how do you discipline your children?to spank or to scold?

Philippines
August 20, 2009 8:37am CST
do you think that disciplining your child requires you to spank them or would it be fine to scold them and let them realize the things they had done is not good.i have been brought up with a few spanking and a little it of scolding.i tink i turned out well.what are you thoughts on this?
4 responses
@tintukm (1102)
• India
25 Aug 09
Every child has the most unique of at at least a behavior.The parents,school teachers and elders are the one's taking care of the child's attitude.In their childhood children must be made aware of the bad habits by giving them proper advices in a much childish manner,otherwise the children would take them as rough and rude statements. They must be scolded only when they repeat the mistakes otherwise proper conversation to the child would do.
• United States
21 Aug 09
i am a child (sort of i am 16) when my parents scolded me i found myself zoning out and paying no attention just saying ok and i will not do it again. this was when i was about 10 and above. you should just take take away things they like even though that made me really mad and feeling like i wanted to hit someone it works. i was rarely smacked or hit this would only happen when me being bad coincided with my parents being mad and only one hit was enough to make me feel really bad. hope this helps
@osris61 (107)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Hi, My children are all grown now but when they were growing up there was a lot of scolding going on in the house. They also stood in he corner, they hated that, lol Very few spankings but there were some cases. When my two boys set the neighbors fence on fire, well they got a spanking! Sometimes we had to it. We did not beat them, just a few smacks to get our point across.
@boisson (256)
• Hong Kong
20 Aug 09
Scolding will do, I'm sure, but be sure not to scold too much or it'll stop working! :( Spanking might be reserved for extreme cases, like playing with fire :( Still, I find that the best thing to do is to give sincere appreciation for good behaviour. Critisism has been shown by science to be of only medium effectiveness when used on children.