What is your Reasons why you got Married?
By neededhope
@neededhope (1085)
United States
September 8, 2009 6:05pm CST
I was wondering why people out there mostly get married. I mean is it for Love, security? Or is it arranged?
I think I got married for Love Security and because most of my friends were getting married. I know there silly reasons right? I mean I do love him and I have loved him. And he lets me stay at home and not have to work.. So he takes care of me. We have been married for 5 years.
What are your reasons? And please share how long you've been married?
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
8 Sep 09
I had gotten married when I was 18 years old.
I married him because I thought I was in love.
I believed I had found a real man. I was ready to do anything for him.
Unfortunately I woke up after 3 years and wanted to leave.
He said if I were to leave he would make sure I lose my two children.
So I stayed another 6 years.
But, I do think everything has a reason, all lessons of life.
I never got married again after that.
Sounds to me like you found a good man. I am happy for you. 
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
8 Sep 09
That would make me stay with him longer too. Because of kids to make sure I could take them with me.
I do have a good man but sometimes like most men he doesn't listen. But we are working on it.
And yes I do agree with you everything does happen for a reason. And for the things that have happen in are lives have made us the way we are.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
8 Sep 09
He would not be a real man if he was good at listening. 
But, you know what that is?
He is working, when he comes home he wants to relax.
You (like me) have been at home, and are happy he is back.
You have energy and want to talk.
Him on the other hand, just wants to relax and have a nice dinner.
I must admit, when I was working so much, I did not always listen to people around me either. I would say yes, just to satisfy them. But, I was so tired I could not understand the whole conversation. hahaha!
So, don't be too hard on him.
Maybe good for you to get out of the house more, meet other women. That helps too. Maybe visit family and friends.
Take care.
But, you know what that is?
He is working, when he comes home he wants to relax.
You (like me) have been at home, and are happy he is back.
You have energy and want to talk.
Him on the other hand, just wants to relax and have a nice dinner.
I must admit, when I was working so much, I did not always listen to people around me either. I would say yes, just to satisfy them. But, I was so tired I could not understand the whole conversation. hahaha!
So, don't be too hard on him.
Maybe good for you to get out of the house more, meet other women. That helps too. Maybe visit family and friends.
Take care.@neededhope (1085)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I would totally visit my family and friends. But the problem with that they all live in Ny and we moved to SC and I'm not a great person to meet new people. I have a total of 2 friends down here and I've leaved here for 3 years.
And yes I can see your point with him and giving him his time and a break. I'll try to remind myself that when he gets home. Thank you for you insight.
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@doinkyroinky (162)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Love should only be the reason why one has to marry, any other reasons would seem superficial. Even in the seminar before you get married, it is being lectured that the only right reason a couple should marry is if they love each other. I do not condemn those who do because of security and financial support they would get but still i believed that a marriage is forever and it is very hard to sustain one without love involved.
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I couldn't agree with you more. But if Love is the only thing that you have. And you have nothing else in common? How can you keep a loving and happy relationship? Are there boundaires of why you would get married even though you are in love?
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
I'm having trouble getting my head around the concept of love without things in common. Lust and desire, yes, they don't need anything else in common to exist but themselves, but they burn themselves out because there is no other "fuel" coming in. For me, lasting stuff has to mean other commonalities, because without them it is hard to be friends, and being friends is crucial, in my mind. Lust exists, of course, in both kinds of relationship, and even when there is love the lust eventually burns away. Without the commonalities it is very hard, then, to keep it going. And I say this from the point of view of one who married (officially or de facto) several times for lust alone and paid the price.
Lash
