I gotta get me some new friends!!

@Humbug25 (12551)
September 2, 2009 8:41am CST
No disrespect to my long term mylot friends intended at all but I gotta get me some new friends!! I haven't been very active on myLot for a few months until recently but during that time I have left all my notifcations for all my myLot friends to ON. I always get emails when my friends have started new discussions. When I first started on myLot, well over a year ago now, I was getting over 100 emails a day from discussion starters, no word of a lie. During the time I haven't been active I was only getting about 10 - 15 notifications per day. I have recently asked a few myLotters to be my friend and so far they have all accepted, no reason for them not to really! LOL I really miss some of the friends I made in my newbie days and often wonder what has happened to them. Maybe they lost interest or have not had the time to spend on myLot. Are you on the look out for new friends here on myLot? Do you never ask people to be your friend on here?
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 09
Hi Humbug! I count myself extremely lucky in that I have a multitude of friends, and close friends here on Mylot, but I am always accepting new friends, but I very seldom request friendship, but I put that down to my irrational fear of rejection, yes I know it probably sounds daft, but that's me. Most if not all of my friends are on notifications and yet I still don't get the influx of notifications like I used to and not to boast but I have over a dozen pages of friends! We all like to make new friends and for me no disrespect to my other friends but I love getting friend requests from people from the UK! Or seeing someone is from the UK, there are not many of us 'active' UK citizens on Mylot so it's a lovely surprise when new ones appear or even old ones return and request friendship.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 09
Hi Mike, friendship request accepted, good to see a fellow Brit here ;0)
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hey wolfie34 You'll be surprised how many Brits are on here actually, I have come across a few ex-pats too. A lot of Brits do appear to be inactive at the moment it has to be said. Blimey the two I know really well haven't been active in an eon and I so wish they were cos that would really help boost my earnings haha I have still got my trusted friend wolfie though so I am ok!! I am on my 17th page of friends as I don't want to delete anyone just in case they come back!! Cheers hun
@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Oh and just so that you know wolfie, I have kept the original comment you posted on my profile a year or so ago but deleted nearly all the others!! X
@angryeve (705)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Hi guys! I hope you don't mind me butting in. I'm just new here in mylot and trying to get a grip on how things work here. I only have one friend as of now, the one who referred me to this site. I know I look like a loner, pitty little me. Well, I hope you guys could help me around if it's not too much to ask. Cause it looks to me that you're all a bit of an expert here already. Any help would be greatly appreciated..
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hey there angryeve and welcome to you to myLot You most certainly are not butting in at all. This is what you are supposed to do, get involved in others discussions. It helps to have lots of friends on myLot so that you can respond to their discussions and theirs to yours. What I would do is respond to lots of discussions first and get a feel for the site before starting your own. Try to start discussions that almost everyone can relate to in order to increase your amount of responses. Try to be as discriptive as you can when responding and keep a discussion going if you can. I am sure I have missed loads of tips out but don't hesitate to ask anyone on mylot any questions as most of us are friendly and are only too happy to help. Thanks for your response and happy mylotting
@angryeve (705)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
Hi Devon, thanks for all the tips you've posted, I'll take a note of that. I'm currently trying to get a hang on posting comments. I really think that your advice with me not starting a discussion yet is really helpful. Since regulations here in mylot is a bit strict, I think as a new member I should first familiarize myself with how discussions here usually get to progress (don't know if that's the right term though hehe). I'm always willing to learn new things, and would really love to meet new friends. Anyways, feel free to remind of the must-not-to-do here in mylot to avoid myself being kicked out.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
You are more than welcome and I look forward to seeing some of your discussions in the future!
