do you believe in a long distance relationship?

@snoodz (26)
Philippines
August 26, 2009 1:00pm CST
if you are in a situation where you and your partner need to be far apart with each other, because of work or some very important things, do you think your realationship will still work?! I am this situation, but me and boyfriend are still going strong for two years now... but i need your opinions about it.. what do you think?!
6 responses
• United States
26 Aug 09
Why would you need other people's opinions if you're in a healthy and happy long distance relationship? You obviously know from experience that this kind of relationship works for some people, and that you are one of those people, so why would you need to ask this question?
@snoodz (26)
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
just wanna know what people think about it, we do have different opinions.. is it wrong to ask...
@snoodz (26)
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
i'm just being open about it... if you don't like it, i'm sorry, it's my way...
• United States
26 Aug 09
The problem I'm having is that you're asking the question as though you're looking for advice on how to make a long distance relationship work. It doesn't make sense to me that you would need that kind of advice when you've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years with no problems. I don't have a problem with people asking questions, I just think that you didn't ask your question clearly. I think that it would have made more sense to say that you're in a successful long distance relationship and that you're curious about other people's experiences with that kind of relationship.
• Indonesia
31 Aug 09
If you ask me about my opinion, well my answer will be no, there will be no success long distance relationship. Sorry, i didn't mean to discourage you, but yes it is true. Love is depend on the mood, and this long distance relationship is very very depending on the mood. Well i will share my experience with you, i have an ex GF, our long distance relationship already last for 3 years, but suddenly [and i mean it] the boredom seems to grow [Come on boys, don't be so hypocrite:)] then it turns my mood so unstable, and you know what she suffered it too let me give you example, one time i am thinking about her a lot, and how i missed her or how i want to meet her and hug her, then i called her, but all responses that i got from her is just "oh yeah?", or "hmm.."or "its good then". Such a FLAT responses, and it went viceversa. When she call me in a moment that i don't get the mood, i will reply her with such a phrase.. Then the boredom will grow into a hatred and soon it turned into betrayal :)
@snoodz (26)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
appreciate your response... but I think we all have different point of view, right.. it's just a state of mind. if you really wanna work things out it will. but your side is also right in some point, cause that's how you feel... ofcourse there are time that we feel bored or not in the mood, but if you could still have the feeling you can resolve it. hehehe.. thank you again.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
5 Sep 09
if the couple been together for awhile it can work, they have to have that tight relationship. like married couple it can work but to me if you just met someone then no.
@aprces (1082)
• China
26 Aug 09
As the person in your words,I must admit this is very painful to me.But to be optimistic,this is also can be regarded as a test.For example,I have been an acquaintance to my GF about two years,our relationship is still running fast.Sometimes a long distance relationship will increase missing to both of us instead.It turns out that you with your boyfriend is two years too English stuff -------------------------------- # be in a situation that # be apart with sb (PS:I want to write strange English words or sentences down once I meet,I don't know whether it will helpful to me availably,try it first,this kind of my virginal post has belonged to you)
@taztheone (1721)
• India
26 Aug 09
Long distance relations wont work out much according to me. 1st of all there are chances that, since human mind's biggest need is love, we may find someone better than your partner since they are not around. However if we are too loyal to our partners, then long distance relations can survive as you will find it thrilling & eagerly waiting for the day to meet. However I am not in favor of Long distance relations!
@alhunt (2)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Hi. I was in a long distance friendship for about 8 months that recently ended and here are a few pointers I learned... 1. Long distance friendships I think lend themselves more so to fantasizing about a person to be as we would hope and may hide a lot of personal information necessary for important knowledge about the person and true growth to take place. Many times it is easier for a person to hide who they truly are. The more limited actual, real-life contact, the greater the possibility of this happening. 2. Since such relationships depend so much more on communication, people are usually forced to share more of themselves than they may normally do to keep the relationship alive. However, without being able to see facial or body language, many times mis-communications can take place leading to conflict. 3.These friendships seem to test more the strength of character of each and the depth of attachment. It is easy to be fooled that bonding has truly taken place because of the depth of communication and sharing. 4.Depends on the maturity of the individuals involved. 5. It may be best if the two came to know each other a good deal through real-life contact first and bonding took place before the relationship became long distance. Communication over long-distance is not enough to know a person...need to see their heart lived out in real-life contact and situations to make the best judgment of who they are and their feelings toward you. Hope these are helpful.
@snoodz (26)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
I really really appreciate your honest response into this matter. It is really hard to have a long distance relationship.. and i believe what you said that it depends upon the maturity of the individuals.. i also agree with you about the mis-communications, I mean it happens to every relationship, but as i've realized there are still something missing when the two of you are not together... there's this closure that you keep on longing, thank you really for that wonderful thought in really enlighten me to achieve those things that are lacking in our relationship, it's like an eye opener for me. I mean we do love each other, but I still need to know him more and vice versa so that in time, we would know where and how to adjust with each other. thank u. thank u.