My brother broke his back today :(

@olydove (1209)
United States
August 25, 2009 12:17am CST
I have been busy doing a huge cleaning on my house, going through every single thing we have getting rid of stuff emptied out the storage shed re-organized it the whole 9 yards, because my older brother who hasn't come to visit but one time in the whole to years we've lived here was going to come over tomorrow and help us pressure wash the house. Well we went to the farm to feed the horses and came back and there was a phone call from John's wife Diana. She said " Hi Michelle this is Dianna can you please give me a call it's regarding John." I looked at my husband and said ok something is wrong she has never called us before. So I called her back and she asked me how I was I said I'm good how about you? She said she was good, then I asked if everything was ok, and she replied " I just wanted to let you know your brother won't be able to come pressure wash the house tomorrow because the ladder he was on today broke" I got quiet for a second I was a bit in shock, I then asked if he was ok. She then said "Well he broke his back, but the doctors said it's not too bad, and he probably won't need surgery but they are going to have a surgeon come consult in the morning, and they will let us know whether he can go home, or what will need to happen. We will call you in the morning and let you know what happens." So I then asked if they checked his legs, and if he can still move just fine and she told me yes they did check and his reflexes are fine, so they expect everything to heal up ok. So I thanked her for calling and letting me know, and we said goodbye, then after I hung up the phone I absolutely lost it. Even though he hasn't really stayed in touch with us, I have always looked up to my older brother. After dad left he basically became dad, and went out of his way to protect me and make sure we went and did fun things together like go fishing, he took me to the cinemas etc. He's five years older than I am. I know without a doubt my brother will be ok, he's a tough cookie and he's overcome obstacles before but I am so scared for him. If he's off work too long he might lose his job, I mean this could really turn bad, but at the same time I am also truly thankful that the situation is not near as bad as it could have been. I ask those of you that believe in God, Jesus, Or any higher power to say a little prayer for my brother that he has a speedy recovery with as little pain as possible. Does anyone have any tips or advice on how I can help my brother these next weeks while he's healing?
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 09
How scary and tank goodness that it wasn't worse. I guess just be there for him, bring him something to read (or whatever else he wants to keep his mind busy), etc. Praying for a speedy, uncomplicated recovery. Definitely!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Aug 09
I will definitely add your brother's speedy recovery to my prayer list for tonight. How awful it must be for him right now. The best advice I can give you on how you can help your brother during the weeks of his recovery is to simply be there for him. Most people will be very mad when they get hurt or sick and want someone to talk to. Someone that they can vent with. If that is something that is not outside of your comfort zone, try to be that for your brother.
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
25 Aug 09
Thank you for your good advice. I know many times a few years back my brother would always call me when he needed a shoulder to cry on. So I have no problem being there for him to vent his anger. I feel so bad for him and for his wife. She seemed to be very calm on the phone, but I could also hear the concern in her voice. I can imagine she was trying to remain calm for his sake as she was with him at the hospital. Thank you for praying for him, I know first hand that the power of prayer can truly help.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
25 Aug 09
Hun my prayers are with you and your family as well as his. The only thing really you can do is just to be there for him. Maybe this will bring you both closer togther,I know this is not the best circumstances but be there for him. Lend a sholder,an ear. Whatever you can do to help him get threw this. I know you are upset and I know it is scary but as you said it could have been worse.
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• United States
25 Aug 09
I am so sorry to see what happened to him! You, your brother, and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I suggest you visit him often if he is not too far away, and ask his wife if there is anything they need help with at home while he is laid up. Perhaps bring some food, since cooking is probably the furthest thing from his wife's mind right now. Let your brother know that you are there for him if he wants to talk or if he needs anything and just keep praying for a full and fast recovery. If they have children, it would be a really kind thing to do if you offer to watch them for a few hours or take them someplace for an outing.
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I want to give all of you a huge thank you for all your kindness. All of you have given good suggestions and I truly appreciate them. The good news is he didn't need surgery. They put him in an upper body cast and he has to take it easy. Thank God his boss was very understanding and even said that when he does come back to work he's stuck at the desk for awhile answering phones.. no lifting. I've tried to call several times but get no answer so I just leave them messages to let them know I am thinking of them. They live over an hour from here so it's hard to get there but maybe after I'm all healed up from the dentist visits I'll drive out there and check on them. All their kids are grown but that's a good suggestion for anyone who might be in a similar situation that would have kids is for a family member to offer to care for the kids for a few days. Happy mylotting to all :)
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