love

September 4, 2009 1:00am CST
iv been loving a man who doesnt love me at all. we used to go out and eat out, watch movies, spending time together, and having coffee sessions talking about anything everything. i really like him. as a matter of fact, he's the only guy that i agreed to go out from the office. there were guys who asks me out frequently but i always declined. then suddenly he stopped asking me out. i dont know what happend but im missing him. im missing him badly. and he doesnt even care. he stopped sending me text messages and stopped spending his lunch with me. im little bit sad right now..
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12 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Honestly speaking there is no point of pursuing such kind relationship with this man even though you love him so much. It is better to suffer now then being sorry later on. The best relationship is when the man love you more than you love him. Rather than getting a cold shoulder from this person it is time you move on. He is not meant to be yours. There are many men outside who deserve your love and affection. Don't waste your time on him.
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@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
The fact that he used to ask you out means that he used to like you. When guys are dating girls, it doesn't really mean that they love that girl. It just means that they just like that girl in some way. They will ask you out to confirm their feeling for you. Because after that, they will know if they really like you or not. Unfortunately, I think that guy realized that he doesn't have a true feeling for you. But don't lose hope. Just show him that it's just nothing to you and be your self always when he's around or not. Maybe he will change his mind.
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@nuar_y (279)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Sorry, doesn't mean to be rude. But I think, well, maybe he's not interested with you anymore. Or maybe he found someone already. Well that's only my thought, nothing more than that. So I think it's time for you to move on, and find someone else. Who knows, those guys that asking you out are much more better than him?
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@larish (2191)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
As what have you said, you often go out. If you think you have the guts, why don't you confront him. Ask him what keeps him busy the past days and keeps him from getting in touch with you. It is still best if you can know the real reason for his change behavior.
4 Sep 09
for me as a men he decided stop you asking,, you can we go out because "its easy to love him but you don't want to try .. so now it easy to leave you say say goodbye than to feel that he didn't have a chance ,,
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
????
@MrKennedy (1978)
4 Sep 09
Remember, love is merely a chemical imbalance in the brain. Remember this if you are ever feeling down by such an emotion. ~Mr. Kennedy~
@MrKennedy (1978)
4 Sep 09
Darn, I think I added one too many "Remembers" in that sentence :(
@23uday (2997)
• India
4 Sep 09
Hi friend, Love is great relationship between two hearts and leaves forever and ever in life. Love is a good relationship between two hearts.I never proposed a gal till now. In future i will propose a gal which i likes and good partner to me. L- long lasting O-over V-valuable life E-emotional in life have a great day.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Loving a person is I think the best gift that we can give in. But how can you continue loving a person if he doesn't love you at all? I've been with your situation already, and mind you, you can handle it. Try to prove to him that he is not the only person that can rock your world. I mean, try to look at the bright side of life, you can still find someone who can and will love you in return. Who knows, he is just in the next corner...
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
hi there. dont be upset. it may be hard but definitely u'll get by. we dont know the real score. but sometimes, guys go out with girls because they are fond of them. im speaking in behalf of my friends who r mostly guys. maybe ur friend sent the wrong signal without any intention of using u whatsoever. sometimes, it's their nature. or maybe he felt what u really have for him so he kept his distance so wouldnt misinterpret him. take care. :)
5 Sep 09
There's always a time for everything as the saying goes....... In your case, there are still a lot of good things awaiting so don't miss that because of one guy. After all you've meet him just in your recent years & you have live a life before without him. There's no hope of happiness when there's no genuine love that binds you both. Lasting & successful partnership are built on attachment founded in love( I get this lesson from my very close friend). If there's no love you can not build attachment with each other where this ATTACHMENT take you as partner for a lifetime. Develop attachment after you're both founded in LOVE!
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Hmmm. I was in the same predicament in college. I really liked (in fact, I loved him) this guy and I thought he liked me too then all of a sudden we lost contact. I waited for a while but when he didn't call, I cut my losses and went on with my life. That guy called me again to pursue where we left off but, I was already with a new boyfriend (now my husband). Pursue other suitors, don't mope, Mr. Right will look elsewhere if you're pining for another guy.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
4 Sep 09
when we love a person, we cant always expect that love to be reciprocated. im sorry to hear about what you've experienced but we all go through this because we all have to let people in at some point. Dont linger on your negative emotions. If youre that upset, try and distract yourself by doing what you love and you'll get back to your routine. Dont worry about this one, it'll pass.