How can I control my anger?

India
August 27, 2009 7:26am CST
I am a polite persona and not ready become anger for the silly reasons. But sometimes I am getting anger and not even able to control myself. I surfed through internet and studied lot of articles to control myself, but in some situation I am again getting that. What you will do when become anger? or How you avoid that?
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21 responses
27 Aug 09
Whenever I get a bit angry I try and talk about my feelings with one of my mates as it usually helps to talk about it then I can decide something for the future or just let the pressure go. I have started a music business with a friend and he does not know what he is doing with it but the problem is he thinks he does know what he's doing. We have a mutual friend who this guy lives with and he agrees with me about this other friends lack of a plan. He was originally going to be part of it but pulled out. I talk to him about what my other friend has done wrong with the business etc. If you talked to someone about your issues then I'm sure your anger would start to lessen as you can sort things out and come to some sort of decision.
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• India
27 Aug 09
What you are saying is absolutely right. I tried this with my close friend. Sometime he become fainted about my anger. I changed my behavior after that. :(
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
For me, in order to control yourself, you need first to grow your relationship with God. Go to church, pray as often as you can, read the bible. God can really help you a lot to control your anger. Well in my part, I have a very long patience. I seldom get angry. Thank God for giving me the patience and the control of my temper. I go to church everyday..It really helps me a lot in my everyday life. It helps me to control my anger and to always be in a good mood even though bad things happen
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@dodo19 (36732)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Aug 09
There are several ways that you can use in order to control your anger. What I do is that, when I feel that my anger is getting the better of me, is that I go into a separate room alone and cool down. Then, when I've cooled down, I come back and talk about it, calmly. This is what I do, but it may not necessarily work for everyone. You should try to find what works for you.
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• Philippines
27 Aug 09
hello rgmutu. it's really kind of difficult to control anger. fortunately, it's very seldom that i get angry. when i do get angry as in fuming mad i drink a glass of water. it helps subside the feeling of anger. not entirely but it makes me calm. i guess you cannot avoid that feeling as it is a natural reaction.
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@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
27 Aug 09
i have bipolar, and one part of it is anger. when i start getting anger i remove myself from the sitiuation first of all. then remind myself it's not worst getting mad over. or what i find that helps me as well is play vedio games. but knowing when you are about to have an outburst is the key and removing yourself from the situation. talking yourself down too. my ocd kicks in sometime when i am upset and i do stuipd things and say things. but being big enough knowing you didnt handle it well and saying sorry you could also seek help to see if it's something more to it. good luck
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@murthee (84)
• India
27 Aug 09
every body gets anger.. but the anger should have a reason!! i do not get angry for even a serious matter.. just have a smiling face always... thats enough
27 Aug 09
I feel that if people do that then they are just building up their anger which will soon make them have an outburst at the wrong moment and to the wrong person who is not involved with the situation.
• China
28 Aug 09
yup,you're right!
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
14 Sep 09
When you bcom angry take long and deep breath and avoid the situation for 5mins atleast.
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
28 Aug 09
Well when i am really angry i would become extremely silent . Yes it's hard to control and the best way for me is to listen to my favorite music . Become angry very often is no good for one's health and no good to people around you. Just keep this in mind and then i will be happy again that life is short and why don't we make happy everyday ?
@Emon66 (84)
• China
28 Aug 09
on my opinion,i will read a lot of articles written by famous person.it can bring me to ideal state.
@Ninaaah (93)
• Serbia And Montenegro
28 Aug 09
I often talk to psychologist about my anger, cause I have the same problem.. First, I used to hurt myself with some sharp objects and than I started to break stuff around me.. Things became much better, and now, I am controling myself just by counting from 1 to 10..
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
28 Aug 09
Whenever I'm angry i usually separate myself from the crowd, far away if possible. Alone, because i cant pretend to be oblivious of the environment. Stillness... little by little my anger subsides. We are humans and are susceptible to emotions but i also believe that anger, just like happiness is a state of mind, that no matter how people tried to make you angry, if you just ignore, don't pay attention...they will be the ones who will get angry, because you didn't react, and you can laugh your way out.
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
sometime when i feel wanna angry, i'll drink water as much as i can for control my anger
@coolcat123 (4391)
• India
28 Aug 09
the best way to control anger is to clutch your hands as tighten as u can and take deep breaths for a minute or two, you will find that your anger has decreased and things are soundless. second best option to have a tea. Now, if u are angry then u can do the first option and if someone is angry on you then the second option that is to give tea to the other person in order to make him down on anger.
@23uday (2998)
• India
28 Aug 09
Hi friend, My friend you can control your anger.Always be in a positive way and good thinking mind.When you become for a silly matters you can control it say (cool down) for atleast 10 times your anger will be controlling slowly.You can count 1 to 50 numbers like that you can control your anger. have a great day.
• Bulgaria
28 Aug 09
I can avoid my anger,but not always.When i have the situation which makes me angry,i have to do something totaly different then usual.I have to change my behaviar and thinking toataly.
@wahyueQ (223)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
In my religion, there's an explanation how to control/reduce our anger. I just want to share this tips for you, just try this if you angry, Hope this is work for you. If you angry when you stand up, try to sit down and control your anger, if this is don't work, try to fall down and reduce your anger and if this still don't work, try to wash your face with cool water or take some wudhu if you're a muslim. I hope this can help you.
• China
28 Aug 09
when i meet bad things i just need say them out to my good friends . then i will be fell much better . you need think about the god things when u get angry . try cold down. you will fell much better
• China
28 Aug 09
well. in my opinion that's really hard to control the temper if we are hot tempered person. i have personnal experience about this and i have long time to cultiveate my manner not to be burst into anger easily but still can be angery once someone turns impolite and disrespectful to me. that's not a good manner but hard to control. that need time and always keep that in mind you can control yourself.
• United States
27 Aug 09
Rgmuthu, I get angry easily too but I try to cool it off in many ways: hide in my room where it silence, write my anger in a journal that only i can read, listen to Feng Shui music or relaxation cd, take a walk in the park, or talk to a good friend who will listen to you. Then it also depend on what it is too that make you mad.. if someone piss you off, well u either talk it out or fix, otherwise move on regardless how they think... then other time you cant control what goes on in this world and you have to deal with it.. it not easy and i know it. even now i been only angry because it so hard to get a job, and I am trying hard to stay busy so I wont be depress. if i am bored I can think of many thing that good and bad so it healthy for me when I worked but I am not working so it hard... well i hope what i say help.. Even drawing help me to get over my anger.. find a way to express your self can help too. anyway u take it easy and I will pray for ya.
@springs (926)
• India
27 Aug 09
Think about the situations that happend previously after your anger.It's like a disaster everybody will tell to count 1 to 10 or more numbers to calm down.But do one thing just smile bigger when u get anger so u can reduce ur temper for some time and just go and wash ur face.You anger will completely gets down.