Even a welcome pressure ain't too welcome

@Theresaaiza (10528)
Australia
September 6, 2009 4:39am CST
I am in the stage of my work where my boss wants me to do zillion things in one day (and low-paid thank you). In contrast to my situation before where I had to stretch a duration of one task to fit one week. So in a way, this pressure on me now is a bit welcome. Pressure makes me move. Like whoeverscientist once mentioned that a thing won't move until you give it a push. Sure, I got exactly just that-- A PUSHY BOSS! Things are always a balance of good and bad. The good part is that, but the bad part is pressure IS always stressful. I've been having hyperacidity attacks and ravenous appetite as my way of coping. That's not too good. Guys, inspire me!
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@mysdianait (65054)
• Italy
6 Sep 09
Hi Theresa! Having too much to do is better than having too little surely? When are you eating? - during work or later? I think that the more I have to do the more Iget done and the quicker the time passes too so I would prefer a job with a lot going on rather than one where Ijust have tosit and look at the clock waiting for my shift to end. Is he testing you to see how you cope ready to offer youa promotion if you pass with flying colours?
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
You upgraded your avatar mysD? :-D Like it! Yeah! But you really should add a bow. Violet would be great! Haha. When am I eating? During! And Later! Hehe. Our boss won't really know because he's based in California. Our superiors are in another island so they don't see us 24/7. They only communicate with us through the phone or emails. Yet still, if the HE would order something, the superiors must follow, and therefore the slaves (us!) must also follow. I do prefer doing more than doing less. That's why I can call it a welcome pressure. And naaaah, even a promotion won't guarantee a good pay. Our Branch OIC haven't been paid for months now. That is why she had to find a second job. It's actually a long story why we're sticking to this job despite the low or none-at-all salary. Wanna hear a loooooong bedtime (because it could promote sleep) story? :-D
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@mysdianait (65054)
• Italy
9 Sep 09
I have alsobeen in a situation where others could not understand the reasons I was sticking with a certain job even though it didn't have many positives at the time. I knew my reasons and in the end my determination and patience paid off and now have a permanent job there. If yours is a similar situation then I can understand partially. If you want to fill in with the details please do so. Sometimes when a firm is going down hill and the others abandon, it pays to hang on for as long as you can stay afloat because when it resurfaces you are already there and become part of the new launch. Yes got a new look becuase someone else 'used' my old one. I will see about getting a bow - but it will not be purple!
@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
Our stories are more or less very similar. The company that I am in is going, no, rolling downhill! It used to be the highest earning company before being the pioneering one too at that until the former manager and owner had a conflict and she started to take over the branch, brainwashing some of the staffs to go against the owner. Most of what she said were all lies. She has psychiatric symptoms accoridng to most people she has had conflicts with and could lie without batting an eyelash! So what happened was, those who remained loyal to the owner got kicked out by the manager and started afresh from scratch. Until now we're on a roller coaster ride fluctuating from scratch to a more-decent-than-scratch-status, but slowly reintroducing our name that we are the original one. So the bottomline is, I am hanging on to this job because I wanted to help it rise again. At least to a point when it could stand on its own.. clean its name, and be financially sustaining. But of course that wont happen overnight and the process that comes with it are never easy. That's why it's really pressuring me now. So I see someone has used your avatar! Are they exactly the same??? Does this person know you were identical twins???hehe. I like this one though. Like I always tell you----put a bow! That way, first you wont be mistaken for a man and second, no one can copy your avatar! Hehehe
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
that explains your absence here in mylot. we're on the same wavelength there in saying that pressure makes us move. i even look for it. however, i've had an encounter with the same kind of boss that you have. it came to the point that i was collapsing even in our house. i feel like a screw is getting out of place for my mind travels even in that little space between the white clouds even at home. it's zonking out and i felt scared. here i am now, a stay at home mom. knowing how to do a lot of things ain't a blessing.
