Were you always like that .......

@aweins (4199)
India
August 26, 2009 3:30pm CST
Or you changed after becoming a mother. i changed a lot. a lot means a lot . i was not a person who ever wanted to be a mother but after having a daughter i think i wanna be a mother all my life and i think i am a bit late for that. now i love children too much, infact i love every little one i see passing by my way. does that happen to you also ? did you feel any change after becoming a parent ? and are you the same ?
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12 responses
@indybaty (368)
• Panama
27 Aug 09
When my son was born, I changed a lot. Im still myself, but not too much of it. I feel that my life, my sorrounding, everything that I do and feel is for my little boy and the feeling is phenomenal! I became more touchy about a few things, Im a big horror fan on anything, but now I dont let some movies slide that easily if it involves some type of harm against children or babies, I cry easily. After becoming a parent I feel that Im a better person. To provide a better future for my boy.
@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
you are like me my friend. all my pregnancy times i use to watch horror movies and stuff like that on discovery too. but after giving birth i was not able to watch any, ot any means , till date, she is one a half month today, till today i have not watched any movie in which babies are crying, they are tortured, some mishappening happens, some die, i dont watch such movies now at all. i cant because i too start crying very fast. and if i see some thing happening to a baby in a movie also i feel so hurt that i cant see that.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
29 Aug 09
yes it is true that to take better care of your child you have to take better of your too first.
@indybaty (368)
• Panama
27 Aug 09
Thats right. Its not also just on what I see, also a lot of opinions have changed for me. Before I use to be quit intolerant in some issues and didnt get involved in other issues becuse I feel it didnt affect me at all. But ever since Im mother now, I realize that all of the things that I thought were important were no longer relevant. Also learned that if I want o better care of my son, I also need to better care of myself as well.
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
27 Aug 09
i missed something here, i'm not a big kid person. but it scared the c.. p out of me when i found i was preg with my son. it's been a long road, and i'm still not in a hurry to go back for a 2nd child (gota find the right bloke first) my son has speech problems, which makes things hard. i've tried to not let is slow me down on still having the life i want, and not try to live through my son. i love riding horses, but have to sit and let my son do it him self rather than push or he may hate me for it in the end (his father throws that back to his parents) things get organised round school and work in our house. i still want to do things i didn't get to do when i was younger so my son will dragged along with me, i don't go out much either never have. i've found you end up in a different group of friends, but i'm also a lot younger than all of the parents at our school.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
hi there, i know there is a change in lifeand everything in and around you after you become pregnant or become a parent. you have to do lot of adjustments and sacrifices. i think that is life. you have to go through all that.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
thanks for the response, :-)
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Before I had children I went out almost every night and didn't really have a care. I lived like I was a wild child. After I had my first child I completely changed my whole life. I always worked but now I felt like a really had a reason. I started staying at home and wanting to take care of my child. Every moment of my day and every penny I made every thought I had was then about my child.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
thanks for the response. it is very much true that now every moment of yours will be of your child and everything that you will be doing will be for him or her.
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29 Aug 09
Iwas very much like you before i had children, i see it as a good thing because you have had a chance to live your life a little before settling down and spending time raising children
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 09
Hi there aweins, yes i changed after becoming a mother. I totally change, indeed. Being a mother is very amazing moment, and it effects to my personality, habbit and etc. May be this is a heaven on earth...
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
hi dear freind, thanks for your response . i think being a mother is a very heavenly feeling in itself . i loved and enjoyed being a mother. i love to do all the work on my own and i love doing it.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Aug 09
For me, I always knew that I wanted to be a mother when I grew up. I knew that I would make a wonderful mom when it was my time to have kids and I always cared a lot for kids. Before my oldest was even born, I was helping a friend of mine to raise her three little boys. I honestly loved them as if they were my own. Once my daughter was born, I didn't notice a huge change in the way that I was toward children, I felt like I was the same way that I always was. When I personally noticed the difference was when my daughter started school last year. When I spend time with the kids from school, I feel like I am playing a motherly type of role to them. There are also two little kids that live down the street from us who have an absent mother and they come to me to be the motherly role for them.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
tanks for the rresponse friend. that is so sweet to heat that you play a motherly role for those also who dont have mother. it is really very nice to hear. i never wanted to get married so no children also, becasue i never wanted any responsibility on my shoulders but after marriage i had a baby and now i m enjoying every bit of my life and i can see a huge change also in me and that is because i never wanted to be something and after becoming that, i mean a mother, i am enjoying the most.
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• United States
26 Aug 09
I always told my mother that I would neve have children, never get married and move out of town as soon as possible. Now here I am married just bought a house in my home town and gave birth to my second child just short of two months ago. I lost my first child to Sids and that has really changed me alot. I love being a mother and yes it has changed me. I am a better person a more complete person and I love my life.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
thanks for your response friend and i am sorry to hear about your son. i also always use to say that i will never marry. i will stay all alone, will roam around the world , go to party and all that stuff. but now i am also married and having a baby girl. she has turned one and a half today. everything changes and after child coming in your life, you become more sensitive, possessive and more caring. there are lot of changes in you and your surroundings and life and everything related to you. you will also find a different kind of relationship with your partner after the child is born.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
1 Sep 09
Well I thought that you are a father.Atlease that is what your profile says.Male. age 35.Will you please clarify on this?
