In Your House - Do you allow guests of other faiths to visit or stay?

@zoey7879 (3104)
United States
August 22, 2009 2:49pm CST
A few years ago, I fell extremely ill. My then boyfriend, daughter, and I moved into my mother's large home. I hadn't been around my family except for 11 days in well over 10 years. When I moved in, I began paying for food for the entire household, the cable bill, the phone/internet bill, gasoline and repairs on the vehicle that I drove, as well as rent and loaning my mother money. I soon learned that my mother had become something short of a fundamentalist, contradicting all of the things that she raised me to be. When she found out my boyfriend was an aethiest, she began screaming at me for "bringing evil into her house", that online games and horror films are evil, and basically made him a domestic slave. How do you react when you discover that someone visiting or living in your home is of a faith that you don't approve of or agree with?
5 responses
22 Aug 09
I think your mother was being exceptionally harsh! If someone is an aethiest - it dosen't mean they're the devil worshippers. It's ridiculous to ridicule someone because of their faith or 'lack of it'. All of the main religions promote peace and harmony - to respect others - shouldn't she be promoting her religion by giving a good example on how to live? No. She's ridiculing her religion also. I really feel sorry fo you suffering this =/ I wouldn't really mind, as long as the religion is peaceful. I'm a Christain, but most of my friends are aethiest. I also know Muslim, and Jews. Buddists and Hindu's. And I'd invite them all to my house because they are wonderful people. If it was someone who had no regard for other religions, and no respect for certain ethnic groups, I would ask them to leave.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I'm tolerant of other faiths and beliefs myself from a guest as long as they're not being shoveled down my throat or being insulting of mine. I had a guest once who was actually bold enough to say that Wiccans murder babies. She was my roommate's guest but it WAS my house.. needless to say despite the fact that she was supposed to visit for another week, her little @$$ got tossed on the next outgoing Greyhound!
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I forgot to mention in my previous post that I am Wiccan, but she wasn't aware of that fact.
@dorannmwin (36651)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Growing up with my faith taught me to be accepting of all people, so I wouldn't hesitate to let someone of a differing or opposing faith visit our home or even stay with us. However, the issue that I would have is if the guest was trying to draw me away from my faith and into theirs. Most of my friends are not of the same faith as I am, but it doesn't cause an issue between us as our faith is something that is somewhat private to us. The only person that I've ever tried to get into my faith is my husband and the only reason that he wasn't of my faith was because he'd spent his entire life moving across the world. I got him to join the conversion class at my church and told him that I was not forcing him to make the decision, but if it was something that he liked, I'd really be happy if he joined so that we could raise our children in a single faith family.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
28 Aug 09
See, that's just the the thing. I was raised to be tolerant and accepting... Love thy brother means loving humanity. At one point, until it came down to some things happening anyway, I had even planned to attend Bible college and later move to New Mexico for some extended mission work. It's so bad that I really don't even like visiting her house. I rarely go any further in discussing it (even with my love) than to say I believe in reincarnation, dont hit people, kill, steal, lie, or commit adultery. I stop at that.. No reason for me to try to convert people. I guess Im just really hurt and confused that I could be raised one way, and suddenly my mother flips to being the polar opposite and just.. well.. spiteful.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
23 Aug 09
yeah my thing i tell people who respect my wishes by not pushing your belife off on me and i will do the same. this is the problme with the world too many people think what they belive in is what everyone else belive in, no one can except we all are different, we have different belifes.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Yes... she's very intent on comformity... sadly.
• United States
22 Aug 09
It sounds like your mom has some serious issues, even beyond religious intolerance. I'm sorry that happened to you guys. I was raised Catholic, my dad's sister married a Pakistani man and my cousins are Muslim. When they came to visit we made sure that we were not serving pork products for dinner, but my mom still cooked Sunday morning bacon the way she always did for many years, we just made sure to have some sort of OTHER food to offer them. We did not abandon our tradition (yes, Sunday morning bacon IS a tradition in my family, one I still observe now that I have my own family) but we tried to make sure our guests were still comfortable. We all got along fine and had a nice time. My cousins were also very good guests, I'd have them over again in a heartbeat. Actually they might enjoy it even more now, since I now cook turkey bacon usually for my Sunday traditional breakfast.
22 Aug 09
Sounds delicious! Could I come? ~ If only we could all get along that way as you have described. Then the world would be such a more happier, and kinder place. It's really nice to hear a good story like yours, it makes me feel a bit more confident that one day this world will get better.
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• Malaysia
23 Aug 09
hi zoey i will welcome everyone into my house, it is up to them on if they want to come or not ... my religion requires us to hv an alter, normally if we have friends coming we will close the room for our alter in order not to worry them. food wise, basically my family do not eat beef or pork so it is not a problem for us to serve food for our friends of muslim or hindu faith when we are serving muslim we ensure we buy the meat from muslim traders (as they have special prayers for slaughtering) Me personnally am not offended by any sort of prayers, i have been to church and mosque as well ..