Should you ever go to bed with an argument unresolved?

argument of relationship talk - argument of relationship
@jen14ed (866)
Philippines
September 6, 2009 8:04pm CST
Me i can never do that. i tend to panic a lot so i can't sleep with an argument on my mind or some sort of bad situation, i gotta do what i can to fix it, and if it time is only solution, then yeah sleep would be good?
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7 responses
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
it is ideal not to sleep with arguments unresolved especially with ur spouse. sometimes, we are only good in saying never to sleep with arguments unresolved. in truth, we do sleep sometimes with it. that is what we call pride on either party.
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@MissAmie (718)
• United States
7 Sep 09
It's hard for me, but I can do it and use it as a weapon often. I've been married for 13 years! I have learned lots of tricks to make men appologize first. Since I've been married for so long and my husband and I have gone through MANY problems that took way longer than one night to figure out. We had no choice but go to bed mad. Sometimes it takes a really long time to find the middle ground in a relationship and if you think that can always happen before you fall asleep then your expectations are way too high. We're both stubborn like an ox, so we can get into some pretty heated debates. lol. But I can't imagine NEVER making up. There's nothing he could really do other than, like, kill people or something, that would make me not forgive him. Thirteen years on the 22 of this month! We are apparently doing something right!
@rsa101 (23627)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
There are situations in an argument that should be allowed to let pass of the steam it created. Although it is ideal for a couple to settle their differences before the day ends but then if both is given enough time to think things over by themselves and be allowed not to talk about it. I usually settle things a day after an argument has happened. It usually calms everything and each can think over what they have done with one another and sometimes it gives them more clearer picture of the real situation.
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• United States
7 Sep 09
Contrary to popular belief, studies show that it is the best idea to go to bed with the argument unresolved. It's best to step away from the situation if the argument becomes too intense, to relax and sleep and go back to it fresh the next day. Both parties are often more calm and clear-headed and reach a resolution much more easily.
@Hatley (164232)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Sep 09
hi jen14ed no I never let us go to be with an Argument unresolved.we worked it our and oneof us said I Am sorry'and the other agreed that he was too. ahug and a kiss and maybe some love'making it was a great way to assure a good nights sleep.it also kept our' marriage strong through a lot of bad and good times too.
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Ideally no, you shouldn't go to bed angry. I couldn't sleep when I am angry and it frustrates me more when my husband can fall asleep immediately after an argument.
@lawana_f (327)
• United States
7 Sep 09
I do not like to go to sleep with problems with my husband (when I had one), but there are times when it cannot be avoided. Of course going to bed seems to solve the problem not matter what is is for most men, most of the time; but women to not think that way. Life has things that will simply fix themselves if given time, but this is not something that you learn until midlife if then. So you do the best you can and pray for God to take care of the things you cannot.