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Actually, I was the one who is always being invited!lol.This happens when I post a discussion that they find it is really useful to them.This is a socialization site, so one of the things that we can do here aside from making discussions is to interact,mingle and make friends with other members of the site.I cannot count the number of fiends I have already, not to boastfully say, when I open my account in the site, there is always a friend request,even without checking its background, I easily approve the invitation. It is really good to make friends here.They are always there to support you every time you will encounter some problems.happy mylotting!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hi there rberon1985 Don't get me wrong I get my fair share of people requesting to be my friend which, like you, I always accept regardless of their background. I am just wanting to have more friends that are active right now to converse with. Thanks
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• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Not to boastfully say,I am one of the active members in terms of barging in.What I am talking about barging in, is that when I responded to a discussion then someone give comment, I easily responded to the comment and then so on and so fort.That is a great help to gain more friends as well as to increase your earnings here in the site.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
I too do that and yes it is a way to help get more friends and boost earnings
@x_Jo_x (1042)
3 Sep 09
I havent sent a friend request as of yet. But if people send me them i always accept! Id love to make some more new friends on here. Even though its just over the internet their help and advice is really important to me! Its nice to know that if I have a problem i can make a discussion about it and people will comment. I have had some really great advice from people on Mylot, and some really comforting comments! So yes i hope to make more
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
Hi ya x_Jo_x Don't worry about sending others friends requests, like you, a lot of people won't reject. So go out there and make friends, someone always has to make the first move, grab the bull by the horns and go for it!! I expect a friend request from you with five days of this comment hahaha LOL Thanks for your response
@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
Haha well done, now that didn't hurt one bit did it? LOL You are officially no longer a friend requester virgin LOL Have a good day and happy mylotting
@thea09 (18321)
• Greece
2 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, I believe we met just the other day for the very first time, your lack of activity of late would explain that one now. Notifications are fine except when they come in blocks of ten all from the same person then I rather lose the will to look at them
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hi ya thea09 Yes we might have been friends sooner if I had been around haha . I too had someone on my friends list who would start maybe 10 or so discussions at a time and I used to get them in a block but what used to annoy me the most was that he never responded to any of my discussions and never made comment on the responses that he used to get from everybody so I kicked him to the curb! haha Thanks for your response
@thea09 (18321)
• Greece
2 Sep 09
I've had exactly the same thing Humbug, but I tend to cull. I don't respond to all of friends discussions, just the ones which catch my eye, and I feel the same back. Looking forward to getting acquainted, I did look in on your dating thing and was suprised as expected Humbug to be male, good name though.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
humbug, we must have come back at about the same time. i come and go all the time. i've been on longer this time then any other time in the past few years... yeap.. years.. I Wonder about some of the people i've met here too that i dont see anymore. but i think a lot of the more active friends i've had have come into trouble at mylot and are not the same names anymore, and i'm confused when they speak to me like i know them! lol. or they have just stopped coming.. *shrug* I had more fun when i was on more often, but i hadn't had the time or wanted to put the effort into sorting through discussions till recently! oo i always need to take breaks from mylot.. i dunno why. i get bored, or i keep reading the same things! And i have noticed there are only a few people left on my list that are making new discussions. I have most notifications off though, so i see most of the discussions friends make in the just under the friends started tab on the discussion page.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hi ya Sissygrl I am so like you, I get bored of it sometimes and seeing a lot of newbies on here starting the same old discussion unknowingly, bless them they think they are being original haha. I am sure I too am guilty of starting a discussion that someone else has been here and done several times. I was finding it a bit of chore to come on here for a while and as my kids were off school for the summer holidays it seemed like a good time for a break though I think I stopped a while befor they finished school! Thanks for your response and I am glad to see you are still around
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
3 Sep 09
hehe glad to see you back too.. i know sometimes i think upon making a discussion i'm repeating myself even!! after i've been writting for so long i run outta things to say/ask! I have seen a lot of mylotters though (the people that have been here a while) that have excellent discussions even after years of mylotting.. guess they are GOOD! hehe.
