Does your parents gives you freedom to choose your career?

Philippines
September 7, 2009 11:45pm CST
I have a friend who's got a talent in painting. But unfortunately her parents wants her to become a lawyer. So she have no choice but to walked the path that her parents wants her to take. Personally I have also experienced the same thing, that's why I doubt the thought that parents knows best. Anyways that is life! How about you, does your parents support your dreams or simply didn't care?
22 responses
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
my parents support my career decisions. they never forced me into doing something i don't want to do. they just give advices and opinions so that i'll be on the right path. :)
• China
8 Sep 09
When I was young,my parents never forced me into doing something I don't like to .But later,they changed.I want to be a chemist,they want me to be a doctor.we argued with each other several times.luckily,they supported my decision at last.Now I enjoy doing my job,it's good!
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
It's good to know that your parents did respect, understand and support your decisions. You're lucky to have them. Because I've known few people who live a miserable life, because they live on their parents dreams and expectations. That was real tough. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@Dewfunk (88)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 09
Hmm My parents are kind of so-so, they would still like me to do their choice of jobs and everything, however I always try to stood out for my opinion, I have a dream to make my living as a musician or a writer, at the moment my chance to do music is still not big but I am already working as a writer these days. However they still sometimes asked me to take this job and that, does they care I don't really now, as it seems they only want to make them look proud infront of their relatives and friends... that's why they always told me to take those mainstream jobs..
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
You're still lucky to have them, since you've opportunity to do want you want in life. It's natural most parents do really care what their relatives and friends said about their children. Most of them want to shoot a line of their children success and accomplishment. It only makes their children work harder to achieved their dreams so their parents would be really proud of them. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@angelajoy (1838)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
When I went to college I chose my own course. My parents were just there to advise me but never to force me into anything. They've been good to me, and whatever I have or do not have now are purely because of my own doing. Not everything in my life is perfect, but at least I have freedom.
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Yeah, the best thing is you have freedom. You know It doesn't really matter how many times we failed it making decisions as long as it is ours. So in the end no one would be left to blame than ourselves. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
hello there! i belong to a somehow traditional family where parents choose what's "best" for their children, and being an obedient child i agree with their choice for me then but sad to know, what's their best was not really good for me. wayback in college, they wanted me to take up nursing course when it should have been journalism i wanted...i take heed of their choice and took up nursing for only i semester, why? every weekend i got sick and landed at the hospital...
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Oh, that's too bad for you. But definitely your parents did learned,am I right? It's good they saw the reasons why you can't pursue the nursing course. So no more waste time you'd spend doing things that you don't like. Still lucky huh! Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@russso (1699)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
They did let me get the course that I wanted when I was in college, but when I was already working - I would always hear complaints from them ... and that really isn't supporting me with the decision to choose the career that I want.
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Well it only shows that they don't really like the path that you choose. But the good side of it is they let you do what you really want. Than totally preventing you to do so. Well anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I am an engineer, but I really did not like the idea that much. My mother wants me to be a lawyer, but I want to be a writer. So to make it fair, I took a course that we both don't like. During my college days, I thought it will be just be fine since I am beginning to enjoy it. But after working for more than 15 years being an engineer, I felt I was not really happy which is why I am now into professional blogging. Now, my mother is somehow glad if she reads my blog posts especially if I talk about parenting and marriage. Thanks!
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
It must be hard for you take the course on the first place. But the good thing is you'd able to decide to follow your hearts desire and somehow prove to your mom that you're right, since she love reading your works. Good luck on your career and have a great day!
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
8 Sep 09
My parents have always supported my career and financial deecisions. If I told them that I wanted to try something new but was afraid that I may fail, they would encourage me to try, if I told them that I really didn't like a specific career opportunity, they would encourage me to find one I did like. As a result, I have grown with the courage and ability to work for myself and slowly build my business. It is not quite where I want it to be yet, but it is headed in the right direction. My parents simply want me to be happy and for my children and I to be taken good care of by my husband. They encourage me to follow my dreams.