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
27 Aug 09
I used to love kids, babysitting my nieces and nephews was one of the best things in the world and I had more patience than a lot of people. After having 3 kids, I've lost a lot of the patience I used to have. I don't like babies anymore, kids are okay when they're around 3 or 4 and can go potty, eat and dress themselves. My granddaughter is two and as much as I love her and love seeing her, I can only take so much. If I'm babysitting her I count the minutes after a couple hours for my daughter to come get her and "rescue" me.... I guess I just started liking my "me time"
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@aweins (4199)
• India
29 Aug 09
its ok. i know that phase because we are living with our in laws and they also love our baby but sometimes it is like take your daughter away. she is on our nerves. we dont want her entering our room. it because they are tired and not that they dont love her. so is the case . and at times when you have done so much in your life and your children are grown up, then you get tired also doing the same thing again and again. you need time for yourself also. thanks for the response.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Don't get me wrong on that, did and still do enjoy being a mom, I just never was away from my kids much and I lived every minute for my kids (still do) but it got tiring for me and I have finally got to the point where I can do things "for me" once in a while.
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@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Yesterday my 2nd grandbaby was born....a girl!! I'm waiting for the little ones to get maybe 6 & 8 or 8 & 10 and take them for a girls night....go shopping, get the hair done, nails manicured...watch girl movies...I have a few years to go, though...one is 2 and the other is 1 day old...but it could be fun!! My daughter wants me to take her, too....I told her as long as she has fun and don't get upset when they have fun!!
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I never wanted children, I have two of them and it certainly has changed me. I now adore children and I am so happy that I became a mom.
29 Aug 09
I always knew that i wanted to be a mother but i thought that i needed to live my life out a little first, i spent my teen years partying and going out all of the time, getting myself a home and a good job and then i had my daughter. It has completely changed me, obviouslly in the physical sense but moreso in the emotional sense, i find that i am very aware of other peoples emotions and like an above poster has said it makes you aware of "the bigger picture" I like how being a parent has changed me, it changes you in ways that no others will
@preema723 (117)
• United States
26 Aug 09
I think life takes on a greater meaning when you have children. Since having children, I look at a bigger picture than I used to. I worry about how anything that affects me will affect my family. I think being a mom enhances numerous qualities including selflesness, patience, and thoughtfulness to name a few. All of a sudden I found myself looking at the world in terms of how it would be for my kids, which was something I never considered before having them. I also think being a mom changes your relationships. I had a new understanding of the job my mom did raising me and my sisters and even my relationship with my husband has taken on a slightly different meaning. It is something that has made me grow as a person and I wouldn't trade being a mom for anything in the world.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
26 Aug 09
thanks for the response preema. you are hundred percent correct and i fully agree to what you have written. it is all what happened with me. my life changed fully after me becoming a mother. when i was pregnant the feeling was different but after having the baby, it was more different. my relationship with my hubby too took a different meaning. he was also now a father and a husband too . i started thinking more on how my mom must have faced the difficulties in raising me and my sister. with all the work and daily chores and in laws and joint family , my gosh!!, it was far more difficult for her than it is for me. my baby has taught me many things and now i look my life through a different spectrum.
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• United States
26 Aug 09
I am with you 100%. I never wanted to have children, and I especially never wanted to have a daughter. Then I ended up pregnant (while on the pill), so I said ok, clearly, I'm meant to have this baby, so I did, even though the father walked out on me at that point in time. (Things were pretty much over when I found out anyways, that was the final straw for both of us. He left wanting nothing to do with us, and I went from not wanting a baby to having one on my own - thank god for my family! - but it was all for the best) So anyways, now, I wouldn't change my life for anything in the world, I find every baby I see to be adorable, and I am loving being the mother of a soon to be 6 year old boy (thank heavens, lol). I love doing all the mom stuff. Even just the little things - making lunch and putting a note in the lunchbox, or helping him with homework, and of course, all the fun stuff! I don't want to have another one for many reasons, but I think I may want to adopt a child in the future. All this from the girl who told her mother to look to her other child for the grandkids, because they weren't coming from this uterus, lmao.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
27 Aug 09
hi nikigirl, till the date you have not conceived or known that are becoming a parent you are all together a very different person. but after becoming a parent , biologicaly, i think i changed and everyone changes . but there are exceptionals everywhere so some may not also. i never ever wanted but when i came to know that i am pregnant, i never wanted to abort. i was very much attached to it on that very day, as i am today with my daughter. i has the same feeling as i am having today. no wanting till i was not having it in my womb, but once i had or have conceived then i will never abort. i will hundred percent give birth. i forgot to say thanks, :-) , thanks for the response :-)
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