WARNING: please don't touch my ceLLphone..

maybe that's your way and your idea when we talk about this topic, for you it's not right for all the time to be open with your partner, but for me neil i don't like this things to be practice.. yes you are right that there should be a little privacy to have for each one of us but when it comes to cellphone maybe you need to be open about it with your partner so that you can avoid quarrels in the future if he/she found out to you have a lot of secrets inside... anyways neil thank you for being true and for responding here, have a nice day..

I wouldn't expect ANYONE to be checking out my phone, email or post nor my handbag/pockets - not because I have any great secrets but because, IMHO, its just plain bad manners to do so. Being married to or in a relationship with someone doesn't give you or them any automatic right to access the whole of the other persons life. If you want to give them access, that's your choice but "choice" is the key word.

Amen for that neildc. I ran into this problem with an ex-boyfriend that I am still friends with. His new girlfriend was freakishly posessive, and always wanted to see his IM's, SMS, etc. I wasn't aware of this. Earlier that day my friend and I had gotten into a spat. Later that night, he had lied to me and said that he was with his dad on the way to the store, via SMS. I decided to apologize for how I had acted earlier that day. I told him in short, sorry for being such a b!@ch, but I still cared about him and for those reasons I felt that we shouldn't continue to remain so close. Apparently, his girlfriend wrangled his phone from him and FLIPPED out. They got into a loud argument and he got very nasty with me.. Only to apologize a few hours later that he only said those things to me because his girlfriend had been right there. I kindly told him that things I send to his phone are meant for HIM only, as I'm not friends with his girlfriend, that with the fact that I was trying to actually put distance between us and do the right thing and apologize for my previous behavior I ended up telling him that I don't need to justify myself to his girlfriend. He left her and his newest girlfriend does the same crap, only worse. Ugh!! I'm about ready to just to sever the friendship if I have to tell his stupid little girlfriend that I don't owe her any explanation of anything when I'm not doing wrong.

hi angel, you're the same with neil, and i think a lot of people here do the same thing in their partners, but i prefer to be open with my partner and same here in me.. and that's my principles in life angel.. thanks for sharing your idea here.. have a great day..!! janebeth.