Will You Allow Your Spouse To Work Overseas?

Philippines
September 12, 2009 7:51am CST
Recession is really observe in every corner. Many companies are already closing. Many individuals are loosing their job. This is just a situational question. But I'm not hoping or expecting this to happen. If in case, you or your spouse lose the job in your country, will you allow him or her to work overseas? Or advice him/ her stay in the country and look another job? In my opinion, here in our country, there are less opportunities. If in case this will happen,I 'm sure my partner will allow or I will allow her to work overseas for our own benefits. I know it is quiet sad but this is the only way on how we can survive. What about you? What is your opinion about this?
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18 responses
@piya84 (2589)
• India
12 Sep 09
hiii there Yes i wont mind if my partner decides to got to foreign land to find a job.If he is doing it for my kids and family's better future then why shall i mind.Its shows how much he loves me,my kids.Yes i wont mind migration.
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
"Yes i wont mind if my partner decides to got to foreign land to find a job.If he is doing it for my kids and family's better future then why shall i mind."In this statement, i can see and feel that you are a supportive wife. I know its quiet hard if in case he will be leaving but that is the only for us to survive from recession.
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• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Hello kababayan. For me, though it's quiet difficult but I would allow especially if you have children. I know that it is risky in such a way that relationship might be in danger. But then, the only thing you can do is to pray. What important is initiatives to survive is used.
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
You are right, though its risky we have to do it for us to survive. Less opportunities here in our country. If we are going to stay here for long, i'm sure will die. Most of our kababayans went out of the country and try their luck in other countries. Most of them became lucky and successful on what they did. thanks for sharing and welcome to mylot community.
• Melbourne, Australia
12 Sep 09
If my husband had a job, then while I would not like it, he would be allowed to do what HE want's. It's not my choice. Allowing someone to do something is kinda possesive. Didn't think permission was needed nowdays.
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
Hello Rberon1985, This is a nice discussion! If this happen to my hubs, I think I will let him go for it if it is a good offer. But this is of course if he has lose his job . If he have a stable job and I don't agree he goes for a better offer abroad. I will sure miss him if he go to work overseas. But if I have a better offer and need to work abroad, I think I will not go for it. I need to take care my 2 kids, I don't think I can leave them alone.
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
Well, if there are good jobs overseas, why not. Pay must be good. Also perks must be competitive. He can go first and then the family will follow.The company that gave him the job must be a well-known multinational or one of the top companies in the land. If they pay in USD, so much the better.
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Hmm. I have talked about this with my boyfriend, whom I'm planning to marry.. we were talking if we would work abroad while the other one stays here in our country.. we both agreed that we don't want to do that, and if we ever have the opportunity to go abroad, we would both go, even if only one of us will have a job. lol. anyway, i think it's better that we're together and we're working hard together, than one is away in another country but we have the financial freedom.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
Hi Rberon, If given a chance that there is better job offered in overseas,for sure , I will support my spouse to go overseas to work. At least, it is a better environment for him and he is earning more than current job. Sometimes being a person, we can't be so selfish. We have to see the pros and cons that happened in our life. Good job opportunities never comes twice, so whenever there is a good job offered either for myself or my spouse, we have to support them and give the best for them. Overall, we will have a better life with a good income.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
hello rberon1985, if there is no other way, then maybe yes. working abroad away from your family is really hard for it requires a lot of sacrifices. but to have a better future why not.
• China
13 Sep 09
If we can't survive,i will do the same decision with you.
@malpoa (1218)
• India
13 Sep 09
I would let my husband work abroad only on one condition, ie to take me along hi hi. there is no life when you and your partner live miles apart and meet once or twice a year for a fortnight!!! If he doesnt get that option cleared by the company he is going to work for or it isntpossible with only ne person's salary, I will either try a job there or ask him to abort all plans about going to work abroad and lokk for a job here.
@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
hi rberon, my boyfriend is a seaman, and i know in the future he will leave me to look for money and to save for our future, we have been for 5 years and 2 months already and it seems i will be missing his presence if he will go away.. but of course i can't stop him, it's also for our own good and i need to understand him and support him always.. janebeth..
@snowy22315 (100128)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I think that the decision about whether or not one person will work overseas should be a mutual one. That is something I have considered also. I would ideally like to be able to take my partner with me if I choose to do that. Actually, when I choose to do that. I wonder if any of those programs would allow you to take a spouse.
@happydan (12)
• China
12 Sep 09
Hi. I think this is the question:which are you prefer.love or job? I prefer job.Because we have to work for life,if there is an oppprtunity,why don't I grasp it?We have to build us a home by the money we earned.When the hardest time passed,nothing will be a question.
• India
12 Sep 09
My Wife Will Surely Agree .. - A Nice Job Is All A Man Needs ..
Recession Or No Recession Is Not the Point .. If The Invitation To Work Abroad Is By A Reputed Company Having An Office In India Surely Why Not .. I Would Jump At Such An Opportunity .. I Don't think My Wife Would Have Second Thoughts .. Nice To See You On Here rberon ..
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Working abroad has really an advantage for the family because there will be an increase of cash flow for the family. I will allow my husband to go abroad if his suppose salary will be enough to cover the cost of our separation.
@aseretdd (13732)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
I already had my own experience working abroad... but since i wanted to start a family... i decided not to go back... and now my husband is the one working abroad... we really didn't have any choice... because he cannot find a job here in our country that could support a family... so when the opportunity came... he immediately grabbed it... Being away from the family is the sacrifice if he wants to provide for us...
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
This would depend on how many kids we would have and if we are both bread winners for both our families. But I would not want my spouse to work overseas. I don't want my children to grow up with absentee parents. Money is not everything. I grew up with very little money and was still able to live a normal life. Before I quit my job a few months ago, I was severely depressed. I am single and have no one to depend on for my financial or personal needs. But as the days went by, I realized that I could live without my high paying, high stress job. Sure the money allowed me to buy luxuries. Luxuries that certainly I cannot afford right now. But I am okay. There are still jobs here in the Philippines in spite of the recession. That is if you are not choosy over what kind of job you would like to get. I say this out of experience. My mother used to be ashamed that I worked for a fast food chain while my brother worked in a bank. But work is work. As they say the grass always looks greener on the other side. But most of the time when you get there you will realize that it is the same kind of grass. Good day to you. =)
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
why not, if he thinks that's the best way he can do then i will support him for what he wanted to do. Nowadays people went out the country because they believe their lives will be change when they work abroad.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
we are living in the same country my friend and i know what you mean about our everyday dealings with life. we have many hard times and yet being on top or earning a bigger salary is really hard to find. thatis why many of our fellow Filipinos decided to live and most specially work abroad though how hard that may be. as long as we can give our family a good and not very hard life. that is our main goal. that is why i would agree to that part where my partner would be working abroad. and i know he would accept and consider me too if i would like it. jhelai