Would you get back wirth your ex? ...
By lizzrr
@lizzrr (135)
August 21, 2009 11:11am CST
So a friend of mine talk to my ex because she asked for advice on what to do to her boyfriend.
Then they end up talking about me, and to my surprise, my ex confess to my friend that he still loves me.
I don't know if I should believe him since I lost trust of him, and I don't know what to do if I should tell him and ask him? if it was the truth?
I really don't know what to do, I don't want to hurt him because
when the time comes and he'll say that to me and I already have move on with some feelings left.
Thanks in advance.
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8 responses
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
21 Aug 09
How long has it been since the two of you broke up? its hard to say, I believe that we should move forward not back, but it depends on you, I have a ex that I am friends with, but I would not want to be with him, although he is a wonderful person, I just don't think that being with an e is something I would want to do, in my case it has been years so, he has children, there is a lot to think about, it is totally up to you, only you know how you feel and what the two of you have been through, what ever you decide I wish you the best.
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@lizzrr (135)
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22 Aug 09
Well first we're just together for a couple of months then it become distance relaationship and that's when the break up start. Actually it's almost a year now.
I've actually moved on, but there is still some left but in time it will go away.
Thanks for the comment, I've thought about it and I think it's best to move on and be just friends :)
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I think you know what is best, sounds like you have a good head on your shoulder, sometimes we allow our feeling to get the best of us, nice to see you are not going to do that, you like him yes, but thats o.k you will probably like him for years to come, you know what you want, and I am sure you will meet that special person. all the best.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
22 Aug 09
hello,
sound like you still in love with him, don't you? well, the reason why I said that cuz you said you dont know what to do. If you dont have any more feeling for him then you will not say that at all. for me, if I still love him and if he still love me... then he should make a move and then I will give him another chance. everyone desire a second chance. sometimes after the first break up, he might learn something valuable.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
I don't really know how to answer you. This would probably annoy you, but I think that you're the only one who could answer your question. I've gotten back with my ex lots of times for the simple reason that I couldn't stay away. And I really thought it was worth it. Is your ex worth it?
@karenrosesalazar (256)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
hmmm...that's a tough question. I probably wouldn't. There was a reason why we broke up.
You would not probably believe this but my ex and I are very close friends. We talk, give each other advices, boost each other up, share secrets. Maybe there will always be a part of me that would stay in love with him, but as for us getting back together... my answer would be no for now. My life is a lot less complicated this way. :)
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@pretteen (66)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
i would choose rather not to get back with him if i were you. if you want you could stay of as friends. maybe things would turn out much better that way besides you have already moved on and things didn't work out right between the two of you before. but the decision is still up to you if you want to take a risk and give him a chance or better stay as friends where it is less complicated.
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@leslie_stanfield (38)
• United States
21 Aug 09
It's kind of touch to answer this since I have no idea what the history is between you two. Did he cheat on you, was he truthful, was he immature, has he grown up, are you in a relationship with someone...etc? My best advise is if you generally like WHO he is (what his actions are, what he's like when he's angry, how he treats others, if he does what he says, if he keeps his word, if he's going in the direction you are, etc.) and want to be included in his life then sure talk to him, but if not, just keeping moving forward and leave him where he is.
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@lizzrr (135)
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21 Aug 09
Well it's kinda confusing/complicated relationship we've had.
We were 15 that time and it was my plan to not take serious with it and so he did (but i didn't knew it was just a dare) ..until I fell for him and so he did.
Since then I lost trust of him, we've known since childhood. I really don't know if I should get back with him because I honestly don't think I would and don't want to lead him into nothing.
He's an okay guy, but there are things that i didn't like which are his vices of smoking :(
Thanks for the comment.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
21 Aug 09
I do believe it's possible, in some cases, for people to reconcile. Me, personally, I really don't think I'd get back together with an ex. I look at it the same way I look at a job that I quit. If I left that workplace, it was because there were concrete reasons why I found the job to be unacceptable. There would have to be problems for me to quit. Likewise in a relationship... more than likely there were any number of problems or issues that ultimately resulted in the break up. I really think that if you go back to work at that company or get back together with that ex, the unacceptable things are still going to be there and, eventually, they come back up. Time has a way of making us forget some things and, as human beings, we do like to remember the good times and good experiences more than the bad. After being away from a relationship for some time, I imagine it's possible to start remembering more of the good parts of it and that might make it more tempting to go back to it. I guess I'm just not that much of an optimist. If I've moved on, I've moved on. Staying friends? Absolutely. Becoming intimate again? Not likely.
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
22 Aug 09
I do agree that, if you are meant to be with someone, you can definitely find your way back together. In my experience, yes, you can remember the time with an ex down to the last detail. I dated my first husband for 6 years before we married and we were together for 12 years after that - we separated when I was 35 so my time with him was half my life 'til that moment. I can sit here right now and remember things from when we were dating and I was only 18. I wish you much luck in sorting out your feelings... take your time, don't feel rushed... and the answers will come :)
@lizzrr (135)
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22 Aug 09
I totally agree with you, I guess I should just move on right?
But as other says, time will lead as back if we're meant to be.
and, is it normal to remember your past with your ex even it's been years pass by?
because I somewhat can clearly remember everything we've been through. Sigh, how i wwish I can be true to my feelings and decide on what to do.
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@kriscie_crazy (12)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
It is only you who can answer to that... and it also depends on the situation... bottom line is, if he's worth it and if you still love him and that you're ready to accept any consequences that might come your way (again), then I suggest you have to... but if not, well I guess there's no turning back...
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