What is the difference between best friend and common friend?

Indonesia
August 28, 2009 12:36am CST
Do you have best friends? I think everybody has a best friend to rely on. What are the criteria of best friend that make it different from common friend?
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13 responses
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
best friends are friends that you can lean in time of your sadness, can comfort you can share and keep secrets,can cry on if you have problems, share joys. while a common person is just you say hi, hello when you see them, nothing else its not an intimate friends.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
best friend have criteria i.e 1. always there every you need it. 2. want to listen and help your trouble. 3. always have money to be borrowed common friend : 1. need or no, always there, depend you, know or not. 2. Invite to talk, he will talk, not invite, he not talk
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I think that the biggest difference between my best friend and my common friends is the longectivity of our friendship. My best friend and I have been friends for over 20 years where many of my common friends I've only known for a few years. Also, with my best friend I don't hesitate to share everything with her where there are a lot of things that I hold back from my common friends. My best friend is not always there at this point in our lives, I have two children and she has five so we are both busy, but when we have the opportunity to catch up it is like we've never been apart.
• Indonesia
31 Aug 09
Yap, I have that kind of a friend. We are parted, she is in America but I don't know until now I still remember the good times we have and I always pray that someday I can meet her again and tell her how much she means to me.
• Malaysia
2 Sep 09
I have a best friend. The differences between a best friend and common friends are he/she will always be there when you need someone to turn to, he/she will accept you no matter how much defect you can have, and he/she will be the one appreciating you despite everyone else. For me, sometimes if you treat a person as best friend, there's high possiblity the person will treat you as a best friend as well.
• Indonesia
7 Sep 09
thanks for the tips.. right I will try to find best friend ..
29 Aug 09
For me a common friend is someone you can talk to generally but your best friend is someone who knows a lot/everything about you the good/bad/the ugly and still wants to be your friend.Someone who can cheer you up & understands you :) A best friend will be there no matter what.
• Indonesia
31 Aug 09
yap, I agree. Time will tell along with the process of friendship who is your truly best friend who can accept you as the real you are.
• India
7 Sep 09
Basically we people nowadays call everyone has friends, for example: today you meet someone new in hotel or any other place just guess. When you meet them Next day or month with your around you, You just try to introduce them as your friend. But that actually is not friedship or friend. Thats actually beginning of person to become you friend in future that may convert in friendhsip. What i'm trying to say is common friend can to said to anyone of your friends, But Best friend is said to only one of all your friends. Best means only one not more than one. That special one friend should have something very good in him/her so that you call them best.
• Indonesia
8 Sep 09
I see. That is why it is not easy to find a best friend.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Here are few things I've noticed among my friends... Friend - Gets easily mad when I make fun of him/her. Best Friend - Asks me what's wrong & if I'm feeling ok if I don't make fun of him. Friend - Becomes stranger after long period of no contact. Best Friend - Pick up right where we left off after long period of no contact. Friend - Asks me why when I ask for help. Best Friend - Asks me what I need when I ask for help. Friend - I have to explain my actions. Best Friend - No explaination needed. Friend - Gets bored when there's nothing to do together. Best Friend - Gets excited just to be together. Friend - Asks for my number. Best Friend - Asks me for their number (What's my number again?) Friend - Calls my mom "mrs" & asks me quitely if I have something to eat or drink if he's hungry or thirsty. Best Friend - Calls my mom, "Ma...!!! Do we have anything to eat in the fridge?" as he raids the fridge. Friend - Gets annoyed if I call him on a bad day or catch him at a bad time. Best Friend - Gets annoyed if I don't & asks me why I haven't called & why I haven't come by. Friend - Says, "hey" or "hi" as he walks by. Best Friend - Stops when he sees me & asks, "How you doin'?" or "how've you been?" Friend - Usually friendship ends with huge fight. Best Friend - It's not a true friendship until we have a huge fight. Friend - Stays angry after an argument. Best Friend - "What fight?" List goes on & it's slightly different for different people & personalities, I guess.
11 Oct 09
For me, best friend is someone who is always be by myself whenever or whatever my condition is, even when I have nothing to offer. While common friend is just someone who I meet every single day, those whom I don't have very good / very close relationship with but afterall there's no trouble between us. =) I don't want to emphasize strict criteria when pointing whether someone is my best friend or not. Because I have a feeling after a while having relationship with my friend, we will automatically be able to determine ourselves. =)
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 09
Hi Riani, I always wish that I have 'best friend' that I really can rely on. But no one is perfect...I can't expect a perfect friend when I myself is not perfect too....lol So, to me common friends is just that we do things together, have common interest and have some commitment to certain limit. Best friend is different, not many...extremely few. You can share your problems, your secrets and your thoughts with them. They are good listeners and they really think for your benefit and always there when you need them. They really care for you from the bottom of their hearts and they are sincere and genuine...not 'lip service'! All the best and do keep in touch!
• India
28 Aug 09
In my opinion you can select your friends but u cannot select your bestfriends. It happens without your knowing.You recognise that a person has become your best friend when you rely on him for most of the things,when you share most of your problems,when you get angry when he doesn't turn up or don't give reply to you. And finally according to me there is no criteria for selecting a person to be your best friend it happens and you don't see it happening until it happens and some interesting thing is you don't know that a person is your best friend until you miss him/her
• India
28 Aug 09
ya i agree with him that we can select our friendz but not our special or best friend, there is no one criteria to select a best friend from the bunch of friends, it happens with the time and bonding with him/her.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
The difference between bestfriend and common friend is simply, your bestfriend is the best friend among all of your friends. You can say everything you want to your bestfriend, even your private life. When we have a big problem, we go first to our best friend. When something good happened, we share it first to himher. Our bestfriend is closer to our heart than common friends. As time passes, we will meet another set of friends and stop meeting the other friends. But our bestfriend, no matter what, we will still try to contact them, again and again. In short, we have a deeper relationship with our bestfriend than with our common friends.
@ptty55 (45)
• Canada
12 Oct 09
A common friend is a person you can say hello too on the street. You can chit chat about the weather, news events or even some personal information. A best friend is someone who will be the first to call you when they hear you are in trouble. They will offer their shoulder for you to cry on. A best friend knows your inner most secrets, because you trust them enough to tell them everything. They will not gossip about you behind your back.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Jul 10
Well excepting less and accepting friends for what they are..will make it a long lasting friendships.