Anyone else who has adopted their children?

United States
August 22, 2009 11:48pm CST
I am a proud father of three young boys. My wife and I adopted our two older boys internationally. Our oldest is Four and the younger is 3. We are also fostering a 2 year old who we are in the process with. I have often been asked stupid questions like: 1. Don't you want your own? response: they are my children, (any other adoptive parents know this one by heart) 2. Can't you have your own? response: don't know-we go to practice but never get in the game 3. Does he look like is mother? response: not sure-(followed by walking away nonchallantly looking at their puzzled face) 4. Aren't they lucky to have you? response: I'm lucky to have them 5. Are they "real" brothers? response: nope-figments of your immagination 6. Did you worry that you might not love them? resonse: (this one is an honest question) so I tell them that it is a real concern to some-but the first time I held all three of my boys they were mine in my heart 7. Do they speak spanish?-the older two are from a hispanic country but came here as babies response:-nope swahilli-wierd huh? Feel free to add responses as I'm sure I will think of more!
5 responses
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
23 Aug 09
I love to hear adoption stories. I haven't adopted my children but had them naturally. I admire people that adopt a child or children. One of my friends is a foster carer and recently she cared for two sisters. They were one year and three years old. Now they are living with the couple that have chosen to adopt them. My friend is still fostering a little baby girl. I am a primary school teacher and I know children that are adopted. It is lovely that you adopted your two sons and are fostering your youngest son. Which country did your older two boys come from?
• United States
23 Aug 09
Both older boys are from Guatemala It is a beautiful country. I have been there four times. My wife has been there eight times. We plan to go again this winter to spend time with our sons foster families.
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
I am proud of you sir that even though these children are not from yours you really love them, I love children too, I have two children with my own, and I adopted also a girl which is the youngest in here. We treated her as our own too even though we told her that she is not coming from us biologically we love her very much. And my kids also love her specially my husband. Its more blessling for you sir and blessing for the kids the you adopt. God bless you always and regards to your family.
• Canada
24 Aug 09
Congratulations on the adoption of your boys. Hopefully, the adoption in process will go through soon. Yes, we have adopted one of our children. She was our foster child first and we were more than thrilled when she came up for adoption and jumped at the chance. We also have three foster children (all girls) who are siblings and won't be put up for adoption. This is a second marriage for both my husband and I, we each have biological kids from our first marriages and yes, we love the child we adopted every bit as much as the ones that are our bio children.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
I am a proud single mother of two kids too! I had my first child when i was very very young.......and now he's 14 years old..... then 2 years ago, my sister (who is 10 years younger than me) got pregnant and she was sooo oyung and undecided and didn't knwo if she's ready to be a mom.... she asked me if I can take her baby...I was not sure at first... when I had the little boy, i fell in-love with him,,, and now he's almost 3 years old........ and these 2 boys are my treasures and my daily inspiration........
@realan (518)
• United States
23 Aug 09
It is wonderful that you adopted. That is something that I also want to do. I have one daughter that I gave birth to, but want to adopt a brother or sister for her. I'm hoping our finances get a little better, and then we can proceed. The company I work for also helps financially with adoptions and has a great maternity leave. I was adopted myself, and was also in foster care for a while. There are so many children that need homes.