What will you do if your lover or some one request you to return his letters?

@sblossom (2169)
September 9, 2009 11:01am CST
This topic was made by accident. I just replied a topic about relationship. The topic reminded me of a past experience. One man who was sitting behind me in a business meeting and suddetly falled in love with me. Then he started to send me letters.(Because we worked in same industry so he can get my mailing address easily). After I received his letters I replied him and told him I don't want to develop the relationship. Later my company and his company merged then we became colegues. He started to write again when he knew i still have no boyfriend. I went out with him one time and later I refused to go on. Then I got his letter in which he requested me to return the letters I received from him. I was shocked to read his last letter and I told him I would not return them but I promise I would not let any one read them. that's the end. my question is What will you do if your lover or some one request you to return his letters or something else? thank you very much.
4 responses
@ds6413 (2074)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hello, those letters belong to you.I don't know what the big deal is with him wanting you to return the letters.I don't think the one I got the most letters from would want me to return the letters he wrote, and there is NO WAY I would return them to my former fiance.They are priceless to me.I have a feeling he destroyed all the letter I had sent him though
@sblossom (2169)
10 Sep 09
Thanks for your support. I think he destroyed the letters you sent him maybe it's kind of protection to you. best regards and happy mylotting.
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Sep 09
I would return them to him -- after I photocopied or scanned them on to the computer. Unless I really didn't want to read them again or keep them for sentimental reasons, then I would just give them back without a second thought. If I really did want to keep them but he wanted them back I would keep the copies and let him have the originals. That way he would think they mean nothing to me and hopefully leave me alone but I would still have them if I ever needed/wanted them.
@sblossom (2169)
9 Sep 09
I wish I knew you before and got your advice at the time. I think I was naive at the moment and I was not good to deal with these kinds of things. At the time I thought if i gave him back it will hurt him more. Now maybe I should think it twice. thanks and have a good day.
• United States
9 Sep 09
Hi sblossom, I agree with you, the letters are yours to do whatever you please with them. I am sure this man was just upset because you refused to further the relationship and probably felt embarrassed over what he shared with you in those letters. I say just try to put it all behind you and go on with your life. He will soon get over the fact that he was rejected by you. Good luck to you.
@sblossom (2169)
9 Sep 09
Thanks irisisflower, it happened many years ago. We both married now. I remembered it by accident. Best wishes to you too.
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
Those letters must be well written and romantic because he wanted to take them back. I would probably return them, if asked.