Raise your hand if you have been bullied!

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
September 7, 2009 6:40pm CST
Are you one of us? LOL! I don't want to make this a miserable sad discussion either, I'm just curious to see how many of us have been through this in our past. Are you done with it now, has it stayed in the past? My hand is up, friends. Yes, I know what it feels like. I don't wish it on anybody.
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
7 Sep 09
I spent all of my school years being pushed around. I was very skinny (still am) and very short. When I graduated HS I stood less than five feet tall and weighed in the 90 pound range. Yep, my hand is up
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
8 Sep 09
Well no wonder you wear such dangerous looking high heels then! ROFL
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Hiya fwidman....I was (still am) a beanpole all my life as well...plus short and very shy...the perfect target for bullies
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I don't know why that has to happen to us, we are CUTE, are we not? LOL! The shy thing, well that went by the wayside. I did some housecleaning as far as THAT went!
• Indonesia
7 Sep 09
Hands up (not just one hand). They are stalking me, i don't even feel safe in this place, because their words are belonged to the bullies. And i believed some of them can become a bouncer or criminals. They said i'm not fit in the friendship website, and they said bad things about my english skill on the blog, so i erased it because i have had enough and i want to vomit about this. Probably, just probably, they searched for me in the internet to get my last activities to fulfill their curiosity and to to satisfy their greed to hurt others. Maybe they will see what i am doing here, and they will respond, but go ahead, that's it. Shame on them for who wanted to be my tail. Search God, do not search me! They spread my photos to their friends, till on the street or wherever i go sometimes people called me with the nicknames they gives me. They guys are itchy, i've had a husband and child. And the women are fussy and jobless.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
If you're talking about being stalked and ripped apart by people online, there are online bullies too! I don't know why, maybe the anonymity makes them come out and play because I think some people forget there are real people here behind the postings. I have seen some people stalk others so badly they actually wreak havoc in the person's REAL LOCAL life, by getting authorities involved or having people harrass them on the phone or follow them and take photos which they post online. It is CREEPY to say the least. I really don't understand how anybody would have that kind of time but I have seen online stalking with my own eyes, so I know it happens. It happened so badly to a friend of mine that she left the board she had been posting at and entered a private forum where she would not be stalked, harrassed, and mocked by others who were not invited. Of course, those not invited made fun of the private forum but hey, what can ya do? Once a bully, always a bully, and they see nothing wrong with their lurid awful behavior.
• Indonesia
14 Sep 09
No. I meant my neighbor. They followed me everywhere to satisfy their curiosity. Used to they talked about my photos in friendster and my blog, so erased all of the photos and blogs. And now, they searched me again in the internet to know my paths to again, satisfy themselves, to know about other people's business. Yes, i know the bullies feels they have right to do that. I don't like them and their big mouthed. One day, my child will know what they do, know what they do to her mom. And i know that kind of people can not move on, they can only get an average life. I know.
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Raising my hand, yep, I'm one too. I was bullied for most of my school years. I absolutely loved school. I always walked around with all of my school books, very proud of being an A student. I never in any way felt better than others but the girls who bullied me called me stuck up ____. Yeah, don't wanna say, lol, but they were pretty cruel. I was never popular with the "in crowd". I was also proud to say I was a christian and loved the Lord so that was another reason to be bullied even more. My oldest daughter who is now 10 gets picked on alot in school too because she does so well in school and is proud. I see myself in her so much but I think it affects her more than it did me. She's very emotional and doesn't understand why people can be so mean. I always tell her how proud we are of her and sometimes people can be cruel or just jealous but it's so hard to see her go through it because I remember how hard it was growing up and being picked on for no reason. I was picked on to the point where girls were pushing me around in the hallways, dropping my books, and pushing me down on the ground. I NEVER want to see my daughter go through that, ever.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Man, this is sad! I was smart and good at school too, and at least as an adult, I can see the whole 'stuck up' comments and 'you think you're better' remarks as the jealousy it was. I also learned that many people will mistake shyness for snootiness, and instead of approaching you, they will just figure 'who needs them anyway' instead of taking the time to get to know someone. Assumptions ruin a lot of chances for people. Even as an adult I see it happen, friends who drop comments thinking someone else they don't even know doesn't like them, or thinking they might be 'stuck up'. I usually wait till I see how the person interacts with me and others before I peg them that way - because I've been that person pegged that way when I'm not! Nothing would be more infuriating to me than to see my daughter have to deal with being made fun of or bullied. So far she seems fine but I have made a big deal to her about asserting herself and also being kind to others. I hate seeing kids pick on each other over NOTHING. I feel like saying - you just wait, when you are grown up and have bills and too much to do and not enough time and a couple kids who are screaming unfair over nothing, then maybe you'll have something to actually complain about lol.
