A 13 Year-old Ordered A "Hit" On His Mom
@purplealabaster (22094)
United States
September 7, 2009 12:37pm CST
Has anyone else heard this story? I just heard about it on the news. Apparently, a 13 year-old boy ordered a "hit" on his mom. He convinced a 15 year-old boy to perform the "hit", but it did not say how he convinced him to do it.
The 15 year-old attacked the mother with a knife. Fortunately, the knife hit her clavicle and broke, which probably saved her life. The news report stated that they are unsure of the motive for the attack, but they think it was because the son did not like the school the mother was having him attend. There were are no further details at the moment, but the incident is under investigation.
This story terrifies me just as much as parents harming their children. If I was the mother, I would not only be terrified but also heartbroken. I cannot even begin to imagine one of my children trying to harm me let alone wanting me dead!
The worst part is that there doesn't seem to be any real reason for the attack. There doesn't seem to be any abuse or neglect on the part of the mother, at least none that they have found at this stage of the investigation. It doesn't sound like the son is even alleging any abuse. I'm not saying that it would be alright if she was abusing him, but at least it would make the whole thing more understandable. Not liking a particular school is definitely not a reason for attempted murder!
I can't even imagine being in this woman's shoes. Have you heard about this story? Do you have more details than the ones I just heard on the news? How do you feel about this incident?
11 responses
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
This news is really terrible. And you said the boy's motive was that he did not like the school where his mother sent him? That's a really shallow reason. I don't like to pass judgement for now because I don't really know them. Maybe the kid has a psychological problem. Maybe not liking the school was not the only motive. I just hope that whatever the real problem is between the mother and her son, they would eventually solve it and be at peace.
@dbabcook (388)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Ok that was the last thing I myself wanted to hear about today. My boyfriend and I live together with our 2 children, my daughter 10 and his son "13". His son is a very angry and hostile child. We have had to admit him for attempting to slit his own throat. He has a lot of pend up anger and hostility towards his mother who walked out of his life at the age of 1-1/2 and he treats me so very terrible. I have often awoke in the middle of the night from dreams or sounds and thinking that it was him coming into our bedroom and attacking me or his father, usually me due to his situation. I hate to be alone with him as I never know what to expect and now this gives me even more reason to worry. Granted this boy has a reason for being angry but should also realize that he has a good life and take advantage of all of the good things in it but he chooses not to.
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@rivengodwind (369)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Given two pieces of data: (1)He ordered a hit, (2) He convinced another kid to do it, then it seems he may have symptoms of conduct disorder. Conduct disorder is a childhood disorder characterized by an inability to follow societal norms and/or rebellion. This is inconclusive though, because nothing about the story tells of his temperament, an information that I think would be very hard to come by.
As to how I felt, given the same two bits of information it really is shocking to say the least. Open rebellion is common with teens but to do something about it in a manner that would hurt their own family is frankly, disturbing all the way.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Thank you for the information. I think I have actually heard of Conduct Disorder, which I believe is a form of Antisocial Personality Disorder. About ten years ago or maybe a little more, a boy that was 12 or 13 years old tortured and killed a 3 year old little boy. I believe he was diagnosed with Conduct Disorder. They had a program documenting the incident about a year ago on one of the true crime channels, which included interviews with him then and now. It was very scary, because he just looked like a normal young boy to begin with, but he showed absolutely no emotion when he talked about what he did to that poor toddler. When they showed him as an adult, he still was emotionless, but somehow he just seemed evil. Perhaps it was only my interpretation of a child versus an adult. Either way, it was extremely disturbing!
@doglady112 (604)
• Canada
8 Sep 09
I think that's crazy I'm seriously wondering what is happening to the world we live in. I just don't understand, there's so much violence in the world right now. I'm just wondering has everyone in the world gone mad. My friend tells me I should start praying at night. Maybe that's something everyone should do.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I am seriously wondering what is going on in the world, too. It is getting really scary out there. It's bad enough that we need to worry about strangers, but now we have to worry about our own family. Don't get me wrong, domestic violence happens way too much, and it is a horrible crime. I just never thought that we would also have to be afraid of our own children!
