Do you bear a grudge easily?

I also respond differently now. What made me change is that I gave up judging others. This occurred one day when I was working. I am an attorney, and was at an office of a federal agency I deal with on behalf of my clients. I was looking at a client's file, and read a note from a worker at that agency re: my 'wrong' behavior concerning a matter. At first I was upset, but I was going through a lot of changes at that time; very depressed, anxious, etc., Then I had a flash; the writer of the note had no idea WHY I had made the mistakes, had no clue what terrible personal stuff I was going through at that time (I was lucky I could work at all!). From that point, I realized that is really how it is for all of us. We criticize a human being, but we don't really know what is going on with them. As a matter of fact, because so much of what a person does has roots in that person's subconscious, that person, himself or herself, doesn't even know what is going on for them. So, now, if a person cuts me off in traffic, I think: maybe he or she is on the way to a hospital, is going through an emergency of some sort. My 'non-judging' doesn't excuse someone's behavior. It is just how I try to perceive people's actions now. (I do want to add that if I person does something terrible, like kill another, I do judge them then).