@derek_a (10874)
9 Sep 09
Yes, I was bullied when I was around 8 years old. A bigger guy used to wait for me to come out of a store with chocolate and threaten me until I gave it to him. One day I refused and he threw me to the ground and slammed my head into the concrete. I avoided going that way home for a while until one day a few years later I saw him and it looked like he was going to get me again. This time I hit him - it didn't seem very hard to me, but he ran off and never bothered me again. I then discovered that I merely needed to stand my ground with bullies and they would invariably back down, so without ever having any real physical contact it got out that I could look after myself. I'm pleased though that I never had to prove it, because I wasn't exactly the strongest kid in the school. I just wouldn't let fear control me again, as I discovered from that first experience, that it didn't mean that you would get away unhurt but by standing my ground I would end up much safer. I know all bullying experiences are not like the one I had, but that's what worked for me. I am going back to the 1960s here though! - Derek
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Raises hand! Yup--I was bullied as a kid. One, I was thin, two I was short, three I was a brainy geek and kids just love targeting the brainy types...it also didn't help that I was painfully shy. Things changed as I got older and felt more confident with myself--so being bullied is a thing of the past..thank goodness
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Isn't it funny how it's 'cool' to be techie and geeky when you get older but there's never anything 'cool' about being smart when you're young. I don't get it.
• United States
8 Sep 09
yeah I have been bullied it was a long time ago in grade school I finally put an end to it when I stood up to the bully
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I hve never understood why kids could be so mean lol. Then I had kids. That whole 'fitting in' thing? Gosh it starts early.
• United States
11 Sep 09
well kind of.. i was homeschooled so my only contact with other kids were via church and i was teased some about my looks (ulgy duckling) but not very bad and i still had a lot of friends.. just this girl's dad had a power position in the church and mine had one in a different section of the church so we were rivals in a way because of our dads positions.. if i had been to real school i may have been more but i will never know.. usually i always have a ton of friends to where if i am teased or bullied its just by another person that wants to be in the group or wants to be better than my circle of friends and jealous
• Australia
11 Sep 09
I can't say I have. The few who have tried it found out the hard way not to. In fact, I get so het up about that, that from early school days I used to bully the bullies - that is, if a bully operated in my presence I'd stand over him, and since I was tall and well built for my age (I stopped growing at 14 and they all caught up lol), my intervention was always effective. I remember one time vividly. We were living briefly in London while my father pursued his music studies at Cambridge. A couple of African negro children, brothers, started mid-term, when their father was sent to England with his country's embassy. They had to face not just the normal problem half-term kids face, but the novelty of being black in an all-white school, as well as all the conscious and unconscious racism of the 1950s. They were chased mercilessly around the schoolyard during all breaks, and it wasn't till the third day that I saw the fear and desperation in their faces. It sent me right off, and I decked three kids, breaking one's arm, in my indignation. I was 7, I think. I got sent home, parents called in, but when I told the head why I had done it, he had the decency to put an instant stop to the bullying. The two boys were withdrawn from the school a few days later. So, I sympathise with all victims of bullying. Lash
@Realsmack (155)
• United States
7 Sep 09
Yeah I have been bullied. I was bullied all through out elementary and Jr. High. It was crazy but once I got into Highschool it was all over. I wasn't taken any of that crap. I think bulling is a part of life. Every child experiences in some way or another. I read your comment out loud and my 5 year old scream, "I've been bullied before!" LOL I was shocked.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Sep 09
You know what really bothers me? When I was getting myself ready (ha ha) to send my daughter to kindergarten this year, so many people I talked to were saying the same things I was - that they were worried that other kids would BULLY their child. SO. If all of us are worried that OUR kids will get bullied, where are the kids who are bullying everybody? LOL! I also don't know how the parents of kids who bully can put up with it. If my daughter hurts somebody, she HAS to say she's sorry. I ask her if mommy hits her friends or yells at them or takes their purse or screams that I don't want to play with them or stand next to them and she says no. LOL! Shame on the people who let their kids do things like that to other kids without consequences.