ambitious, maybe not a good thing?

My husband works, and sometimes he works long hours, but unless he absolutely has to go out of town for work, he is at home and with me every night. In our relationship, I am the one who seems to always be busy doing one thing or another. Even right now, I am here, on mylot, and my husband is in the other room watching television. It does take a toll on us at times, but to be honest, one reason I keep myself so busy is because he does a lot of things that I am not involved in. e uses his free time for recreation, I use mine for other things, such as trying to earn extra money for us. I do think that no matter how bust a person is, they have to find that balance. If I didn;t take time out for my family, to really be there each day, things wouldn't be as they are for us. I am sure my husband wouldn't tolerate it at all. If your guy can find that balance, things should be fine, if not, then maybe you need to find someone else.

I don’t know it’s good or not. But from your writing I think this kind of man is not my cup of tea. I do know ambition is very important to a man. However if a man is very ambitious it also means he’s a perfect chaser. I’m not a perfect person so I will feel big pressure from the relationship. I need a man who has time to around me then I can feel I’m needed by a man. So I think the family man is more suitable with me. I mean not very ambitious man who can have more free time spending on his family. Happy Mylotting.

I think I would dump this workaholic as hes not got'any time for you and probably would only want you as arm candy at dinners and parties. he is too involved in himself from what I can see. money isnt everything. I would not want a man like that.

Hi sulsisels, I'm a guy and I would like to share with you my thoughts from a guy's point of view. Hope you don't mind... Yeah, me too think so that being too ambitious isn't a very good thing when comes to being in a relationship, reason being chances that the one being overly ambitious will either put his/her career or business venture over the relationship he/she is in and as a result neglect the other party or in another way having high expectation of the other party which might eventually hurt the relationship in some ways. I've been through a relationship similar to yours a few years back... Back then, I was with my ex-girlfriend who is the so-call 'Heiress' of her family jewelry business and I was serving my national service. My ex-girlfriend was overly ambitious in such a way that she expect perfection in evrything she do as well as seizing every single opportunities to make as much money as possible. She help her parents run their family business and at the same time she was a part-time model, and me... back then just a national serviceman earning just monthly allowance of $400+ when I was a corporal and then $700+ when I got promoted to a sergeant, as for her, she was drawing monthly salary of around at least $2,500 from her family business plus the salary and allowances for some modelling assignment, which total up to around $3K to maximum $5K plus monthly. But then, she don't mind the amount of allowance I earned as a national serviceman because she understand that its every male Singaporean duty to serve his nation for 2 years and also its the true feelings and commitment to each other that matters the most in a relationship. We went on with the relationship being through all the ups and downs, and most of all, I'll say everything went on smoothly on the overall when we were together during the 2 years when I was a national serviceman. After completing my national service in the police force, I enrolled into a local college to pursue my honour degree in Fashion Design, then things started to turn upside down and all around... My ex-girlfriend was expecting me to pursue my honour degree either in New York or Canada where there are more reputable fashion college and better opportunities for a career in fashion, reason being not just for the reputable fashion colleges and career opportunities but mainly because she is also looking at enrolling in one of the reputable college to pursue her honour degree and also for the sake of her future career. I did not chose to go by her suggestion as I wasn't able to support myself financially at that point of time as all my persoanl savings were just enough for me to pursue an honour degree in a local college. To pursue my honour degree in a reputable college in either New York or Canada will cost me 2 to 3 times of my persoanl savings, considering the tution fees plus cost of study materials as well as living expenses. Sadly, I have to decline to my ex-girlfriend's suggestion. She seems understanding at first when she know of my situation, saying that she respect my decision and that she will stand by me during my one year of pursuing my honour degree be it financially or motivationally. But however, as time goes by, she starts showing me all kind of her Miss-Posh and so call 'Woman Power/Professionalism' way of attitude and expectations, such that she expected perfections in everything I do and that if I happens to have an hiccups, she made a big fuss over it instead of correcting me in an encouraging way like before. And these went on for the first two months of the commencement of my honour degree... Well, I won't go so much into details... But I'll say that our relationship ends in a mutual break-up 3 months after the commencement of my honour degree. To date, we both are still single and our relationship did became better in terms of friendship. We keep in touch through e-mails, MSN Messenger and sometimes through Skype. I'm glad that my ex-girlfriend has achieved everything she aimed to acheive and also... I'll say she's getting more and more gorgeous with full of charisma, well, she too says that I looking even more charming and charismatic then before, but however, thats not what I wanna hear from her... Sad to say, I'm still the same in terms of financial and achievement wise as before...

for me, ambitious is an expectation. Every person must have an expectation. without expectation, he live in dependence. So, I am verry appreciate with person have ambitious

Ambitious is a good thing. I admire people that have lots of dreams and that they are really working on it. I like to see people achieved in life. If i love the guy and he has too much on his plate..i will support him...only if his totally committed on me.