Can you forgive if you can't forget?

@gotcho0O (1258)
United States
September 1, 2009 9:42pm CST
My spill..I miss him and how much long am I gonna punish myself? And why would I, as if I'm the one to blame for what happened. Can I ever really forgive if I can't forget? As much as I want to forgive him, I just can't, eventhough sometimes I must admit I do really miss him when I think of the good times ofcourse. When I ever gonna move on then?! I've had this before, the first time it took me like 3 years, man! I should've just listen that bf thing is after college. No regrets though. Well, who knows..
8 responses
@raynejasper (2324)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
..Hi.. well, love's really unpredictable.. What happened to you is real hard.. However, forgiving is very much important when it comes to love.. You clearly love him still, that's the way I see it.. If not, then you should have moved on.. The problem is, if he has already found someone to spend his life with, then you should really try hard to forgive and later forget.. Forgiving and forgetting are things that are easier said than done.. However, if you will voluntarily do it, I believe you can.. Try to focus on your future and avoid thinking of your past.. you will never move on unless you let go of your past.. Look at the bright side of life.. Be positive.. Think that you will meet somebody in the future who is really worthy of your love.. I believe that someday you will your guy who is much much better that your past bf.. cheer up girl.. don't spill your tears and beauty to someone who doesn't deserve you at all..
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
2 Sep 09
That's sooo sweet. Thank you soo much..Imma try. Moving on stage that's where I'm right now..But time will heal..xoxo mwah
• Canada
24 Sep 09
It takes time to forget something that you had for so long especially when you had it big time. But sometimes you don't really forget, or even forgive, you just have to live with it because it's a part of you. It's a part of who you are and what you've become because of it. Don't think of it as a punishment, think of it as a way of learning things. Because just then and there, you will be happy. =)
@mods196621 (3629)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
It's really hard to forgive if you always remember what he's done. The pain inside is the blockage into forgiveness of one's who've hurt us. I experienced that too. When he left me to find another girl and later I knew that he will gonna be marry that woman. I cried a lot. And until I can't find my right man I always remember what he did to me and this experienced serves as a burden because I cant move on. Time had passed until now I cannot see his face again, I know I'll forgive him.. I have my own family right now. Happy!
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
i know it is really hard to forget especially if we are the aggrieved party. the more we think about it, the slower it takes for us to forget. i suggest that u indulge in activities that take ur mind away from him. maybe, u go out with ur friends again, indulge in sports activities and pray, pray and pray for His guidance. He is always a friend and he listens to u anytime...
@sfjalex (46)
• India
2 Sep 09
Forgiving is not really hard for me because i have heard people talk bad about me many times but i dont like to keep that in mind, but be close to them like i used to be forgiving them. When it comes to love i have have seen people no matter how many times we forgive them they keep will always try to cheat us, atleast thats what happened in my life.
@finidinwa (497)
• United States
2 Sep 09
well nice question you put up here first you need to know that it is very easy to forgive but very hard to forget but love conquers all so with love you can forget
@tintukm (1083)
• India
2 Sep 09
Forgiveness is the medicine to be given to a person who needs it from us. I do forgive a person if he/she hasn't done anything of that sort which would be always playing in my mind.At times one reconsiders their wish of forgiving if the memories aren't good,the people we miss the most due to our not forgiving them in time do make our life go weird,the best thing anyone can do would be just take life in jovial mood,if anything we feel guilty of.
@jenysie (106)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Yes you can forgive, however it is a very active choice. If you choose to forgive him then you actively have to choose to forgive him and release him from all guilt. However if this was an abusive relationship, you should forgive but don't go back! On the other hand if it wasn't, then forgive him become friends, and see where things go from there. If you forgive you have to choose not to talk about whatever it is he did wrong, because that will only start trouble. If you find yourself thinking about it, then you have to choose to change your thinking. I hope this helps...you could check out my relationship advice blog... loveandrespect1.blogspot.com