Do beautiful people intimidate you?
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
September 13, 2009 12:06am CST
Do you avoid approaching or talking to certain people because they are attractive or beautiful? Why does that intimidate people? I'm just asking... I don't understand. I've even had people say that *I* intimidate them. Why? I'm like 5'1... I'm not a scary individual. I'm outspoken and you'll know right away if I like you or not but why is that intimidating?
Also, why do so many people assume that someone attractive is stuck up? Granted some are, but it's not a given. Couldn't you just give the person the benefit of the doubt until you at least TALK to them? And I mean more than just a few exchanged words. It hurts to have someone write you off to a perceived flaw instead of actually giving you a chance first.
Have you intimidated anybody? Spill it. 
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12 responses
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
i dont think that attractive people are stuck-up, and i am not intimidated by them.. but if i do see one at a party, i dont normally go up to talk to them or anything..
me - intimidating? i dont think so, i dont feel like i am.. but i have been told that i am.. 
i guess having a 'high level' of self confidence, and being honest + straightforward can be intimidating to some people, huh?..
i guess having a 'high level' of self confidence, and being honest + straightforward can be intimidating to some people, huh?..2 people like this
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
16 Sep 09
That could be it, definitely. Sad that qualities which are supposed to be good intimidate people, because that means those qualities must be rare. If people were comfortable, it would mean that everybody was confident and straightforward, and you know as well as I do that everybody is not.
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
I have intimidated some people.. It was weird. I didn't understand why. Maybe you're intimidating because of the aura you project. Maybe you have this sort of aura that makes people think you're someone powerful, etc.
Beautiful people aren't intimidating unless it posts danger to my relationship or work or whatever. Haha.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
16 Sep 09
LOL! Unless it poses danger to your relationship or work or whatever.. hehe.
I see what you mean, maybe it's my aura. Is it confidence that intimidates people? I am what I am, I mean *I* think pretty highly of myself but I figure most people who are happy most of the time do. What else are we supposed to think?
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
13 Sep 09
THey don't intimidate me. I just don't care for most because many that I have known know that they are "beautiful" and if you are not "beautiful" like them you are as good as a beggar begging for change especially in the dating aspect.
The only times I've intimidated anyone was when I was a playground bully, I used to beat up the troublemakers that were beating up on the younger kids. Eventually it turned into a game of girls vs the boys.
@UK_Shree (3603)
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13 Sep 09
I cannot say for sure if I have intimidated people in the past. But I do understand what you are saying. I guess some people just feel in awe of beautiful people. I do think you are right, it is not fair to judge someone based on what they look like. You can only know what someone is like by speaking to them. And personality and looks are two different things. There are nice or not so nice people that are good looking or not so good-looking i.e. the two things are unrelated.
@Xzcess (174)
• India
14 Sep 09
I do not think beautiful people are intimidating. Some however do have their guards up when yu approach them which is understandable, but of course it is not as bad as people make it sounds like, and of course calling that 'stuck up' would be a mistake. I agree with you, when perceived flaws or assumed character defects start making others see you differently then it does tends to hurt a bit.
Me, I have been told I am intimidating yes .
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
13 Sep 09
I generally feel quite intimidated by very beautiful women! I know this sounds a little absurd but I just cannot help it. I tend to think to myself that they are so attractive so surely they must be attached to someone. I think that my thinking's all wrong in relation to this but I think that beautiful people are considered to be intimidating, I cannot explain why! Andrew
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Heck no! You should always approach a beautiful woman, even if they're annoyed by your flirtation. You might be lucky. She might have low self esteem and willing to date a homely guy. She could also be one of those hot women that think looks really don't matter. Those women rule! Persistence is key. However, you must know when to stop and look for new prey. Don't worry about rejection. Beautiful people get rejected everyday. Its fun talking to beautiful women. I don't understand why men would be intimidated by them.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
13 Sep 09
No, why should I they are just people. Fear of rejection is the reason for intimidation upon approaching those people. People aren't used to or comfortable with that kind of attitude in general. Stereotyping. You could, but then you would have to step out of your comfort zone and grow. I am unaware as to whether or not I have intimidated people, I would guess that I have, I am fairly forward and uncaring of their opinion of me.
What other people think of me is none of my business.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I'm not intimidated by people's appearances. To me, that just shows insecurity with myself and how I look. If someone happens to be blessed with good looks, then more power to them. They still put their pants on the same way I do, so what's there to be intimidated over?
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
No, I don't avoid talking to certain individual just because he/she is attractive or whatever. I may avoid them sometimes if I have no interest to talk to them. Personally, I am not so unfortunate looking either so I don't need to be intimidated by their look.
I think some people like to judge and tend to make unfair judgement. I could care less about people like this. Let them say what they want, we know they're not right and time will prove that.
@Tantrums (945)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Not really intimidated, but "intimidated-awed" at the same time.
I remember one time during a project bidding, one lady stood up, and man that was awesome (it's true that time slows down) she smoothed her hair and walked towards me and whispered 'quit bidding'... I didn't know what happened next... They got the project.
