Friends with Benefits

United States
August 29, 2009 10:24am CST
I've had on and off again success with this avenue of my sexuality. What do you think? Great if it works, never tried it, won't try it? What experiences have you had with it, if at all?
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• United States
30 Aug 09
I think every (guy) at least would by lying if they say they haven't considered this possibility. Personally, I won't try it. My self control and honor towards my wife is too much to weigh in the balances of what I think is the most important. Have I thought about it. Of course. Probably more than is really healthy. But I will never act on that thought, whether I know I can get away with it or not.
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• United States
31 Aug 09
True, it is a personal thing, but as long as it's done with dignity on both parts nobody get's hurt. I keep everybody informed of their situation and there is no "cheating" involved when it comes to friends with benefits, because they know about the other person or persons. But don't confuse friends with benefits with an open marriage, THAT is something I know I would have a hard time with. Once you've committed to something like that, you've committed to a singular relationship, if you still want to play then what was the point?
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
10 Oct 09
i never tried.. but i think it's not right because there is someone who will always get emotionaly attach.
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Friends with benefits is an awesome arrangement, but I am married now, and I am pretty sure my wife would not approve, so I don't do it anymore.
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• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Before I had few friends with benefits but I go away after few sessions. I just realized that whenever they get pregnant and I don't have feelings for them, I will not like the relationship. Its better to quit than to wait for something to happen. The experience is great but we should be ready to face the consequence if ever.
@JohnJeff (720)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
for me the important is loyalty.You need friends whenever you in trouble.That what's friend for
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• United States
23 Mar 10
Friends with benefits can be a good thing but it can also turn into a disaster. If you start having benefits with a friend just for fun, later down the road you could end up having strong feelings for that person and they may not feel the same way. I know someone that did friends with benefits for years off and on.. things were going good for them because they already knew each other for a long time. After them doing things together off and on she started having strong feelings for the guy and thought it would be a good idea to tell him how she felt because she thought it was a mutual feeling. He turned her down and they stopped being friends with benefits.. they were still friends but not as close. So if you want to be friends with benefits be careful. If you are not into this person, doesn't mean they wont be with you. Ruining a good friendship isnt worth it in the end.