Do you have "friends" who never visit even if they are in the area?

United States
September 5, 2009 1:21pm CST
I just found out that a person who I thought was a close friend travelled more than 700 miles and drove within two blocks of my house as they travelled to a town not 20 miles from me. They stayed in the town for a week before heading on to a city just 100 miles away where they spent two weeks of their vacation. The friend then drove back past my house and the 700 miles home. I did not receive a phone call nor any notice they were passing nearby. I would have been willing to meet them for coffee somewhere just to visit for a few minutes. I contacted the same friend when I was within 80 miles of their home and they insisted that I stop by to visit. I drove out of my way so I could stop by and spent an hour and although it was late at night they didn't offer to put me up. If they had wanted to stay with me and avoid paying the cost of the hotel in the town 20 miles away I would have been happy to put them up. Is it possible I need to reevaluate who my friends are?
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I have a few friends who are like that. In fact I lived about down the street from a friend and I never saw her. I tried to make plans with her, but nothing came about from it. She always had a reason why she had to cancel. I think there are times when we need to re-evaluate who our true real friends are.
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Yup. I guess this happens. We've become busy through the years and even if we live near other, we have to sched times that we'd be seeing each other. Times have changed. We're no longer students. Some of my friends have gotten married. Some are parents. Some will have a baby.
@meapas (2436)
• India
5 Sep 09
This is my 1000th posting. I wanted to send it to a new friend. Apropos your posting I would like to sum it up in one line. Reciprocals are never equal. Be it relationship or friendship. Love or hatred. No sir you don't have to reevaluate your friends, the need of the moment is to reevaluate the times we are living at the moment. That would suffice to alleviate your pain of a cherished moment from the past.