoy mylot!

Well yes, I am a little afraid of this myself. As long as my Dad is still around to look after her, it will be okay. But I live in Berlin, they live near Amsterdam. It is far away. Not only that I have a bad back. I cannot do very much anymore either. I have my two children, they would help me. But, it sure wouldn't be easy! I don't like to think about it either.

I often work with people who have such problems so I cannot help but think how I would deal with someone close should it happen to them - but, I also work with other old people who have very active and alert minds so, I know that its by no means an inevitable part of old age. For now, I like to spend time with my mum (who is 78 and very capable despite some underlying health issues), having fun and long chats. I want to make sure she knows how much I love her and to encourage her to do whatever she wants for as long as she is able. We can worry ourselves so much about what 'might' happen that we don't enjoy the good things that do happen. I hope your mum has a long and fulfilling life ahead of her - she has a headstart by having you to care about her.

hello,chi2nasrin.many people said mother is the great.but i don't think so.some mother may be that.but some mother isn't great.i am afriad of my mother and she always loud to me

Oh my goodness, I know how you feel! I can't even think about this subject about my mother becoming this way, and she is starting to grow older she is 61 years old, and I get terrified if she would become senile or would need someone to watch over her twenty four seven. She said that she refuses to ever go into a nursing home and before we had all agreed that she would live with my brother because he is almost 40, and has a big house and all that stuff. But, my mom decided that she does not want to live with them because they don't appreciate her and they would treat her badly, which I don't think is TOTALLY true, but she said she would want to live with us. I told her it could not happen anytime soon, because we live in a very small trailer house, two small bedrooms (we have two children) and she would have to wait until we bought/built our house someday. I feel so bad! Ughh... Why do people have to get old? =(

hi chi2nasrin let me sit you straight, all old women do not go' senile in fact most of us are just as bright as you and we do not have to be in diapers. we are not all invalids,and I can safely say I aM very intelligent and c an pretty much take care of myself. we are not all burdens on our children or grandkids. most of us are healthy and able to care for ourselves so do not fret like that.your mom well may be just like I am, I aM 82 and am not senile,I do not need a sons or daughters care.movies are not real life