@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
My job is really one of the reasons why I am not regular here in mylot anymore. And well other priorities too. One time myLot got boring too so I "lie-lowed" a bit. Sorry for the late response though. Anyway, I am thankful though that it so far has never reached to the point of me collapsing or getting fatigues over my work. It is stressful yes, but thankfully it hasnt affected my health in a major way. So you're just at home now? At least you are your own boss now. hehe. You have more time for family and to take care of your own household. But Im sure you do miss working too sometimes. Correct?
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
i sure do miss working. that's is why when i'm asked where i'm working right now i point to my son. i made it a career, as of now, to take care of my toddler. teach him manners, basic educational knowledge... time would come when these wouldn't be welcome anymore. besides, since teaching was my career then, no one is too old for a teaching job especially if one has a masteral degree, right?
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
Wow, a masteral degree is really an edge, Ritch. Yes of course when your kid is bigger and can manage most responsibilities on his own, you could always find a job. You know what, take it also as a great privilege to be a hands-on parent. A lot of kids out there are screaming for parental attention. YOur son is lucky adn blessed to have you around.
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
6 Sep 09
Wow, that is not easy. I cannot work under pressure anymore. Stress (pressure) is healthy in a balance way, yes. But bad stress is not good stress. You know what I mean. I think best thing for you to do, is take a vacation as soon as possible. This way you can come to rest and maybe when you get back to work, you can have a peaceful conversation with your boss. After all, when the boss wants you to work more. You are allowed to ask for more pay. When you can get a raise that will help and give you inspiration. Good luck. Take care.
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
Oh yeah, a vacation is what I need!! Exactly! Well I hope u r doing great in ur present job too. How's your back and those nasty customers that you were complaining about in one of your discsussions?
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
9 Sep 09
I am doing okay. The nasty customers are not so popular anymore. They seem to have made them selfs look stupid with all there complaining. No one listens to them anymore.One lady does not come in anymore and the other is usually sitting there by herself. No one wants to be with her anymore because she is so negative. Always complaining. I stay polite and do my job, this way I stay out of this circle. hahaha! When people drink to much (especially older women) they start acting stupid, and this stupidity catches up with them. It is there own fault. And where are you going for your vacation? Have you got plans???
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
Well there's no vacation privilege in my job, so I guess the nearest and least expensive I can go to so far is in the comfort of my bedroom without bringing my job home, play computer game all day, or watch 5 movies all day, eat all day, you know just unwind! I could go to the beach and count the waves??? hehehe Well I am glad the two ladies finally stopped fooling around with you. Ive always known, your troubles too shall pass. I bet you'd learn to deal with job-related problems like this in the future without compromising your health.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Sep 09
No job is worth having a nervous breakdown over. On the plus side, being busy sure makes the day go faster. I used to hate trying to look busy when there wasn't anything to do. It also seems like you are becoming more important to your boss. He (or she) is relying on you for all these little tasks, instead of assigning some of them to others. Maybe that's a good thing, especially if consideration is given at raise time. On the negative side, if there is more work to be done than you can possibly do, it adds a lot of stress for you. When you are given a 'wish list' of tasks, have you considered asking which ones are needed with a higher priority? As long as you get those done, it may not matter that some aren't completed until the next day. Asking would also make you look good because you are thinking about your bosses needs, not just the tasks themselves. Does your boss have a sense of humor? ONLY if he/she does, when given a large task list you could jokingly say, "Gee, when I get this done, I'll deserve a raise!" It's important to laugh when you say this, as you don't want it to look like you're demanding a raise. You just might get one though, by planting the idea. Good luck!
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
Everything you said was right about the positive and negative. Thanks. Our boss won't mind that line you suggested. :-D However, even if he does promise, I am aware of the finances of the company. And it's not doing good. In fact, we suffer from delayed salaries most of the time. Delayed and sometimes none. Sometimes, lacking. But why we are sticking in this job is one long story! :-D
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Sep 09
As long as you see potential hope with the company, if you can afford it, it's well worth staying. Good owners and managers remember who went the extra mile when the 'chips were down'. You have a positive attitude and I hope everything works out for you. Another plus of sticking it out is the contacts you are making, not only with management, but with other employees. Should the company not survive, all of these people go somewhere...and all of them become leads to your next job. Good luck!
