Relationship Question?

@jen14ed (865)
Philippines
September 1, 2009 2:55am CST
Can you please explain the different to me between needing and wanting to be with someone you love, and which one is healthy and which one is not and why. It might seems really simple to yo but i really need to know because I want to make the right decision for once in my life thanks you . happy my lottings
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2 Sep 09
Needing - This I feel is when you have an unhealthy obsession with someone that you can't function without them so if you split up with someone you are looking for another partner as soon almost as soon as you have split up. This is something that is not good in my opinion as it will nearly always end badly as nobody wants to be with someone who is that way with them. Wanting - I feel that this is a much healthier way of Loving someone as it's more about the actual person you want rather than Needing someone to be with you. For a relationship to work there has to have been that period where you both thought "I want them" because you actually felt something for each other rather than a need for someone, anyone if you like.
@laglen (19759)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I believe the needing part leads to problems. Makes you too dependent on that person. It also leads to action like domestic violence, stalking. the wanting or desire is better. I love my boyfriend, could live with out him but would really rather not. I dont have to suffocate him to know he loves me too.
1 Sep 09
tricky and often wondered this myself. I think though if your in love with someone, in the true sense of what love is, then you want and need them. If you need them more than you want them i'd say that was wrong, and ask why you need that person? to feel better about youself? financial reasons? your friends their friends? can be lots of reasons why you feel you need a person, it can all become habit, but this isn't good or healthy
@bingchen (1119)
• China
1 Sep 09
between needing and wanting in my love,i could not give equal way to treat it,i want it but i didn't i can abtain,at the same time i hope to need it,but i don't can gain it,so i think that the love often is very inherent,this is not easy to explain.
@wolf2999 (212)
• China
1 Sep 09
Needs are things we can't live without,Wants are things we can do without. crazyoverpurple did wonderful words.