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Well you're one of the luckiest person here on earth. You've got a parents who loves you unconditionally. And in return you must not forget to take good care of your parents when they get older. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@EliteUser (3966)
• Australia
20 Sep 09
Hey, Yea actually my parents let me choose whatever I would want to be. The only thing they definitely want me to do though, is to have a good income earning job. Other than that, they let me choose the job I want. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@daliaj (5683)
• India
9 Sep 09
My parents always gave me freedom to choose my career. They helped me to go for the course whcih I want to go and choose my favorite subject. Then never forced me when it came to shifting of jobs or moving to another city regarding shifting of jobs. They always gave me their comments and suggestions from their knowledge and experience, but the final decision was always mine.
@mymelodake (1339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
My parents gave us the freedom to choose what career path to take, but they also made sure they had their input and their advice. I'm blessed to have their support, even when I decided to quit my job at the bank, they supported me and let me work in our family business.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
8 Sep 09
My parents always just wanted the best for me, so whatever makes me happy. lol I'd probably die if my parents chose my career for me because it's definitely NOT what I wanted to do. My mom always wanted me to get into something big and fancy. I want to be a correctional worker, though. My parents don't really care though apart from wanting the best for me. I don't even really talk to them too much anymore. lol
@dreamr802 (986)
• United States
8 Sep 09
My parents are good about letting us kids choose what we want to do with our lives. I don't think that it's fair that your friend can't do what she wants to do and has to do what her parents say. If my parents were trying to force me into a career I don't want, I would rebel and still do what I want as far as a career...because if it's forced, I won't love what I am doing, and I think everyone should love what they are doing if it's possible.
@gelibean (159)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Hi careguarden I guess in this regard I'm pretty lucky because mu parents have supported any decision I have made as far as my career and life's dream goes. When I was in highschool I wanted to be a teacher and they were okay with that. Then when I got close to graduating I decided I wanted be a doctor and they supported this. I am currently on my way to medical school and my parents are like my cheerleaders helping me to accomplish my goal.
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I'm lucky that my parents gave me freedom to choose my career, they have always been very supportive with me. They believe that if they choose which career I'll take, I won't be happy with it because that's not what I want to do with my life. ^_^
@DCLehnsherr (1041)
8 Sep 09
Hi careguardian, My parents have been fantastic in letting me do whatever I wanted. I had a childhood interest in archaeology and so they let me pursue that. I did, and have since learnt that I don't actually like archaeology and probably shouldn't have followed a childhood obsession, but oh well. Sometimes I have wished that they would give me some better guidance about what I should have done, but I don't think it would have changed much. All the best, Dranz
@croamer (165)
• Taiwan
8 Sep 09
hey, firstly, whatever the decision parents made the only intention is to make their children have a bright future, personally, my parents want me to be a teacher when I was in high school, however after I graduated from university, they give me the full freedom to let myself choose the career.
@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
8 Sep 09
When i was younger my parents supported any thing that i wanted to do, they also did with my brothers and sister. We all chose what we wanted to do. When my children were young they chose the careers that they wanted to go into, and we supported them all the way.
@TheAdvocate (2393)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I am lucky in that respect because my mother has found the perfect balance between being supportive and putting me in the right path. My mother insisted that I get a proper business degree first and then after that she said, I can choose whatever path I want. I followed her and in the process I found out that I wanted to become a lawyer. My business degree came in handy when I joined the corporate world. When I had the earning capacity, my mother encouraged me to follow my heart in my career. If she did not put her foot down, I do not know what I would have become because as far as I can tell, I have no spectacular talent in anything. Our parents usually know best, but if your friend's talent in painting is not of the same caliber as say Michaelangelo, then I think her parents were right in making sure that she will be comfortable once they are gone. I think her parents mean well, and she can always indulge in her passion for painting after she becomes a lawyer.
• United States
8 Sep 09
My parents never really 'got' what I wanted to do, which was act. But I think that's pretty common for actors, right?! Notoriously insecure. They didn't stop me - they encouraged me to do something 'sensible' instead of my drama training but, um, I didn't....lol They didn't oppose me as such, more that they didn't take it seriously.
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
My parents will let me take up anything I want, as long as it's something plausible. For example, they'll let me become a doctor, but they won't let me become an artist. This is because although I like art, I'm not good at it. And they won't let me become a pop star because they don't believe in it. I think parents know a little bit since they're experienced, but experience is the best teacher so you should go and learn your lessons yourself!