Why do some people have no friends eve though they are nice?

friends,friendship - friends
@jen14ed (866)
Philippines
September 2, 2009 8:25pm CST
Most people are attracted to outgoing personalities. You may be nice. but if you don't socialize and hold interesting conversation no one will approach you the way you want.
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3 responses
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
People need to widen out, that is, they need to include people of all ages in their friends list. Of course, they need to be selective in their choice of friends, be positive influence in their lives. Being nice is good but if you don't smile or greet people, people they may think you are not otherwise. I for one am a shy person but I try to take little steps in making friends and I think I get good response.
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Good for you rejj1711 that you try to take small steps in branching out and socializing with people. Making friends are never easy because we always think, we are taking a chance and may get our feelings hurt. But then again what is life all about if we never take chances. I believe that you are on the right track with taking small steps, Happy mylot~!
@mods196621 (3629)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
Some people are not showy they are the type of person who loves to be alone even thought they would like to be socialized. They have friends but they are happy being alone. I have that kind of friend and she told me that she is quite happy stayed at home doing house hold chores and listening to what she would like to hear. She loves people around her and for me she is a nice friend at all. A quite type of person and approachable at all times.
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• Philippines
3 Sep 09
I am also that type of person, I like alone time and it gives a breath of fresh air to my person. Although a shy one, I don't usually initiate conversation but when ask for comment or suggestion I am willing to give one.
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• United States
3 Sep 09
The Bible says that to have friends you must show yourself to be friendly. If you are friendly, that does not mean you will have friends that are all good or kind or even likable. It takes hard work and meeting people and learning how to socialize (what you will desire or not desire in a friend) to have friends. However it works out, I love just trying to think the best of people, trying to be kind and loving, etc. I also am not the type of person to let people walk all over me, so it's constantly a balancing act but I have learned to enjoy the adventure everyday. Start with a smile and work your way up to conversation it may take weeks and months but soon you will be saying "hi" to people you never thought you would and you will have the whole world open up to you. I wish you well.
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
3 Sep 09
I agree with you sysdexlicwriter. What you mentioned here is true, if we want friends we must show ourselves friendly. That is not to say that there won't be a few peeps that will try to take your friendliness and kindness as a weakness. It's a balancing act as you said, it's also a matter of being willing to say two very small words. If we learn what those two small words are, we will always have lots and lots of friends.