@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
Oh yes I do believe that everything---whether good or bad has a good purpose in the end. I will land on a better job someday! I am very hopeful with that! Thanks!
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
A PUSHY BOSS!Well having that kind is okay,at least he really trust you that you can do the job.Your boss will not be that pushy if he doesn't have that big confidence in you.BUT!Be very mindful of your health,sometimes you have to ignore some of the stress so you won't get sick. Slow down and get things done in your own time and be good always!
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
One thing also, I am very grateful because of the people that I work with. They are my source of motivation and encouragement. They also scold me when I am being very negative. ANd to think we all are low-paid here! Sometimes, after a hectic and hazardous-to-the-health day or week, we go out to unwind. YOu know, just eat and talk and talk and talk. Or sing! And it does make everyone feel better at the end of the day.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
7 Sep 09
Well sometimes the pressure extracts many good things from us. I have seen I work best when under some pressure. But it is not always good as it adds to stress, which is very harmful to health.
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
I do agree about that. Pressure does help you yield better results. Perhaps because of adrenaline. And sometimes you find yourself daring to do things youve never done before. And after the task is done, u'll become a better person!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Sep 09
Every challenge we face in life makes future challenges easier to bear! Pressure exists in all we do when you really think about it, so the important thing here is to address and optimise HOW we deal with it and to control its affects on us. The hyperacidity and ravenous appetite angles are undoubtedly linked, so work on remedying this aspect for one! Stress can rapidly generate MORE stress if it's not controlled effectively. The only thing to effect change is change itself, so rectify the pain points in your daily routines and all of a sudden you'll find yourself breezing through each day! And the better you cope, the more you learn through the greater experience you gain. It's a win/win! The BEST thing of all is that you end up becoming far more powerful in your role too and can then start to stand tall against a Boss when required and not fear any reprisals. It's a wonderful feeling to go from being just another employee and becoming a necessity!
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
Every challenge becomes esaier to bear I agree. That's why I am a bit thankful of this pressure. Do you really believe that someday I can stand stall against my Boss? hehe. wow, I do and am praying for that day. He too deserves some spanking in the butt. He sometimes mismanage us. Sometimes he spends more than he is earning at the expense of our company and our salaries too. Tsk tsk tsk. By the way, the word rectify kind of reminds me of a ..........rectum!
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@prinzcy (5034)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 09
Ah, that is stressful. An annoying boss, a zillion job and to add salt to the injury, a small paycheck. You need to pull yourself together. Remember, you're just doing your job and your boss is one big machine that's giving order (well, to many order~~~) While in the meantime, if your tolerance is thinning and you starting to really hate your job, try applying for a new one (with bigger paycheck)
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
Actually I can leave anytime, there's just something about this job and the people in it, and even the boss himself that is keeping me from leaving. BUt of course someday I will have to seek something better. HE knows that our stay here is only temporary.
@Sir_bobby88 (8241)
• Singapore
6 Sep 09
Well having pressure is sometime good but i can see that you are valuable to your boss yea .
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@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
9 Sep 09
Valuable? Hmmm.....I do hope that's how he sees me and my team, instead of just robots that he can order around. Although I believe he just wants what's best for the company.
@KrauseHome (36689)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Personally I think with the Economy being the way it is and so many people out there begging for a job you start seeing and experiencing things within your job you may not always feel are the Best for everyone involved. It could be some pressures are being put on him or her to where they demand more from you all of a sudden as well. All you can do is be Thankful you still have a job, and just continue to do the Best you can, and one day you can look back and know that it was truly worth it all.
@Theresaaiza (10528)
• Australia
12 Oct 09
Yes you do have a point, my job is better than nothing, although it is as good as nothing sometimes! BUt at least, I have a reason to get up in the morning apart from the usual daily routine. Thanks for the response!