Save the Marriage or Not?

Malaysia
August 16, 2009 2:15am CST
There are many committed people who neglect their commitments to their marriage and have outside flings. This is something so common nowadays and loyalty to one's partner is becoming rare in this modern world. Affairs usually signify that there are unresolved issues in the relationship. Affairs are about betrayal. When one has an affair she take part of herself away from her spouse. She lie about where she is going, where she has been and make up excuses why she cannot be together or sleep together or share herself. There is a whole part of her life that she cannot talk about. That maybe the bad apple test the sweetest kind of story. Well, now a time will come when a hard knock will make her begin to have an honest relationship after having been in a dishonest one. Trust and expectations are shattered. How then do a person come back and rebuild a new foundation for the marriage? Do you as the offended partner willing to accept your runaway partner if she comes back after an affair?
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3 responses
• China
16 Aug 09
Hello,dear friend.If there is some hope.Not everyone want their marital breakdoen. Or separately. When the marriage crisis. Deceive ourselves into the feelings of their spouses. Playing a joke not a normal life. So that the anger can not help. However, their original feelings of the marriage is, when spouses know that they done something wrong. Back to your side, you should accept her. Because you love her. You are honest.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
Let her go, if she comes back she is yours if she don't she was never yours in the first place. Yes, I think what ever happen if you still love her, accept her despite all wrong doings.
@sblossom (2168)
16 Aug 09
It’s very hard to say if I can accept it or not. Now I’m trying to overcome my disadvantage and to be a tolerant person. Forgiving the person who betrayed me is one thing I need to do in my life. Everyone can make mistake in their life including in the relationship. If he or she realised the mistake and wanted to be back to you and you still love the person from your heart, why not try to accept the person and the mistake. I know it’s very difficult but I do know a British man who accepted his unfaithful wife and now live happily. Past is not important, the most important is present and future. Sometimes we can not accept the mistake not because of our self, most because of outside pressure or other people’s thinking. Forget it. Your life is just yours. Happy or not happy just you self can tell.
• India
16 Aug 09
I think we always tried to save our marriage because relationship is take more time to be strong but very less time to break