Do you maintain double standard ? ?
By K.Rajib G.
@krajibg (11922)
Guwahati, India
August 23, 2009 12:44am CST
Hello friends and all,
Double standard. I know you would say that you do not or hardly maintain double standard. You know you are lying but you are keeping it aside as a mere fib that harms none. But is it really so? We know - say I know I am maintaining double standard and I am aware of this. If not any one I feel it harms the person who indulges in it if it becomes more often than normal for it would become apparent and people would notice it in the open field and this might lower his good image if at all he has/had.
I repeat and I do not retreat from my stance. Yes, when this becomes too frequent it might turn into a conceit and conceit would develop into hypocrisy and that is true that I am a bit hypocrite too.
Have you gone for introspection and seen if these 'friendly' natures are there. I asked a physician (MD Medicine) if he maintained double standard and he frankly said in affirmation.
This is not a big deal anyway. But I am curious how far it is acceptable to be in this groove? Please share.
Rajib.
23/08/09
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7 responses
@abanerji (1026)
• India
23 Aug 09
dada, i think we all have double standards. why just double..? at times we tend to have many standards. suppose i am at a socaial gathering, my family, friend, a virtual friend, a colleague are present along with some unknown people are present. at this place my behaviour with each of them would be different, it would vary from very formal to very informal.
well, i don't think this kind of behaviour would eventually convert into hypocrisy. my double standards are not used for harming people for not for using them for my selfish needs. my double standards are just because i have an aura around me and don't allow everybody to cross that aura. i mean, in some relations i need to maintain a distance and because of this i need to behave differently.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Behena, you caught me on the wrong track it seems. What you have mentioned is called the 'register' in linguistic term not double or multiple standard. It becomes double standard when you would apparently show you love for your actual brother and your made brother. If there is a difference it would be double standard for as bros you are supposed to treat both on equal terms.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
25 Aug 09
oh.. sry dada... i really got you wrong...
well, then i have double standards too. when it comes to common friends. we are a group of five girls. in a way we are inseperable but still i know i have different relations with two of them. at times i even talk to the rest just for the sake of formality but never let them feel so...
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
5 Sep 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji,
I am sorry to dis-appoint you, but I am not double standard. Whatever I am inside, my expression are similar to that. I am very frank to come out from bottom of my heart. I can not keep both my lega on different boat. It is very difficult for me. I think, you might ahve observed me by at laest some %.
May God bless You and have a great time.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
6 Sep 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji,
So nice of you for your positve comments. Now I am not talking about individual, I am talking about double standard being maitained and followed by 'countries' as a whole, may be including our neighbouring country and even more alike. I think, it is order of the day. May God bless You and have a great time.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 09
As I understand it double standard goes along the line of 'Do as I say, but not as I do'. For example we may tell our subordinates to be on time, but we are always late. WE tell our children not to be sloppy, but we expect our spouse or offspring to clear up the mess that we make.
From my observations many of us are guilty of practicing double standard. We tend to give excuses, like 'I am the boss, so I can do whatever I please', or 'I am the father, so I have certain privileges'.
As far as I can remember I have not said something, or do something else. If I am unable to do something, but there is a proper and better way, I will say so. It hurts my conscience.
Its acceptance depends on the culture, religion, upbringing, and the environment. In certain societies it is normal to be that way. It is forbidden in my religion, but many do not follow the teaching. I do not want to criticise cultures or societies which accept it as normal, since it is their way of life.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Hi rosdimy,
I guess you got the line of the double standard. This is not that you behave with different people in different way but your attitude and treatment of the people of the same strata.
What is your language and attitude in the home with your wife is called register not double standard. It becomes so when your acceptance of the people of almost of the same rank would differ and you are more tilted towards one and the other is overlooked.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
24 Aug 09
If you are referring to a “do as I say not as I do” situation, the best example in my life would be my daughter. I will tell her not to use bad language under all circumstances and yet she will occasionally catch me using words I should not be speaking.
I tell her not to eat too much chocolate and yet here I am munching on a Kit Kat when she goes to sleep.
She has caught me out telling white lies after I lectured her on the evils of lying...Being a parent is not an easy job...
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
5 Sep 09
Hi paula, sorry for the delayed comment.
Yes this can be treated as one but there are serious ones. Like in my class if I give divided attention to two equally brilliant student on some issues too personal, it would be the real double standard and harmful as well.
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@blessing2u (496)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
I am aware that having a double standard is not good. I endeavor to have a single standard that is based on biblical principles. But many times, I am practicing what is wrong. I just pray that I can have the courage, the strength, and the discipline to be firm in my standard. Have a good day.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
5 Sep 09
Hi friend,
I honor your commitment and endeavor to be one and only one to one and all. But how many of us do that?
Thank you.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Hi Raju,
My post was difficult to follow it seems. Well by double standard I wanted to mean that most of us have more than one approach for people of different strata. Suppose as I am your friend you would be happy and elated to welcome to your home if one day I happen to be there but at the same time you are not happy or behave differently if an employee knocks your door. Or your attitude towards two employees under you is different. You like one more than the other and here comes the concept of double standard.
Hope you got it now.
@rajupaul (973)
• India
23 Aug 09
Dear rajib
Actually you are right. we all are same we you say but nobody will accept this because we used to say the truth. I am different in work place and different in house. If i don't play double standard I cannot survive.It required in every human being life. What do you say
Raju.
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Double standards are everywhere--I was just remarking to a myLot friend the other day that men expect women to be trim and attractive and make fun of overweight women, yet they can let themselves go and other men admire them for winning a beautiful woman. The pig and and the kitten, so to speak. But if an ugly woman has a beautiful man, people wonder if she is paying him to be with her.
I no longer have double standards. I used to. I'm older now and see the wisdom in practicing what I preach and standing up for what I believe in even if it's unpopular.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Hi,
I think we can not do without maintaining double standard. But the thing is that double standard has two facets. One is positive and the other is negative. when it become s a dire necessarily it is ok but if you knowingly making difference between two individual on your personal choice and preference that would be unfair.
