Do you lie to your parents?

Philippines
September 2, 2009 7:01am CST
Well I've been a listener to my parents ever since I was born and I always obey, but then when I got older I start lying to them because there are things that I can't or afraid to tell them. You see it hurts me every time I lie. .What should I do?
10 responses
@tintukm (1102)
• India
4 Sep 09
Lying has mostly become a part of everyone's life these days.Its a kind of thing anyone does to save himself/herself for the time being.getting on with the life ahead may the lying people may end up into real trouble to themselves or others related to them.Parents are the one's whom a person is mostly attached too,thus its not a surprise that the daily issues that happen are always in one's favor and this would mean loosing the trust at any point of life,where one relies on the fake part by lying. Being afraid and so trusty makes one go the right way bu the truth which is the bets possible manner.The parents also believe the children since they have so innocence and would they would also forgive any child if he/she lied to them for a reason.
@tintukm (1102)
• India
4 Sep 09
Lying may help at times but its never a solution. The better way to introduce anything will be just by single mere truth,I suppose.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yes, I know that but I still don't understand that it so hard for some of us to tell them what we feel or something. Some are lucky to have that most understanding parents that they have now.
@sharryCD (121)
• China
3 Sep 09
to be honest, i have lied to my parents.Because of different conditions and situations, sometimes i can not tell them the truth.But just the lies can be grouped into several types. so i think some white lies can be allowed.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah I totally understand that.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I don't lie to my parents... but I most definitely do not disclose to them every detail of my life. There are some things that are simply a need to know thing... Often times, as parents, they anger more so over concern vs. actually being mad at us.... They've raised us to be one way and do one thing, while we've grown, formed our own opinions and lives.
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
You might haven't encounter things that you really have to lie.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
2 Sep 09
It depends in different situation. Sometimes we just don't want our parents to worry about us so we lie to them. Sometimes we don't want our parents to "control" us any more so we choose not to tell them or lie to them with other excuses. Anyway in each situation we should not hurt our parents at all . They are always the people who love us most and we should love them and care for them at any time.
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
yes, your right that's exactly what I mean.
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
I understand how you feel. I lie to my parents too, and the feeling is never good whenever I lie to them. Sometimes there are things that you just can't tell them. Not yet. Because you are not yet ready to share it with them. It is true that sooner or later they would find out the truth but while you are not yet prepared to tell them everything, I think it would be nice to just tell them that for now, this is all I can say about the matter. Just give them an assurance that you don't want to lie about things but you just can't explain or tell them everything right now. I think your parents would understand and give you space as long as you let them know that for now, that is what you need. Then of course, when you are ready, you should share everything to them because they are very eager to hear about your experience or the situation you are facing and they would want to help you out too.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
I just hope that when the time comes that I'm ready they are willing to listen and I'm not yet late to tell them what I've done. It scares me that they might be mad at me.
@Zavash (47)
• Chile
3 Sep 09
whit my parets i have a lot of trust and i no need to lie whit them.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Good for you that you have an open minded parents, your lucky to have them, but you see not all of us in this world have the same parents.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Sooner or later they will find out the truth. It would be better if you tell them upfront no matter how humiliating or shameful it is. It would hurt a lot more if they discover the truth from someone else. my dear. no matter how shameful it is, they will still accept you anyhow.. that is family...
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
thanks for your concern. :)
• Uruguay
12 Sep 09
Everyone, especially teenagers, lie to their parents . Some more than others, but everyone does, it's perfectly normal and unless you're hiding a HUGE part of your life, or something like that, a little lie evry now and then is fine . That being said, i constantly lie to my mom . Her and i do NOT have a close relationship, and she doesn't know me at all, she just thinks she does . I hide almost all my life from her, and i honestly, with her personality, wouldn't have have it another way .
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
29 Jul 10
It's all part of growing up. I've told lies, some of those lies backfired, lesson learnt.
@will_win (222)
• India
29 Jul 10
When I am small I always respect and obey my family ,what ever they commands........one day my boy ask me on date.The,problem is ,my parents thinks i am too young to go for date.My friend Kelly thinks I should just sneak out and tell my parents that's I am going somewhere with her......but I didn't lied.......instead I just asked permission from them ...........what you will do is that you sit with them and seek permission and stayed your case in a clam and logical way......instead of lying .If you lie,one day they will come to know and they will never trust you.......