When do you wear your bra?

United States
September 13, 2009 7:13pm CST
Of course out in public... but do you wear yours to bed? Wich personally drives me nuts, especially the underwire styles. Do you wear one even if you are at home all day with no where to go? I don't usually but I would feel embarassed if a neighbor ect would come to the door and I wasn't. A person can only cross their arms across their chest for so long How about you?
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@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I definitly don't wear my bra to bed, that would be very uncomfortable. I do wear my bra around the house though because I heard that not wearing one makes them sag quicker. My bra is comfortable enough at least.
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I think that sagging faster without a bra is an urban myth. Bras just help hold them up once they begin to sag. I wouldnt be uncomfortable all day with a bra based on hearing something like that. Also, if that the only reason you should ask your doctor if that is true, then you can make an informed decision.
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@jenlex79 (257)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Wow, I never heard of that. It does sound funny because we are all told that bras are for support, and if it is really the oposite then that is something I need to look into. I know we can't avoid what will happen in time, but its nice to slow the process in the meantime. lol.
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Ladyhope, I am on the same page as you. I didnt respond because I have not asked a doctor, so I figured I wouldnt say her doctor was wrong. I have always assumed a bra would not help reduce sagging, just make it less noticeable when a bra is on. I am sure you could ask this questions to many different doctors and get plenty of different responses. I assume the responses would also be different between a man and female doctor. I dont think there have been any long term studies on this topic, and until that happens, I think responses will be a best guess from that particular person.
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@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
The only time I ever wear a bra is if the shirt I am wearing needs one to look good. Otherwise, I won't wear one. I don't care if I am out in public or if I am home. After all, there is no law that says I should! When I do where one, it comes off the second I get home from work, and I would never where one to sleep as it just sounds painfully uncomfortable.
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• United States
14 Sep 09
I think it's just one of those unsaid rules that you have to wear one. Though I'm sure there are a few men who wouldn't object ;0)
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@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
Unsaid rule for who? Men who 'Like their women to look good?' lol. Just one more reason not to wear one, in my opinion.
@jess368 (3368)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Some companies have dress code policies that say women have to wear "proper" undergarments. I dont know that a woman looks "better" with a bra on. we are all natural beings...
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@ford_mts (232)
• India
14 Sep 09
What type of discussion is this? Is this a matter to discuss along with the boys.Might not be related to boys but such type of headline curious what the girls will reply on this because of the nature of boys attracted toward girls. It will be better if needed to talk on this or of such type of topics in secret with the girls not an open discussion. Thank you
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 09
what century are you living in,a bra is not something nasty or'vulgar or evil,its just a piece of clothing for a woman, 'and this discussion is perfectly all right to most of us here. Dont'be a prude here.boys now days know that women wear bras,so what?
• United States
17 Sep 09
H - Don't forget there are many an oggling men who swipes his wifes Victoria Secret catalogs amongst other things to catch a glimpse of a lovely woman in a sexy bra. They've even joked about it on the radio..... nothing to hide or be ashamed of... not usually anyway. The point is they aren't always as comfortable no matter the materials or fabric. And until you wear one you can't truly know how annoying they can get at times. Nor to be "required" to wear one from the time puberty onsets til you are elderly. I don't see many men excited to wear a jockstrap other than in circumstances that they need to.
@dragon54u (31644)
• United States
15 Sep 09
I always wear mine but not to bed. I don't want the ligaments and such to stretch out and make them even droopier.
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• United States
31 Dec 09
Ah I hear ya! But ya know the only people who have any kind of perk are usually as a result of plastic surgery or socks stuffed in their bra!
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I'm a little person so it doesn't matter much either way....depends on what I'm wearing. They don't bother me. If I'm home in sweats and t-shirts then...no I don't bother with one and it doesn't matter if someone comes over...it really doesn't.
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• United States
17 Sep 09
I suppose then you could say you were somewhat fortunate? Seeing people are so obcessed over their cup size... rather I think it's more so to impress men than anything in my opinion.
• United States
14 Sep 09
Well, since having children and getting older (gravity being very cruel to my girls), I wear a bra everywhere except to bed and swimming! LOL If I do not, I risk burning my nipples on the stove when I cook! I do not like having mini lap puppies sitting on my knees when I am relaxing on the couch! I do not like underwire bras. It would be wonderful if a bra was created like two hands holding up the boobies to give them true support! Nice post!
