Does your partner...
By ladyhope
@ladyhope (377)
Canada
September 8, 2009 7:44am CST
Hi all,
Yesterday was my mom's birthday and she had everyone over to her house for a barbecue. My boyfriend didn't come even though I wanted to. He comes from a pretty crappy family background and never has any family events to go to. I understand that these gatherings make him uncomfortable, but we have been dating for almost 3 years so I think he should join my family events at least sometimes.
What do you think about this? Does your significant other join you at family gatherings? How long have you been going out?
Thanks!
3 responses
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 09
Yes it would be difficult to have a boyfriend whose views of family is different from yours. You may value family ties but he doesn't because of his family background. If you value your relationship with your boyfriend I think you should just give him time to warm up to the idea that not all families are like his. He may have gotten so used to his family not caring that it'll be culturally shocking for him when other families are lovey dovey.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
8 Sep 09
I agree that he could have joined the gather and it would have made you happier. But, thinking from his point of view, he may feel uncomfortable to join such gatherings. He also doesn't like to face personal questions regarding his family. So, he avoided the situation by not coming to the gathering. It is your job to convince your boyfriend regarding the importance of the gathering and give him all support that nobody will ask him a question which he will find uncomforable to answer. All the best! Hope you got the point.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
9 Sep 09
Hello Ladyhope
I have been dating with my boyfriend for two years now and we participate in each others family gatherings.Yes your partner need to come out of his comfort zone and he should participate in atlist some of events with you.