Your friend might have a point about praying. It is a personal choice, but if it helps you, then maybe you should try it.
@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
8 Sep 09
This sounds awful, but I can imagine the desire to hurt your mother. I was emotionally abused for years, and there were times I was afraid I would hurt her, because I had so much anger I couldn't do anything with, because no one believed me - she was a pillar of the local church, etc, and people just thought I was some spoilt teenager complaining. The result for me was that I took the anger out on myself instead and developed an eating disorder. Don't assume abuse isn't there because you can't see it, There are different kinds. Of course equally that might not be the case.
Having said that, when I say 'afraid I would' I was afraid I would hit her or something, and I wouldn't have actually done it, it was just how I felt - I wasn't about to get someone else to attack her, thats like a whole other planet!
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I am so sorry that you had to go through that! I am even more sorry that when you tried to reach out to people for help they did not believe you! "Don't assume abuse isn't there because you can't see it". Unfortunately, that is true, but a lot of people don't want to believe it unless they see proof of it with their own eyes. That is one of the reasons, as you know, why people do not report abuse. It shouldn't be like that.
I can totally understand being angry and wanting to strike back, such as in your case. Taking it to the extreme of this case, though, I do not understand. I haven't heard anything more regarding this, so I'm not sure whether or not they determined if there was any form of abuse yet.
@vira109 (35)
• China
8 Sep 09
It's really startling, but it's true that such things grow hotter and hotter in nowadays. I think parents should care more about their kids, to pay more attention on their children whether they are really respected by elders. Only felt the warmth and love from others, the harmonious could be coexisted between people.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I agree that sometimes parents don't pay enough attention to their children, so the children act out in unacceptable ways just to get some attention. Fostering a loving, nurturing, and respectful relationship with our children is definitely a good step towards making the world a better place. I believe that you are correct when you say that raising children this way helps foster a more harmonious coexistence between people.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
7 Sep 09
wow that is so sad. I couldn't imagine what that mother must be feeling right now. And what about the mother of the 15 year old that did the attacking? she must be pretty upset too. or maybe the 15 doesn't have a stable home to begin with. I didn't hear about on the news but I don't watch the news very often. I wonder what was going through that kids head if he wasn't abused.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
7 Sep 09
Thanks Ravinskye, you brought up a point that I hadn't really though about that much. The parents of the 15 year-old must be having as tough a time with this as the mother of the 13 year-old. It didn't really go into any details about the home-life of the older child, so he might not have a stable home-life. I can't imagine how the younger child talked him into murder, though. None of it makes any sense, and we probably won't ever understand what was going through the mind of either teen.
@dodo19 (47117)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Sep 09
No, I haven't heard about this story. Wow! It's difficult to believe that some people might want to harm their parents! I feel really terrible for the mother. I feel really sorry for her. It's so sad that this boy was miserable enough to want to do this sort of thing to his mother. It's really a terrible thing to have happened.
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@rolento (227)
• Spain
7 Sep 09
here in spain this kind of sites happens very often because we have a dumb politicians that only cares about stealing money and more money, and make very stupid laws that the only thing they do is protect the criminal, and the victim can be very lucky if he doesn't get a demmand for have injured the attacker
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
7 Sep 09
That's horrible, especially if they punish the victim if they hurt their attacker! That sounds like a very scary place to live. I hope you stay safe. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
24 Sep 09
It is terrifying. I'm not sure that it is lately, either, but you do seem to hear more of these kinds of stories lately. Parents killing their kids, and kids killing their parents. Somehow, when the violence is that close to home, it seems even scarier than if the crimes were committed by strangers. Perhaps you are right about the media playing a role in this. I do not know, but I wish that these things would stop happening.
@kenritsuku (6)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Are you kidding me wow this is very shocking why would the kid do something like that...
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I really do not understand why he would want to kill his mom or why the other teen would try to do it for him. The police said that they thought it was because he didn't like the school his mother was having him attend, but they are unsure at the moment if this is the real reason. There is an on-going investigation. It sounds like a pretty lame excuse to me, but maybe he was getting picked on or bullied at the school or something.