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@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi there! only wear bra when im out. not comfortable when sleeping or just at home. pretty hard to breathe for the milkballs. lol tnx!ΓΌ
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• United States
16 Sep 09
*LOL* I've never heard of that term "milkballs" I checked w/ hubby & being a man he said he's never heard of that one either.
• United States
14 Sep 09
I do not wear my bra to bed. It bugs me. I do wear my bra if I'm napping usually but I can usually stand an hour or so wearing it. However I don't wear it to bed during the night. I usually don't wear it around the house either. If I've been out all day I do wear it around the house until right before my shower or earlier, it just depends. However, after working 8 hours a day, not too long after I get home, the bra usually comes off.
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• United States
16 Sep 09
I can tolerate it while napping too. Only problem is I don't get to nap as I'd like to & the kids rarely ever nap at the same time.
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
14 Sep 09
if its just myself and the kids, i dont tend to get a whole lot of dressed.. or i change but only into more comfy clothes. like from my pj's into loose fitting shirt and shorts. if i get a visitor unexpectedly, and its winter of course.. i toss on a BIG heavy sweater lol. or i'll pick up a kid and hold her lol!
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• United States
14 Sep 09
Same here! That's the best thing about winter and even dropping the kids off a jacket or heavy sweater covers up most everything w/o being obvious.
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I don't even know where they are - I haven't worn them full time since the shoulder surgery in 2005, and haven't worn one at all since 2006, I think...
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• United States
14 Sep 09
I suppose if I had shoulder issues and surgery a bra would not be very comfortable or appealing. Atleast you are saving heaps of money on buying new ones.... so expensive for a good fitting one.
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@ally12 (1203)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
i really hate to wear bras especially on summer days.so if im just at home i dont wear bras at all.and sometimes when i go out i would wear clothes that wouldnt necessitate to wear something inside.of course i still have to be cautious not to cause any embarrassing situation.
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@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Yes I do wear one every time I am out in public. There may have been a few times when I didn't but I had a jacket over top. If I am not going out of the house at all then I may not wear one. Of course if a neighbor comes over then I'll quick run upstairs to put one on because like you said - a person can only cross their arms for so long. I never wear a bra to bed. What's the point? I want to be comfortable.
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@AmbiePam (51158)
• United States
17 Sep 09
No way would I wear my bra to bed. It's been shown not be healthy. Although I have no idea why, but you know all those experts who say, 'studies have shown...'. It's not that wearing it to bed is comfortable anyway. I wear a bra all day, until I come home and know I'm in for the entire night. I think back to the '70s when woman did the whole 'burn your bra' stand. I bet those women are pretty droopy now.
• United States
17 Sep 09
I would question why it would not be any healthier to wear to bed (not that it's comfortable) than it is to wear during the day?
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@AmbiePam (51158)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I know. Me too.
• United States
31 Dec 09
Maybe we'll have to burn a bra or two and test out how droopy we get. After all unless you have surgery there's no guarantee if they won't droop anyways.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Hi there. I am a guy and I just want to post a response regarding your discussion because I like your discussion. Personally I hate to see girls without their brassieres on. I don't think that it is normal. Maybe if you girls go to bed or stay at home all day I would understand that you are not wearing any underwear. I guess that it is rude to walk around the mall or elsewhere without an underwear. It can really draw attention. I suggest to all the ladies out there. Please do not forget to wear your brassieres to avoid any misleading communication between a guy and you. That is all.
@ladyhope (377)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
Hi there marctiu, I am very interested by what you said. I am a girl who does not wear a bra and I don't think this is a fair statement. In fact, until society requires you to wear an uncomfortable piece of material which restricts your natural movements, and may even come complete with pieces of metal wire to help "support" I am not even sure that you can have an opinion on this. After all, nobody makes men wear tighty-whities complete with metal latches when you have the choice of boxers!! What I would like to know is who I will be drawing attention to and what misleading communication means to you.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I am very sorry if I have offended you, but I am just not comfortable to watch ladies without bra. I know that it is uncomfortable to wear. You have a point there that nobody is forcing you to wear bra. It is just my opinion that I am giving and nothing else. Thank you for your opinion. It is a free country anyway. Right. You can't be arrested just for not wearing any bra.
