A birthday party with a very sad ending..

@iskayz (5420)
Philippines
August 24, 2009 2:56am CST
I attended a birthday yesterday. It was my cousin’s son’s birthday. The child has turned one year old and it was also his christening day. The party was celebrated at my grandmother’s house and all my relatives were there. The party was just going fine. Everyone was smiling and all the kids are playing, when an unexpected guest arrived, the child’s father. You see, my cousin got pregnant by her boyfriend when they were both studying. They were graduating students when it happened. I don’t know the whole story but according to my aunt (my cousin’s mother) the child’s father did not proposed and didn’t helped in any way till my cousin gave birth. My cousin’s eldest brother was hunting him down because of the incident. When my cousin gave birth, her family let her choose, whether to stay with them and to help with the child and give her the chance to work abroad. Now back to the birthday party, I was watching them both and judging from the warm welcome my cousin showed, he is the father. I saw the guy cried when he saw the child. But suddenly there was chaos. The eldest brother saw the guy and really wanted to confront him and we knew it will turn into a fight. Family members were mad and shouting, the child started crying and my cousin was trying to protect the father of her child. Everyone was trying to restrain the eldest brother and they couldn’t so they had to let the guy escape. It really happened so fast and all my cousin could do was cry. Everyone just got sad because of the incident. I feel sorry for my cousin and her child. It seems they both still are having an understanding and she’s not telling her family about it cause’ they don’t like the guy. And now they are letting her choose again, the father or them. I’d like to talk to my cousin before I left the party but I don’t know what to tell her. I was shocked and I just kept looking at her while she cries. Everyone went home so sad.
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@lelin1123 (15594)
• Puerto Rico
28 Aug 09
Out of respect for the little boys' birthday everyond should have acted cool and not try to start a fight. That was quite tacky. Just because people don't like the father they are going to ruined the babies first birthday. That is terrible. I'm glad the child is not going to remember this birthday. The other problem is that this should be between the mother and father of the child and no one elses business. Unless of course he becomes abusive, that is a different story. If people learn to not judge other so much this world would be a better place. I feel so bad for the child's mother to have to have gone thru this on her baby's birthday. The cousin owes her an apology I think for ruining the birthday party.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
Hi lelin! From what I know the father isn't an abusive one. He just happen to get my cousin pregnant and it almost had her stop school. One thing that the family hates about the father is that he wasn't able to give financial assistance during the time my cousin was pregnant till the day she gave birth. But they have to understand, they were both students then so what can the guy do to help? It was really wrong for the brother to acted that way. He totally ruined the child's party. I was dismayed by my cousin's action towards the boyfriend who came peacefully. He even gave respect to my cousin's mother so that is a sign that he could be trying to settle things with my cousin.
@lelin1123 (15594)
• Puerto Rico
30 Aug 09
I hope that things work out for your family. Life is too short for anger and resentment. How could a student give any type of support to a pregnant girlfriend. Take care and good luck to you and your family.
@eLsMarie (4477)
• New Zealand
25 Aug 09
i feel much sorry for the baby. although, the father made a terrible mistake of not taking good care of your cousin and her child, i don't think it's right for his older brother to act that way. he ruined everything! he should have waited for the party to end and later confronted the guy in decent way. it's really a sad ending... :(
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yeah that's what I thought too. The brother should have talked to both my cousin and her boyfriend somewhere private or some other time. He should have done it without the shouting and anger. After all, no matter what they do, the guy is still the father of the child though he made a mistake before. I am quite pissed off with my cousin's brother. He really ruined the party. Everyone was happy even when the guy came unexpectedly. No one said anything, just her brother.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 Aug 09
That's terrible. It's very hard when the family is against something. Sounds like the guy actually wants something to do with the child and that's not a bad thing provided he's decent. I think that your cousin has a huge decision to make and it's not going to be an easy one. I think that one day soon that guy may actually cause a huge issue for your cousin and her family if some kind of agreement isn't reached sooner or later. The family is really just trying to protect your cousin and the child but sometimes when doing this people don't realize the pain they can cause. I'm sorry the party turned out sad. Maybe you could just call your cousin and see if she brings something up about it.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
Yeah I might visit her after a day or two. The issue is still fresh and she needs time to talk to her family about it. I think she still loves the guy though she denied it to her mom. I also don't agree with her family especially the eldest to get mad at the guy at the party. It was embarrassing to the other guests too. Besides, a year has passed already and the guy was descent enough to come and maybe he wants to see his son and work things out between my cousin's family and him. And I think though he didn't proposed before, he wasn't ready then but maybe now he is.