autism treatment

@yecal10 (143)
United States
September 12, 2009 4:35pm CST
What helps autistic children the most? My child is fifteen and he has improved a lot. I have tried many therapies (ABA, speech, diet, occupational, vitamin, art, music) and they all work to a degree but I still feel like something is missing. Can anyone provide their opinion about this from their own life experience or the experience of their child or grandchild? As always, I am greatful for guidance and respectful of any and all opinions.
3 responses
@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
Where did you enroll your child? I have a friend who have the same issue with you. he keeps on asking me as to where he can send his little boy.
@yecal10 (143)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Public schools have been woefully inadequate. My child is home- schooled. Thank you for asking.
@JDBentz (37)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Most people with autism have a particular focus of some kind, which they identify with on some level unknown to most people. If your child is among those who has a fairly high-functioning form of autism, than I believe he is more likely to be able to eventually live a fairly normal life. There will always be barriers, especially social ones, for the autistic mind, but those can be overcome through a number of things. I am 23, and I have a form of autism called Asperger's Syndrome. While different in certain aspects compared to autism, A.S. does have that 'focus' I wrote of above. For me, the focus was the written word and film (movies). I focused all my attentions throughout the majority of my school years on reading and writing, on watching all kinds of tv shows and movies. Through these elements, I learned to adapt to life outside my own personal bubble. I was never one those people who go out and join every sports team in a school, but I was generally respected by most of my peers. The few who didn't quickly found that my wit was more than a match for their insults. I learned many nuances of human behavior through the written word and the contents of films, including what gestures may go with what kind of sentences, how to tell what kind of person is speaking to you by how they hold themselves. For your son, I can't say what kind of therapy may be of help, though sometimes an autistic person will demonstrate through their chosen focus how they feel. if they are excellent musicians and are feeling depressed, they might play some kind of haunting melody. If they are incredible artists and feel incredibly happy, they will paint something that expresses that happiness, perhaps a painting of their family and friends. For me, I write when I am feeling an emotion that I cannot put into verbal communication. The best kind of help a parent can give their child, whether they have autism or not, is the patient guidance which is filled with love. You may get frustrated in some way or another, but I can tell you that you should never let that show around your child. They might not be able to verablize it, but a dark look or an unkind word said within their hearing can be just as detrimental to their long-term health, mental and physical, as any physical blow that a school bully might bestow would. Work with your child at their pace. Do not try to force a child's development beyond what they are currently able to process. By doing so, you could cause a detrimental affect. Again, this is more likely going to be an internal action rather than an outward one. I hope I have not caused you any worry. I just know intimately how damaging certain actions can be for a person with any form of autism. If an autistic person is aware enough, they will eventually work through every challenge that has been set against them. Today, most people I meet on the street are surprised to hear I have a form of autism. Each time, I ask them why. And each time, I get this answer: "You act so normal." Yet when I was a child, I was as autistic as a person could be while still being able to function in a public school setting, especially in a district unwilling to work with anyone who was not affected by down syndrome or something else they saw as much more serious than autism. I'm not downplaying the plight of those people, but it tends to irk one when they're seen as less needful of help because they look or act normal in comparison. I seem to be ranting now, so I'm going to cut this off right here. Whatever decisions you make in the future, I hope you will keep my words in mind.
@yecal10 (143)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Thank you for your detailed response. I think you are saying to follow his interests and have faith in his unique developmental process. Your comments have given me great hope.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I think that is a hard call because there are so many different levels of how they develop. For instance, i have a boy and a girl with autism, but they are like night and day. I think for the most part giving the tools they need to keep that constant communication. Threw pictures they can show you or through speach prompting. I think this is hard to answer for me because it really depends on where your child is at and what they have accomplished already.