• United States
16 Sep 09
One would hope we can't be arrested for not wearing a bra. But you never know how things go in other countries who have strict dress guidelines on Women.
@dbabcook (389)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I don't know about most women but I absolutely hate having to wear a bra - it seems so confining but I do wear one most generally all of the time except for bedtime. Sometimes I opt for a regular bra but most of the time I find that a sports bra is so much more comfortable. However many of my female friends complain when I wear the sports bras as they say it hides my curves. I guess I never understood what difference that makes as I am not out there to show my curves anyway.
@jess368 (3368)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I think that if you hate wearing one, then you shouldnt unless its a dress code at your work. There is no law saying you must wear a bra or you will be fined. Personally I typically dont mind wearing a bra. Most of mine are pretty comfortable. There have been times when my bra got to be too much and I take it off on my way home in the car. I guess my point is, if its that bad, dont wear one. Who cares what other people think??? You can take my advice or leave it, just wanted to put my thoughts out there. Thanks ~Jess
@tcup345 (360)
• United States
14 Sep 09
If there were a law forcing women to wear a bra, to work or away from home, I'll bet it'll be men that make the law.
@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Only out in public for sure; other than that, they come off. Funny thing, I feel pretty naked when I don't have one going out, so I make sure one is available. I have a daughter that wears hers a lot because she is large chested.
• United States
3 Oct 09
I felt weird about not wearing one til I got pregnant with my 2nd and I was already at home with my oldest. They were just tooo tender to be kept in captivity all day long. But on other days I couldn't stand not wearing one.
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
15 Sep 09
A lot of times, I forget my bra is even there. My boyfriend has to remind me to take it off before I go to sleep at night. But then again, a lot of times I just pass out on the couch so I definitely forget it then lol.
• United States
31 Dec 09
Sounds like you are too tired to worry about it. As soon as I'd lay down I'd feel that underwire poking and be reminded to remove it.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
14 Sep 09
HI Snuggle Absolutely not !! I do not wear a bra to bed its way to confining why should woman need to wear one to bed unless she is very very well endowed and a bra is needed that I can understand. And I refuse to wear underwire bras the are just to uncomfortable. Now....If I'm in my own house and noone's around except my husband and daughter I don't wear it then either in fact as soon as I come home from work the bra comes off and doesn't come back on till the next morning when I'm getting ready for work. I wear big tee shirts around the house most times and can get away with nothing showing and I ain't feelin embarrased about no neighbor coming to my door if you don't like it don't look this my MY house I live for comfort. LOL I don't wear them when I'm on my deck either but I gotta tell ya..... give me a about 10 or more years when mother nature and gravity take really start to take over ..........My story might change a bit. Then again maybe not I have seen those women older women out in public where mother nature and gravity had taken over quite some time ago.. and they still come out with them down to their stomachs(the lower part of their stomach) because they didn't or couldn't t put on a bra. Well more power to em! And they don't seem to mind one bit I guess at some point the gravity has won that battle and no bra will be able to really solve that situation anyway so I guess they just say to heck with it let em hang!
• United States
17 Sep 09
"let em hang" *ROTFLMAO* I've always known my mom to wear a bra and her's hang pretty low. So maybe it's genetics as well not just gravity and cup size? I guess I'll find out on my own when I get that far ;0)
@twowizdom (861)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi there 3SnuggleBunnies, well me, I always wear bra even when I sleep but I don't wear those underwire styles cause their not really comfortable.
• United States
16 Sep 09
It gets time to get used to them & if you find the right brand and style the underwires are not too bad.... until the wire snaps in time or gets beat up if you clean them in the washer.
@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I put mine on the moment I wake up, and don't take it off until I go to sleep, unless I shower shortly before bed, then I may leave it off from shower time until bed, depending on what I'm doing, if I were gonna be up for awhile longer I'd put it back on. I can't stand to go without my bra, I have a very large chest, and after 5 kids as you can imagine they pull south a little. It sort of drives me nuts. If I go without a bra too long I end up tucking my shirt under them to make it more comfortable.
• United States
14 Sep 09
I hear ya! I wish I could say my kids gave me even a cup more.... sux. Especially being a Plus sz and not being able to wear some of the tops cause they are ment for DD+