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I don't know if this will help and it's been a long time since I have used this. There is an old book that you probably could even get from a library it is called: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Although this book was written in the 1930's, it is a timeless book for this subject. Here is a link to some of the customer reviews (high rating) on this book from www.amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/product-reviews/0671027034/ref=sr_1_1_cm_cr_acr_img?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1 I started out very shy because of a learning disability (dyslexia). Over the years that has turned completely around. I really love people and enjoy learning about them. I have had to step outside of my "little box" many times in my life to try to understand what another person has lived. It is a wonderful world to be interested in others, look beyond their shortcomings, not be taken in by possible evil, and just enjoy and love them. You are venturing into a wonderful experience for your life. I wish you well.

Hi Subhod, First off I shall tell you what I used to be told when I mentioned this to people: everyone hates speaking in front of people! I used to hate being told this but experience has taught me that it is the truth. I hated speaking in front of people when I had to give presentations, or even to take part in group discussions. In order to help minimise my nerves as best as I could I would always have notes with me that I could read from (or something that I could use to prompt me if you aren't able to stand at the front holding an A4 sheet of paper), I would also rehearse at home so that when the time came i had a fair idea of what I wanted to say. PowerPoint presentations worked wonders for me too as I felt that people would look at them more than me! On a more person level I would have t say that practise will make perfect and if it is a more serious thing than just nerves, perhaps see someone about it. Maybe you could be given something that would help you cope with the nerves. Good luck next time you have to speak in front of people, have faith and if all else fails you can always try imagining them in their underwear. No idea why but that always seems to be the advice given on TV and in movies, never tried it myself though lol! Dranz

Do not be afraid Subhod! You just lack confidence. There is no other way, unless you improve self-confidence. When in primary school, I cried when told by the teacher to sing in front of the class. I always give in, for fear of being hostile by friends. Recognizing the gap, I started a lot of hanging out. Exercise debated in small groups. Speaking on the basis of data and logic. I noted the strengths and weaknesses of me. So I improve my strengths and reduce / eliminate my weaknesses, with introspection and considering the criticism from others. Finally I was able to be a moderator in a panel, playing music and singing on stage, providing training / consultation, to lead the team work, teaching in college, etc.. At the very least, you have one advantage than others. Happy nice day..