September 13, 2009 2:32pm CST
i found out my eldest now 15 had been smoking just before christmas, spoke to him about the cons to this habit and he promised me no more. Couple of months later he was caught smoking agin, this time i punished him-grounded him removed privilages. Promised faithfully that he would stop, again i trusted him, again he was caught out! he says its only a few here and there but its the lies on top of the smoking, feel so frustrated with him, what else can i do???
• United States
13 Sep 09
I was a teenage smoker. I began very young and smoked up until a couple of years ago. I honestly only smoked maybe 1 or 2 a day not that it's a good thing. My parents only caught me once I think because I got caught with them at school. Funny thing is they werent even mine they were just a friends I was holding. My dad freaked out on me and I promised I'd stop just as your son did but I honestly just got smarter about how I did it. I did this with a lot of things (not that I was anywhere near a wild child or anything) With smoking even with younger people no matter how much you ground, restrict, or punish them once they've began it has to be their choice to stop. I know it's horrible but it's the truth. The best thing you can do is give him all the information on smoking you can and let him know you are there for him and you will help him stop but only if he really does want to stop. It's too late to force it out of him. Just be honest and open, if he responds well it could really open up your relationship. Good luck
2 people like this
13 Sep 09
Think thats what stings, we do have a close relationship for mother and son, he's very open about other stuff. I know where your coming from, i smoked from 13, i never got caught thou, and when i was 16 and legal, i offered my mum one-she wasn't impressed. Just want whats best, want him to be healthy and worry that it will lead to worse,