Potty training tips?

United States
August 26, 2009 11:01pm CST
My son just turned 3 on friday. We've been encouraging him to tell us when he has to go and for a while he was doing really well. He would go hours without wetting his diaper at all but then one day he just stopped. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm doing something wrong. What methods worked for you when you went through the potty training phase of parenthood?
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@melissau (56)
• United States
27 Aug 09
My son is 3 1/2 and we potty trained him about a month ago. We tried a couple of times with no success. I've heard that if you try and they just can't do it its because they are not ready yet. I took my son to the store and got a new potty for todlers and some pull ups. Wile we were there I showed him some kids underware, he loved the spiderman and transformers ones. He asked me if i could get him some. So when we got home, I talked to him and told him that if he started to use his potty I would buy him the underware he wanted. He then inmediatly started going potty and of course once he was done I would give him a hug and tell him he had done a great job. Right after that he told me "Mommy are you going to buy me the spiderman underware", ITS VERY important that if you offer something, you give it to him. Of course I took him that same day and got them. After that we kept working on going potty and after a week of him doing #1 in the potty, we went to the #2 and offered the transformers underware. It worked too. He was defenectly ready because it only took 2 weeks for the whole process. OHH FYI there will be some accidents in the process so be prepare.
• United States
28 Aug 09
That's awesome. I'll definitely be trying that one. Thanks!
@mdrgsm (61)
• Ukraine
27 Aug 09
I just potty trained my soon to be 3 year old. I was fortunate for him to pick it up right away. What I did was just put him in underwear. He wet his pants the first time, but soon realized he didn't like the feeling of wet clothes. We also made sure we encouraged him with praise and support. We even went as far as holding his hand while he went on the "big boy potty". We got him his own little potty. He liked the ownership of having his own and not having to share it. You might also think about a reward system? I have heard that it works. Hope you have better luck, but don't give up and be patient. You can't rush these thinkgs, they will get it when they are ready. I know of a boy who's 4 and just decided to be ready to be trained.
• United States
28 Aug 09
Nice. I always heard it takes longer to train boys than girl but my nices is 3 months older than my son and she learned extremely quick. It made me feel like I was screwing up.
• United States
27 Aug 09
My son is not 2 yet, in two months, so I am not at this stage quite yet. However my Mom told me a method that she said works. This is a tough love way of potty training so it is not for the faint of heart. Don't have him wear diapers, he must wear underwear. If he messes in his underwear, you make him change himself. And clean himself up. Literally he must do everything himself as you stand there and walk him through it. Then he won't do it anymore. Good luck!
• United States
28 Aug 09
Thank you for your input. I'm willing to try practically anything right now. Good luck with yours when it's your time.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
27 Aug 09
A three-year-old is old enough to start understanding about consequences and rewards. I stressed to my boys that 'big boys use the potty, only babies wear diapers'. It was not in a mean way, but a matter-of-fact tone. Then I backed it up by not allowing him to do certain things because he wasn't 'big enough yet'. It worked for all three boys, but the enticement was a little different with each. One boy wanted to choose his own clothes rather than have me choose them for him. One wanted the right to walk to Grandma's by himself (she lives on the same lot as us, about 500 yards and never out of sight), and the third one wanted a real bed like his brothers (at the time he was sleeping on a mattress on the floor). So you need to experiment around and find out what your son wants that is only possible for a 'big boy'. Then he will work for it. I didn't punish them when they slipped, simply very matter-of-factly said something like, "It's OK, pretty soon you'll be a big boy. then you get to do _____!" (Fill in the blank) If you stick to it he will get it. I just went through a similar time with my granddaughter, who was 3 and was not being encouraged at home at all. She stays with me every weekend, and I used the same approach. It worked for me, although her mother still had to use diapers for several weeks after I stopped. The little girl would use the potty at my house and then say, "Am I a big girl now, Gramma?"
• United States
28 Aug 09
This sounds very useful, thank you.
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 09
Hello Drharleen, Wondering why your son suddenly stop, meaning he continue to pee on his diaper. For potty training the kids, you must have patient. Ans I think at the age of 3, it is the perfect time or I should admit maybe it is a little late to start. My daughter started potty training when she was 19 months old. Now she is 3 and she is diaperless in day time. Only wear diaper when she goes to bed at night. For your son, if you want to start potty train, try to talk to him first. Since he is 3 and able to understand what the adults tell him. Bring him to the toilet every hourly and record down the time he pee pee. Keep track on it. Maybe you can buy him a potty too or kids toilet seat. And the training pants is important too.
• United States
28 Aug 09
I didn't just start potty training recently. I have been for a while. He has a potty but he doesn't like to use it, he prefers the actual toilet. As for the training pants they never did anything for him, lol. So, you can see how awkward this is, lol.