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
5 Sep 09
Hey there humbug25, and no I'm not really looking for new friends they usually look for me for some reason, I dont usually have to ask to often for friends here I mean put in a friends request, though I have a few times in the past, but not lately thankfully. besides anyone who request me as a friend will be getting one of the most active mylot friends and I wont spam you or give you a bad rating so it won't be a hassle to have me on there list, so thankfully I dont have to put much effort in requesting friends lol, but off line is another story.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
7 Sep 09
Hi ya apples99 Well I am certainly not looking for more friends offline, I have plenty but I guess you can never have too many eh? As for online friends online, well someone requested to be my friend and another friend had just informed of this person being a troll so luckily it was before I accepted their request!! Thanks
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Hello humbug! I have been away here for a few months too and I just got back here last week. I got so busy that I have no time to respond to my mylot friends. Eventhough I got away, I never erased the notifications from mylot about my friends new discussion because I know I will go back here and I will respond to them all. It's good to have new friends here so I actually accept some friend requests with those members whom I know where active here through the number of their posts and the time they were here.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
7 Sep 09
Hi ya aisaellis22 I like to make friends with newbies sometimes because they are full of enthusiasm and start many discussions and get involved. I also like to help them out if I can! Hey look at you with over 3500 posts, you'll be catching me up!! Thanks aisa see ya soon
@littleowl (7157)
4 Sep 09
Hi Humbug, am glad you have said this as when I first started here which must be just over a year ago too, my email box was inundated with emails from my friends here on mylot, now I do get a few but not as many as then, I do know ther was and still is a friend of mine who found new pastures but also pops in here now and then even though she doesn't seem to make any discussions or responses to anyone..yes there has been problems with a few of my friends but they have always come back but it seems like maybe others have found elsewhere to go or other things to do which gives them less time on mylot, sbut still am here my friend am not going to go away, I value your friendship too and it's good to have you back! hugs LoLo xx
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@Humbug25 (12551)
4 Sep 09
Hey there littleowl It's really good to see you. I think I know which friend your are talking about, a mutual friend of ours I think. I have gone off to other sites (not money earning ones) just to take a break from myLot a bit and refocus but I am back now, well for a bit anyway!! Take care my friend and thanks for taking the time to respond
@dolmitta (221)
• India
3 Sep 09
Hi I'm very new to mylot (3 days old) and i like it so much... Its really interesting and informative. I have just one new friend in mylot other than that all the others are my office pals. I wish to make new friends from different parts of the world through mylot... :)
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
Hi there dolmitta It is fairly important to increase your friends list as it will save you from looking around the site for a discussion to respond to and you will have more people around to respond to your discussion which in turn will help increase your earnings! I will send you a friend request so be sure you accept it huh? LOL Thanks
• United States
3 Sep 09
I have only been here a few days and have not asked anyone to be a friend yet, but several have asked me and I have accepted - the more the merrier, Isay! I came on here, like a lot of people, because it was a paying site and I figured I may as well get paid for the ridiculous amount of time I spend in my nocturnal computer habits! But I am learning its actually kind of fun to meet all these people and join in with discussions.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
Hi ya EnglishTeaDuck Yes I don't think people should look at this site as an earning site cos you could spend all day on here and still only earn 50c for your trouble. It is a very enjoyable, socialable place to be with lots of support and help from fellow myLotters should you need it. I have had a few dilemas that I have brought to myLot and have been pleased to say I was able to sort things out with the help of mylotters! Thanks for your response
• Canada
3 Sep 09
Well Humbug, I'm up for an add if you like. I have to say of all the social sites I belong to, I have never asked anyone to be my friend. I think it's fear of rejection. All the friends I've made come from others approaching me. So approach away Humbug. xoxo Cyne
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@Humbug25 (12551)
3 Sep 09
Hi there CynergyDiva You should never worry about being rejected on here. At the end of the day if someone rejects your friendship request then you should look at it as being their loss. I can't say anyone has ever rejected one of my requests anyway! I am sure that over time on this site your confidence will grow and it won't bother you if you are rejected or not and you will choose people to become your friends who you know will accept. Thanks for your response, happy mylotting and approach on it's way LOL
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
I don't mind adding new friends but some of them are not as active as everyday. that's why sometimes i just wait until they reach a certain level. i prefer to constantly be friend with the oldies and veterans of mylot. well, sometimes i do go back to those people and add them.i have also received a lot of notifications already from my friends
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hi ya LetranKnight25 Would you class me as an oldie or veteran then? LOL Thanks
@dbutheking (2347)
• India
2 Sep 09
Hi, I had sent you the friend requests now.. Hope you accept this too.. I also like to have as many friends as possible. I also attend the friends discussions and also i check the discussions in the no responses tab too.. Because i want to get more friends here. I will always be happy to see the first response in my discussions. Hope you too be happy with my first response... Have a great day... (So, all the friends while you start becomes inactive??????)
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@Humbug25 (12551)
2 Sep 09
Hi ya dbutheking As I am sure you are aware by now I have indeed acceptable you kind offer of being friends. Not all my friends are no longer active but most of them. I still have about 10 friends who are very active and support me in my discussions. Thanks for your response and happy mylotting my friend