Help!!! I'm in love with my bestfriend

Philippines
September 5, 2009 8:13pm CST
Have you ever been in love with a bestfriend? I'm stock in this situation. Please someone help me. I know this seems to be an ordinary situation but its really hard when you're in the situation yourself. I'm afraid to loss the friendship. I don't know what to do. Do I need to tell her or not. I really want to burst and tell her what I feel. What will I do? Please someone help.
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6 responses
@bigmal12 (57)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Well if its your best friend, i would think that you know them pretty well, and they know you well to. So i think you should tell em and try it out. You guys should be perfect for each other, because you started out as friends. And since you started out as friends, there shouldn't be a problem. And its not good, to keep feelings inside. If you keep your feelings hidden, you could go through life, not knowing what could have happened, if you told her. And you never know, she might feel the same way. the only way i would say don't tell her, is if she had a boyfriend already.
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
You have a point. I won't be able to know how she feels if I kept it secret. So i should tell her no matter what. But not now. I got to take it easy. Thanks for that
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
I just texted her I while ago. I asked her if there's a chance she could be in love with a friend. She said yes and ask me why am I asking. I replied "just asking" and kiddingly said "and just wandering if you are secretly in love with me"... She just reply hahaha... Then topic has change. I'm Still clueless but then, I feel better.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
no i haven't been in love with my best friend because we have the same gender. just utter this to her "i have something to confess. i find it hard to tell you this because i'm afraid that this might ruin our friendship. i'm in love with you and i was really figuring things out on how can i say this things to you. i'm not expecting that you'll love me back, if you'll reject me as a lover it's okay but don't reject me as a friend..."
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
i'm pretty sure that she'll understand...
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Hi elsmarie. Thanks for such a good lines but I think i have no courage yet to tell her that straight how I feel. I will try to get some reactions first from her by asking figurative questions. After that, maybe I could follow your suggestion and tell her straightly everything. I will post here soon for any update. Thanks
@babyangie27 (5177)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I have been in this situation too many times in my past. I always hung out with guys,and most of my best friends where guys. I once got into a relationship with one best friend and it ended up breaking out friendship apart when we split. I have also had one turn me down out right and even though I told him it wouldn't change our friendship it did big time. Is she seeing anyone? Does it seem like she may be interested in you too? I would talk to her about it,make it kind of general like "Would you ever date your best friend? Why and why not" her answer may help you.
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
She's sweet in me. I don't know if it does mean something. She's not seeing anyone but, someone's courting her. But she told me, he doesn't like the guy. I will try to ask her in general, like what you've suggested. I'll update you soon. Thanks
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• United States
6 Sep 09
Yes please keep me updated and I wish you the best of luck!
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Hi. That's so sweet :-) How long have you been friends? Maybe she likes you too. The best way I think, is to ask her hypothetically *wink *wink something like "What do you think if we end up together?" your question should clue her in regarding your feelings for her. Find out also what she likes in a guy. If you meet those criteria, why don't you give it a try?
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
We've been friends for almost 3 years since we became classmates and become groupmate in a project. It's really fun to be her bestfriend that's why I'm afraid to do such thing that would ruin our friendship. Hopefully she likes me too. I will try to ask ask her the way you said. I will give her hint using questions, hopefully she's reacts favorably. i will post here the result soon. Good luck to me. Thanks for your suggestions.
@wolf2999 (213)
• China
7 Sep 09
Does she love you?if you have felling to her,speak out.Even if you fails,it does't matter.I think can do back to a friens.
6 Sep 09
physical escalation will bring you both closer if she's (sexually) interested, if you tell her how you feel you will probably destroy your relationship with her